Common Reasons You're Not Reaching Climax

Lubricant makes everyone's hot bits more sensitive to erotic touch, so the philosophy wetter is better generally applies. Using a good lube enhances skin to skin or skin to toy contact, and decreases the amount of friction, giving a smooth glide. All women get wet at different rates and to different degrees, sometimes a little outside help is needed, and that's perfectly ok.

Water-based lube is safe to use with condoms and toys. It will not stain your sheets, and makes for easy cleanup.

Silicone is hypoallergenic and typically lasts longer, so it is great for shower sex, and safe to use with condoms.

Oil-based lube is great for those who don't want to reapply mid-session, it lasts the longest of all 3 base varieties.

To take things up a notch for even more stimulating sensations, consider switching to lube with warming or cooling effects, or enhanced clit arousal gel. For more info on choosing the perfect lube for your next steamy session, slip into this guide to lubricants.

Muscle tension is essential for an orgasm. The majority of women incorporate leg, abdominal, and butt tension when arousal is building, and flexing these muscles increases sensitivity and lubrication, which are building blocks to a woman's orgasm. By contracting your lower pelvic muscles (AKA Kegel muscles), you increase blood flow to the walls of your vagina and pelvic floor.

You can elongate and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles with backbends, squats, and stretches or work them out with Kegel Balls.

They come in a variety of options, and many include additional fun features like vibrations, various textures or materials, and even remote controls to add fun and diversity to your workout. Check out these tips for choosing the perfect Kegel exerciser.

It's a common misconception that harder and faster equals better. But... orgasms are directly connected to a women's nervous system and we are wired differently. A softer approach allows a gentle buildup that lends itself to mind-blowing results. Since your clit is so sensitive to physical touch it's fairly common for girls to find on-the-spot vibration irritating, numbing, or just too concentrated to bring the pleasure they are seeking.

Touchless clit stimulators are a great alternative. These little wonders work so well because they are not actually coming into contact with the clitoris. This revolutionary technology uses a combination of pulsations and soft air flow to create a gentle pulling sensation that imitates the amazing motions of your partner's tongue gently caressing your sensitive clitoris into the heights of ecstasy. They can also mimic the feeling of your lover's mouth on your nipples.

As if that weren't enough many have fun features like escalating intensity levels, bunny ears for added tingles or an attached vibrator to involve your G-spot in the action. They are perfect for solo play or in combination with a partner so you can perfectly design your climax.

When you've been with your partner for a while, it's pretty easy to get comfortable and find your sex life has become a boring routine. Say NO! to boring sex! Forget doing things in the same order and the same positions. You need a totally new erotic experience - so, how about play with remote-controlled vibrators? They are the perfect way to breathe some life back into your bedroom routine.

Remote-controlled sex toys aren't limited to bullet vibes, either. There is a vast assortment of remote-controlled G-spot vibes, wearable panty vibrators, Kegel toys, and butt plugs on the market, too. Some are designed to be used up close and personal, without needing to stop mid romp to change the intensity of the buzz, and some of these toys are designed to be used long-distance, so your partner can make you orgasm from across town or across the country.

Whether you find the surrender of control tantalizing or want to indulge in some secret sexy public play, a remote-controlled vibrator will give you or your partner the upper hand at rocking your world.

Oxytocin, commonly dubbed the "feel good" or "love" hormone, is your orgasm's partner in crime. If your body isn't producing enough of it, climaxing can be more difficult. Stress or anxiety can be a major hindrance in oxytocin production. It can also cause intrusive thoughts that may make it difficult to get into the headspace to reach climax. Whether your brain is preoccupied with all the aspects of your daily life, worried you'll fail at climaxing, or focused on the next big project at work all that mental trapeze work is a guaranteed way to orgasm-block yourself.

Light BDSM play can also create an intense pleasurable state of arousal by releasing high levels of the same endorphins. This creates a sexy state of relaxation and heightened senses. Fetish toys are a fantastic tool to use to achieve that rush. Whether your partner gives you goosebumps with a soft teaser, leaves their mark with a paddle or whip, or you are bound to the bed and covered in whipped cream the variety of tools and toys available is exhilarating. Ready to choose a pair of perfect cuffs and whips for a big portion of oxytocin? Hop on this guide to BDSM toys.