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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Feb. 03, 2012
Reverend Jen Miller, Patron Saint of the Uncool is an author, artist, elf, a former sex surrogate, former professional submissive and all around New York City celebrity. Here we untangle that history: nude house cleaning, tantric sex, upscale BDSM while taking a stroll through the troll museum — which the ordained-by-mail Reverend runs out of her Lower East Side apartment, of course.
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by Liz Langley,
Feb. 01, 2012
Restaurant owner tells State Senator Stacey Campfield where to stick it.
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Jan. 26, 2012
Any experience of submission or domination – if I were to play that way – are for pleasure’s sake, not to get the Church off, writes the author in an essay that challenges the power structure of sin, sex and spirituality.
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by Roland Hulme,
Jan. 23, 2012
In September 2010, pundit Dan Savage started the “It Gets Better” project — a series of videos aimed at informing lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender teenagers that despite the bullying and abuse they were victims of in school, “it gets better” as they grow up.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 19, 2012
American women might do well to take a cue from the French.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 17, 2012
Why do we distinguish by title between married and unmarried women, anyway?
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 05, 2012
Have you ever heard of “The Elephant Posture”?
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Dec. 29, 2011
We may abhor the streetwalker, glorify the escort, covet the centerfold, and vie for the attention of the sacred priestess, but the differences in the transactions seem like minutia lost in the facts; money is exchanged, sexual favors are granted.
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by Liz Langley,
Dec. 27, 2011
Put that in your pipe and smoke it, Etchemins High School.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Dec. 14, 2011
The new film Shame, starring an often-nude Michael Fassbinder as Brandon, with Carey Mulligan as his sister, Cissy, directed by Steve McQueen, is drawing lots of buzz and discussion about whether sex addiction actually exists.
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by Roland Hulme,
Dec. 12, 2011
The Internet is home to a lot of heated commentary — these discussions often get out of hand, resorting to name calling and accusations of hatred for marginalized groups. But having a different point of view shouldn’t automatically condemn someone to the Dark Side — it’s time we gave the language we use in such discussions a reality check.
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by Liz Langley,
Dec. 01, 2011
Great idea, and also probably a porn movie just waiting to happen. What would Freud do?
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by Liz Langley,
Nov. 28, 2011
Sam's Club washes its hands of "The Brick Testament."
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by Veronica Monet,
Nov. 22, 2011
People who are born biologically male may not have wombs in the medical sense of the word, but do they have wombs in any other sense? Most of us think the word “womb” applies only to that aspect of anatomy in which a baby grows, but some envision womb as a gender-neutral energetic reality.
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by Liz Langley,
Nov. 22, 2011
We totally approve of getting naked for peace, don't you?
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by Rayne Millaray,
Nov. 17, 2011
Apparently, they've been busy with other things up until now.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Nov. 15, 2011
It seems, to us, that comprehensive sex education pays off.
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by Liz Langley,
Nov. 11, 2011
Student, age 60, files complaint about class in human sexuality. What was she expecting?
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by Liz Langley,
Oct. 28, 2011
Look for yourself. What else could they be doing?
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by TinaV,
Oct. 21, 2011
Queer porn director, producer, and performer Courtney Trouble has spent the last ten years changing the face of the porn industry with her sites No Fauxxx and Queer Porn TV that feature performers of all ethnicities, body types, genders, and sexual orientations coming together in one hot, steamy sex pile. Trouble is breaking new ground by declaring today International Fisting Day.
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by Veronica Monet,
Oct. 18, 2011
Sexual trauma often occurs in response to incest, molestation and rape; but other events can incur sexual trauma as well. Both necessary and unnecessary medical procedures can lead to sexual dysfunction if they result in damage to the sex organs or pelvic trauma.
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by Roland Hulme,
Sep. 30, 2011
As a column, Devil’s Advocate is intended to push the envelop, challenge the way you think and spark debate — but not just for the sake of controversy.
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by Barak & Sheba,
Sep. 30, 2011
From an innocent tickle and slap on the ass to whips and chains or masters and slaves, the world of kink and BDSM is hardly the same for everybody involved. But what all kinky folk do have in common is the desire for what's at the heart of all kinky activity: creative sexual expression.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Sep. 28, 2011
The BBC is not amused, threatens suit against adult event.
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by Midori,
Sep. 26, 2011
Small acts of kindness toward a stranger can lead to an heroic effect in that person's life.
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by Veronica Monet,
Sep. 20, 2011
Womb isn't a particularly sexy word. A term for the uterus, womb also refers to a place where something is generated or an encompassing, protective space. Womb is where things originate and for the purposes of this column, womb is where orgasm and love can find their deepest expression.
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by Roland Hulme,
Sep. 19, 2011
Parents can be sexual, but there are limits.
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Sep. 15, 2011
Whether it’s coming from the mainstream or the gay community itself, that aphorism: “bisexuality is just a layover on the way to gay-town” has been slow to disappear. As more bi men come out — and more straight men experiment with kissing their friends, is male bi-phobia finally on the way out?
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by Nikol Hasler,
Sep. 09, 2011
Teaching kids about sex can be the toughest job for a parent. You want to make sure they have all the information they need, but sometimes it would just be awesome if someone else could deliver the message.
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by Liz Langley,
Aug. 29, 2011
We knew. You knew. Scientists lag behind?
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by Cherry Trifle,
Aug. 26, 2011
Gay resort chains are nothing new abroad, but what about closer to home? As the tendrils of marriage equality take root and the gay community continues its slow, measured march toward ubiquity, are LGBT hotels becoming just another no-big-deal niche in the travel industry?
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by Rayne Millaray,
Aug. 24, 2011
New Jersey school district says parents will be consulted in the future.
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by Midori,
Aug. 15, 2011
As kinky folks, most of us have heard of the risks associated with certain activities we like: rope cuts off circulation, bruises invite suspicion and speculation, infected wounds or bites just plain suck and breath play can flat out be deadly... but there's more.
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by Midori,
Aug. 01, 2011
Just thirty minutes after meeting this beautiful Swedish blonde, she had my pants off, my legs in the air and her hands on my pussy. The curtains were thrown open to the glorious spring day outside as two of my friends looks on, grinning from ear to ear. They pretty much expected this would happen as they drove me out to the country house of Ylva Maria Thompson.
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by Liz Langley,
Jul. 27, 2011
In Texas, authorities shut down the "outreach mission" of The Playground.
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Jul. 21, 2011
Sexual freedom is at the core of sacred sexuality. From the outside looking in, it might be confused with promiscuity, so understanding the difference is essential to our journey.
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by Kal Cobalt,
Jul. 20, 2011
What they don't tell you when you sign up to join a poly household...
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by Veronica Monet,
Jul. 19, 2011
Asking those we love for ANYTHING can be problematic. Our culture encourages us to be independent, self-made islands unto ourselves. We are each doing it our way and win or lose, we wear our failures and successes as testament to our personal worth or lack thereof.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Jul. 13, 2011
You know the phrase, “Taken out of context, I must seem so strange?” That goes double for pulling random bits of erotic conversation, texted or otherwise, and analyzing them as if they told a whole story. Without the motivation of the person sending and receiving them, you really don’t know anything.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jul. 07, 2011
To get funding under 2003 law, non-profits had to say, somewhere, that they oppose prostitution.
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by Liz Langley,
Jun. 27, 2011
New book tells the stories that used to go untold.
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by Roland Hulme,
Jun. 27, 2011
I’ve invested a lot of column inches fighting the perception that straight, white, cisgender men are “the enemy” — and that they don’t deserve the suspicion, negativity or outright hostility that often awaits them within the so-called “sex positive” online community.
The problem is: There are straight, white, cisgender men who certainly don’t do me any fucking favors.
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by Veronica Monet,
Jun. 21, 2011
I like to say ALL sex is sacred. Of course anytime you make sweeping generalizations like that, there is a lot of room to disagree. Given the right mood, I'd be the first to disagree with myself. Still, I want to explain the kernel of truth in the statement “all sex is sacred.”
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by TinaV,
Jun. 17, 2011
In January of this year a representative from the Toronto Police Service said “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized” and with that, he created one hell of a shit storm and spurred a new feminist movement.
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Jun. 08, 2011
Would there be sex work in a sexually non-repressed society? It's one of those philosophical questions to wax over, in all of its unicorn-like glory. After all what does “sexually non-repressed” society even mean? Would we all be polyamorous...wearing fig leaves for clothes?
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
May. 25, 2011
Can we resurrect Goddess authority without stripping her bare of her hallowed curves, or finding ourselves fixated on her hollowed spaces?
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by Midori,
May. 23, 2011
Burlesque has been making a comeback in recent years, not only as an art form, but as a new source of body confidence for women and men alike. Midori sits down with two performers to talk about burlesque body confidence and the evolution of burlesque culture.
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by Jeff Schult,
May. 19, 2011
The Internet revolution picked up where the sexual revolution left off.
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by Rydell Johnson,
May. 19, 2011
Getting in touch with one’s inner slut offers a new world of empowerment, liberation, and … fun.
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by Veronica Monet,
May. 17, 2011
Last month I noted that the “love hormone,” Oxytocin, introduces an element of love to all sexual encounters. If sex exists on a continuum, then some sex might be almost bereft of love while other sex would be completely defined by love. In between those two extremes exists a lot of varied combinations of eroticism and emotion.
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by Roland Hulme,
May. 16, 2011
With a column called “Devil’s Advocate”, it shouldn’t be surprising that I write a lot of things people disagree with. Fortunately, I welcome people challenging my opinions (and, as frequently happens, proving me wrong).
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
May. 12, 2011
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by Rayne Millaray,
May. 10, 2011
Live post-class orgasm demonstration furor apparently to blame.
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by TinaV,
May. 05, 2011
In many ways, the beauty pageant held at Los Angeles’ Circus Disco on April 10, 2011 was a pageant just like any other. Long, lithe women dressed elaborately in sexy sequined outfits did the stiletto stomp across the stage. It was all glamour, glitz, and hyper-femininity, but the beautiful competitors were more than they appeared to be.
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by Roland Hulme,
May. 02, 2011
One of my hobbies is perusing Internet erotica. I churn through sites like ASSTR.org — filled with erotic offerings from thousands of anonymous authors — and try to discern the psychology behind the fantasies.
And you know what? They scare the crap out of me.
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Apr. 28, 2011
Sacred female sexuality, with its feelers in earth-based worship, meets resistance in various circles. The idea that woman with all her undulating curves & desires can cohabitate with formal religion creates waves of awe & shock, depending on perspective & historical understanding.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Apr. 28, 2011
Traveling literary history of fetishes, BDSM attract a college crowd.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Apr. 19, 2011
Protest at London bar goes global after social network deletes a picture. (Update: Facebook apologizes.)
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by Roland Hulme,
Apr. 18, 2011
The Republican Party recently hit the headlines when they introduced a “purity test” for members — defining the issues (from abortion to gun control) that all Republicans must toe the party line on.
It got me wondering if the sex positive community could benefit from a similar manifesto — although would we ever agree what it should be?
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by Midori,
Apr. 12, 2011
The world is falling apart and I’m teaching fine cock sucking. Am I just playing in the band as the Titanic sinks? My birth nation is having a nuclear meltdown, and I’m carrying on teaching blowjobs and bondage, while fundraising for HIV. Yes, this may seem odd, and I know some may think me uncaring and having poor priorities, but somehow I know this is the right thing for me to do right now.
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by The Bloggess,
Apr. 07, 2011
This week my husband is in the hospital and my daughter and I both have strep so I’ve found myself playing on YouTube simply to escape reality for a bit, and in the process I found three videos that would only truly fit in this column.
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Mar. 31, 2011
How many of us think of ourselves as polyamorous? Some do, of course, but probably most of us think of ourselves as monogamous. Yet, how many of us can claim we've loved just one person in our lives? Likely, not many. So, are we truly monogamous or are most of us serially polyamorous?
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by Midori,
Mar. 14, 2011
It was the sort of horror that’s only possible on late night cable. An hour-long shopping show dedicated to cheap sex toys. If QVC was a trailer trash mama, we just met her slutty little sister trying oh-so-hard to be Hollywood classy. This was Bristol-Jamie-Lynn capitalism and Sex-In-The-City-knockoff sexual liberation.
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 14, 2011
We like science that tells us to like what we already like.
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by TinaV,
Mar. 11, 2011
Nothing livens up a fashion show like prefacing it with the words “sex toy.”
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 11, 2011
Sex-positive Christian message spreads to Indiana.
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by Jeff Schult,
Mar. 07, 2011
But we're glad he doesn't seem to be all that sorry.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 04, 2011
Pastor Craig vs. Ron Jeremy: Who are you betting on?
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by Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 04, 2011
Incident zooms from local curiosity to worldwide crisis in a day. Thank you, Internets.
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by dr.chauntelle,
Mar. 01, 2011
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by Jeff Schult,
Feb. 24, 2011
Study will look at “everyday use” and not assume it’s a problem.
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by Jeff Schult,
Feb. 24, 2011
Mating cries are all about social status, scientists say.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Feb. 23, 2011
Now, New York City remains my primary partner, but sometimes we need a break from each other, and when I give her some warning, I get permission to go see other cities. So this past weekend, I took a quick day-long road trip with my other girlfriend, Kristen, to Philadelphia.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Feb. 21, 2011
Billboard, video series and, yes, mysexlifesucks.org all part of the message.
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Feb. 18, 2011
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by TinaV,
Feb. 17, 2011
Those walking into The Grand Star Jazz Club in Los Angeles’ historic Chinatown district on January 27th were in for a special treat. Upon entrance they were greeted by Cleo and Jessie Nicole, two drop dead gorgeous hostesses in tight black dresses and heels.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Feb. 11, 2011
Occidental College Plans Sexy Start to V-Week.
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by Jeff Schult,
Feb. 09, 2011
Clitoral satisfaction and wholeness part of obscure faith's agenda.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Feb. 04, 2011
With Super Bowl XLV just scant hours away, the hopes and hearts and bets of NFL fans rest with the Pittsburgh Steelers and the Green Bay Packers. While many will be on the edge of their seats, waiting with Chee-toh'd fingers and brewski breath to vicariously live each play as the clock ticks down to the final outcome, the real winners of the sport may be in a totally different league.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Feb. 03, 2011
This is a feel-good story, so I’m not going to go for any done-to-death homoerotic jokes about jocks and locker rooms and sweaty, grunting men. But I might make a crack about Tom Brady’s Justin Bieber-hair. Just once.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Feb. 02, 2011
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jan. 26, 2011
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by Renee Veronica Lucas,
Jan. 21, 2011
New York City Firefighters Enflame the Crowd for a Good Cause
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jan. 19, 2011
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by Renee Veronica Lucas,
Jan. 07, 2011
Everyone in the room at the Lillian Vernon Creative Writers House at NYU couldn’t help but feel inspired. As members of the AIDS Service Center New York’s Creative Writing Workshop came forward one by one to read their poetry, emotions ran high, and the sense of community ran deep.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jan. 06, 2011
Thank goodness we have scientists paying attention, eh?
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jan. 05, 2011
This may come as kind of a shock, but I don’t hate New York City.
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by Rayne Millaray,
Jan. 05, 2011
UK authorities say in-flight entertainment “too distracting.”
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Dec. 29, 2010
The East Coast was covered in snow, and as my plans to be oh-so-productive started disappearing like the visibility outside my windows, I had to reschedule my day and admit it: I was stuck. What was I going to do?
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by Twanna A. Hines,
Dec. 23, 2010
Twanna A. Hines: Sleeping Around—The FUNKY BROWN CHICK Perspective on Sexy Stuff
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by Victoria,
Dec. 22, 2010
Rachel Kramer Bussel's landmark NYC erotic reading series turns the final page.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Dec. 22, 2010
Bet you didn’t know that, huh? With all this talk of family, family, family, and religion or spirituality or even just the bundled-up dark time of the year, why would the season of holiday cheer be for fucking?
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by Sexis Editors,
Dec. 13, 2010
Another week, another hot topic, another 140 characters of steamy micro-erotic excellence. Presenting our weekly winner, runner-up and the outstanding entries for last week’s topic: When I was younger, I would have been so much happier with sex, if only I had known... what?
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by Jeff Schult,
Dec. 13, 2010
Holliday seeks support from sex-positive community.
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by Lori Selke,
Dec. 13, 2010
Landmark San Francisco organization faces challenges due to its hands-on nature and pansexual audience.
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by Nina Hartley,
Dec. 10, 2010
Nina Hartley is a lot of things to a lot of people: A pioneering porn star who made the crossover to mainstream films; a wife, a nurse, a sex positive feminist and a champion of free speech. For the last year, SexIs has been bolstered by her regular contributions each week with the thoughtful advice she provides in Tuesdays With Nina.
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by Judy Cole,
Dec. 07, 2010
Frustrated celebs seek help from financial angel to save them from fate worse than social media death.
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by Jeff Schult,
Dec. 07, 2010
Grants will support “innovative research.”
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by Renee Veronica Lucas,
Dec. 03, 2010
On World AIDS Day, Awareness and Funds are Raised for the AIDS Service Center in New York.
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by Sexis Editors,
Dec. 01, 2010
In honor of World AIDS Day 2010, the staff of Edenfantasys got together to share our personal messages of hope, remembrance and encouragement.
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by Judy Cole,
Nov. 29, 2010
Hello. Testing… Testing… Is this thing on?
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by Roland Hulme,
Nov. 26, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Nov. 24, 2010
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by Tinamarie Bernard,
Nov. 19, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Nov. 17, 2010
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by Buck Angel,
Nov. 16, 2010
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by Midori,
Nov. 08, 2010
Non-profit Danish kink association is public spirited, tolerant ... and all about the fun.
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Nov. 05, 2010
Researchers in Massachusetts identify key amino acids that fight off progression of disease.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Nov. 03, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Oct. 27, 2010
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by Veronica Monet,
Oct. 26, 2010
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by Midori,
Oct. 25, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Oct. 13, 2010
“Who cares if I’m gay or not? Why do I need to ‘come out?’ Aren’t we beyond that?”
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by Midori,
Oct. 11, 2010
You’ve heard about kinky weekend events, haven’t you? Maybe it was someone’s elated Facebook post, or that friend who breathlessly told tales of her wild, naughty adventures? Perhaps you’d read a local newspaper article decrying the shocking and amoral activities, full of scantily clad women with whips and chains, happening down at a local convention center. You want to go, don’t you?
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by Nina Hartley,
Oct. 05, 2010
Adam and Eve were tossed out of the Garden of Eden for taking a bite out of the apple that fell from the Tree of Knowledge. Trouble was, and still is, that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, especially when it comes to sex. So what do you do when you've been raised in a conservative environment and have not been exposed to deeper learning about the carnal world? Ask Nina, of course!
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by Midori,
Sep. 27, 2010
Welcome to Wicked Grounds—America’s singular adults-only kinky café. It also happens to be my one of my top two favorite cafés in San Francisco. You’ll often find me there, writing or hanging out with other sexy freaks. The coffee’s superb, Wi-Fi’s free, no children are allowed (except those adults enjoying age play), and I can say and do most anything. What’s not to love?
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Sep. 22, 2010
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by Yvette Safire,
Sep. 16, 2010
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Sep. 15, 2010
Amid the noise about gay marriage, most Americans are accepting, not excepting.
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by Midori,
Sep. 13, 2010
If you’re from south of the border—the Canadian border, that is—and have never visited Toronto, you’re missing out on a lot of fun...both vanilla and kinky.
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by Elizabeth Black,
Sep. 01, 2010
When it comes to sex therapy, pretty much anyone with an opinion can hang out a shingle and call themselves an “expert,” but how do you separate the spin doctors from the real deal? In the days ahead, SexIs will be speaking to some of the most respected “sexperts” in the field to separate pros from the poseurs—and get the skinny on how to have great sex.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Aug. 25, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Aug. 18, 2010
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by Midori,
Aug. 16, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Aug. 11, 2010
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by Midori,
Aug. 02, 2010
Are you ready for more of my totally biased and personal list of The Sexiest Cities in the World? These oases are sex positive, erotically hip and sensually progressive.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jul. 28, 2010
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by Cherry Trifle,
Jul. 26, 2010
From launching the niche to going mainstream, black writers are finding their market—and it's not necessarily defined by color lines.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jul. 21, 2010
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Jul. 20, 2010
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by Sexis Editors,
Jul. 19, 2010
Another week, another hot topic, another 140 characters of steamy micro-erotic excellence. Presenting our weekly winner, runner-up and the outstanding entries for last week’s topic: Dénouement.
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by Midori,
Jul. 19, 2010
Where is the sexiest city? Do images of lovers cavorting on beaches, romantic walks along quaint cobblestone paths or luxurious hide-away hotels come to mind? If you think “the sexiest city” is an easy question to answer, your buying the hype of travel advertising.
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by Liz Langley,
Jul. 16, 2010
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by G.L. Morrison,
Jul. 07, 2010
“The Beautiful Kind” (a.k.a. “TBK”) is both the name and motto of the 30-something bisexual vegetarian sex goddess located in St. Louis, Missouri. A prolific sex writer, TBK writes for a variety of magazines, including SexIs, and also pens a popular Internet advice column “Ask The Slut.”
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jul. 07, 2010
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by Sexis Editors,
Jul. 05, 2010
Another week, another hot topic, another 140 characters of steamy micro-erotic excellence. Presenting our weekly winner, runner-up and the outstanding entries for last week’s topic: Simultaneous Sexual Combustion.
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by Midori,
Jul. 05, 2010
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by Jeff Schult,
Jun. 24, 2010
Everyone knows that adult film star Savanna Samson has a smokin' hot body. Yesterday we learned that she also has a pretty impressive worldview to go along with it. Today, Savanna talks about her favorite co-stars, what's in store for her future, and advises anyone who wants to follow in her X-rated footsteps about the things that truly matter if you're considering a career in the porn industry.
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by The Bloggess,
Jun. 24, 2010
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by Buck Angel,
Jun. 22, 2010
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by Nina Hartley,
Jun. 22, 2010
You ache for your partner to be more adventurous in the bedroom, but they just don't seem willing to stretch the boundaries. Or maybe YOU want to explore your inner exhibitionist, but you can't quite take that first step. Whether it's apprehension, agitation or anxiety holding you back, Nina's got some advice that just might bring out that sense of adventure—in either, or both of you!
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by Midori,
Jun. 21, 2010
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Jun. 17, 2010
Among doctors and researchers, the debate rages over how to diagnose female sexual problems, and if such problems are treatable with drugs at all, unlike their male counterparts.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jun. 16, 2010
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by Rydell Johnson,
Jun. 04, 2010
Professional sexy photo shoots for “regular” gals have gone mainstream. The resulting images make gift giving easy, but what’s really in it for you? Well, as the author’s wife says, “Hanging out in my lingerie all day was pretty damn nice.”
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
May. 26, 2010
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
May. 19, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
May. 19, 2010
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by Lorna D. Keach,
May. 18, 2010
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by The Beautiful Kind,
May. 17, 2010
Musings on sex and Las Vegas Amusements...
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by Midori,
May. 10, 2010
Once again I’m off to teach sex classes. I’m a traveling sexuality educator. Blowjobs, anal sex, bondage, cunnilingus and the like, oh my! I love my work.
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by Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
May. 05, 2010
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by Lady J,
Apr. 14, 2010
For many who grew up in America public Sex Education did a lot more harm than good. When you’re taught that sex is not a recreational activity—unless you’re a disease-ridden whore—and condoms don’t work (if you have sex, you WILL get pregnant). Let’s just say, it’s a lot to overcome.
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by The Beautiful Kind,
Apr. 05, 2010
A slut is someone who has sex with lots of people, or as urban dictionary defines it, “a woman with the morals of a man.” A whore is someone who gets paid for that predilection. I’ve always considered myself a slut—I don’t think that’s a bad thing. Now I’m reorienting myself to embrace the word whore.
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by The Bloggess,
Apr. 01, 2010
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by Lorna D. Keach,
Mar. 26, 2010
Is there some sort of sexual subterfuge going on? Some collective cultural desire to hide sex even with something as liberated as sex toys? Because why don’t many dildo manufacturers associate their sex toys with, y’know…sex?
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by G.L. Morrison,
Mar. 24, 2010
It's trendy to answer the question “who/what are you?” with a smirk and “I hate labels.” I like my labels. Go to the pantry and rip the labels off every can you find. Dinner will be always be a surprise. Is wanting to know what's inside just blind prejudice? When did blindness become lack of prejudice?
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Mar. 19, 2010
It’s a safe bet to say that the anus is the most disowned area of most people’s bodies. To say that the anus and anal sex are taboo does not begin to capture how personally directed the fear and disgust of the anus is.
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by Mandy Van Deven,
Mar. 10, 2010
In her witty, tongue-in-cheek tale, Cutting Up Playgirl: A Memoir of Sexual Disappointment, author Carrie Jones chronicles a life without orgasms and her quest for the ever-elusive climax to her story.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Mar. 03, 2010
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by Tobi,
Mar. 02, 2010
Every gender identity has its own rules for social interaction. It’s when you step into the larger world that etiquette gets a little tricky. You meet someone. You fall “in like.” Finding the right moment to reveal you’re transgendered requires tact, timing and, sometimes... a little luck.
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 02, 2010
When you're raised in a very conservative environment, it often throws a monkey wrench into your sex life. Thankfully, you can overcome early sex-negative training and learn to embrace a robust means of healthy sexual expression.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Feb. 24, 2010
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Feb. 17, 2010
Immediately in the city everything is just as hard as you’ve always heard it is: the disgusting humid summers. Finding an apartment. Getting a job. Locating friends. But the subways become easy, once you get the hang of it, and Manhattan is comprehensible, once you orient yourself. Be careful not to over-orient: you will change.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Feb. 10, 2010
I won’t lie: Sex has saved me. From myself especially. From going so deep into the spirals of my own brain which could drive me crazy. But when everything is perfect, there is no mind in sex. There is just feeling; just the body, moving, stretching, pulling, reaching, opening, pulsing, listening, taking, giving; just sensation.
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by G.L. Morrison,
Feb. 08, 2010
My lover made up a modern proverb: “A woman who loves her belly loves her body.” I don’t think it will catch on. It’s true that women, particularly modern women in Western culture, have a love-hate (or even a hate-hate) relationship with their bellies. Why? What did that sweet bump of skin (located as it is under the two much glamorized and beloved fat-bags) do to deserve such scorn?
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Feb. 03, 2010
If New York City was on Facebook, our relationship status would say “It’s Complicated.” I love her, I do; I have idolized her since I was a kid, watching all my favorite cheesy eighties movies like Big Business, The Secret of My Success, and Big, over and over again. Our culture mythologizes her, paints her as the place to be, so full of potential. She might even be The One.
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by minivanlibertine,
Jan. 29, 2010
I may eat Hamburger Helper, wear jeans from Costco, and drink water straight from the tap, but when it comes to porn, I’m quite the snob. In fact, I prefer “porn connoisseur,” because it makes me sound classy! (And nothing is classier than a woman who likes to watch people fuck.)
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by Rachel Rabbit White,
Jan. 06, 2010
Jay realized he was asexual by the end of high school and came out during college. Like most anyone who falls outside of the sexual norm, he spent a long time wondering what was wrong with him. “I knew I wasn’t experiencing something everyone else was experiencing, but I didn’t know what that meant. There was a pretty strong indication from pop culture that sexuality is a big deal.”
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by Tobi,
Jan. 05, 2010
It’s hard to understand non-binary pronouns when you don’t understand non-binary gender—which is often the reason for using non-binary pronouns. The best way I can explain it is to walk you through my own process.
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by Dr Dick,
Dec. 21, 2009
Just in time for the Christmas my peeps want to know who/what makes my Naughty and Nice list.
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by minivanlibertine,
Dec. 18, 2009
In this final installment of our interview with the one and only Tristan Taormino, she speaks at length about open relationships, nonmonogamy, and trying to shatter the preconceived notions of what relationships are.
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by Kal Cobalt,
Dec. 16, 2009
Of all the things crammed into pussies and asses through the ages, the fist maintains an underground popularity that's baffling from the outside. What is it about fisting that captures the minds (and hands) of its devotees? And why exactly is the whole country terrified of its own ass?
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by Nina Hartley,
Dec. 15, 2009
This week, Nina expounds on the art of proper breathing techniques during sex, in order to open up the body to maximum pleasure.
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by minivanlibertine,
Dec. 11, 2009
As a working woman raising two sons with her husband in South Carolina, the idea of attending a porn festival in the Southwest seemed impossible; logistically, geographically, and culturally. Until I got there, that is...
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by Nina Hartley,
Dec. 08, 2009
The old saying goes, “Them that can, do; them that can’t, teach,” but sometimes there’s that one in a million who can do both—and SexIs has her. Each week, adult actress, activist, auteur and legend Nina Hartley answers your questions on all things sexual. Vlogging will never be the same.
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by minivanlibertine,
Nov. 25, 2009
Sage sexuality south of the Mason Dixon? Boy, howdy!
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by Dr Dick,
Nov. 23, 2009
Have you ever wondered about the term sex positive? If you’re like me, you see it all over the place, especially on sex-related sites. I confess I use it way more often than I should. It’s become one of those industry buzzwords that has, over time, become so fuzzy around the edges that to some, it’s now virtually meaningless.
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by Liz NuMe,
Nov. 18, 2009
Hello. My name is Newme…and I’m a closet kink. If you saw me walking down the street, you would probably think, preppy mom. I’m top to bottom J. Crew—cardigan, tee and jeans. Mother of four who home-schooled her kids, drove them to all their activities in a Honda Accord, worked hard for a living, helped my husband start his own business. Nothing special, just your typical person on the streets.
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by Kal Cobalt,
Oct. 07, 2009
If you're looking for a way to try out kink that's free, easy, and likely to have good results, this one’s for you. Spanking as sexual titillation goes a lot further than the trope of the 1950s secretary getting a slap on the rump from a leering boss; in the world of kink today, spanking is safe, fun, and a lot less complicated than sex. Let's check out five rump-thumping tidbits about the spank.
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by Kal Cobalt,
Sep. 02, 2009
Is making someone hurt an act of cruelty or an act of love? If you said “either one, and sometimes both,” you get a gold star (and I’ll see you at the dungeon). If you didn’t, read on: Here come five points that might help explain why beating the shit out of someone can be the nicest thing anyone ever did.
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by Tobi,
Aug. 27, 2009
Courtney Trouble, already well known in queer porn circles for her 6-year-running queer porn website, nofauxxx.com, has recently gained additional notoriety for her new film Roulette. In April she received the Feminist Porn Award for Most Deliciously Diverse Cast, and recently NoFauxxx was named The Best Queer Porn of the Bay by the San Francisco Bay Guardian.
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by Dr Dick,
Aug. 24, 2009
One of the enduring hot-button issues in our culture (and every other culture) is sexually explicit material. Everyone has an opinion on what we, as a society, ought to allow—and what should be prohibited.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Aug. 14, 2009
Playing with fire, sex, and shame.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Aug. 10, 2009
Free testing clinics are fantastic—but they’re not infallible, and they’re not always the most informative places in the world to get your safer sex information. The old saying, “you get what you pay for”, is, sadly enough, usually true.
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by SaucySarah,
Jun. 29, 2009
Just what is an open relationship, anyway? Let's find out!
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by Sexis Editors,
Jun. 26, 2009
Today on SexVoxing: What book on sexuality do you think should be required reading?
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by Sarah Sloane,
Apr. 28, 2009
Are you a swinger, baby? Do you want to be? Swinging has come a long way since the 60s...explore the new swinger lifestyle and decide if it's the place for you.
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