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  • The Married Mom’s Guide to Toy Hiding

    Running out of places to hide your toys? You children, roommate, or pet find them no matter where you put them? Don't fret! Here is a list of possible places to hide your precious toys.

  • Perspectives on Polyamory

    I’m not on the same level as the characters of Big Love, but I do consider myself polyamorous. If you have ever been interested in the lifestyle, here are a few key concepts that have popped up in my everyday life with my two (sometimes three) partners.

  • BDSM DIY: Creating Dungeon Furniture

    In this third segment of my BDSM Do it Yourself column, I will discuss how I have made several pieces of dungeon furniture in the past and how you could, easily, learn to craft these transportable pieces yourself. The finished pieces can each be made for under twenty dollars and are mobile, so that you can bring and show off your furniture at play parties...or easily hide it under your bed if the in-laws come snooping.

  • Turn Your Thinking Off: Running a Thought-mile During Sexual Activities

    What am I going to cook for dinner? Did I leave the stove on? Why did Harold say that thing about my wife? Will they ever cum?

    We all know that during sexual play time, there are those days (far many than few) where we cannot turn our minds to completing the fun at hand, to enjoy our sexual experiences fully. Is it possible to turn your thinking off? Can you quiet your mind? Is it even a realistic thought?

  • Massage 101: Choosing Your Oil

    If you are trying to plan something special for you and your partner, or you just want to help your partner relax, you may want to give them a massage. This article will cover how to choose the right oil for you and your partner.

  • Whips Vs. Floggers

    Have you ever wondered exactly what the difference is between whips and floggers? Well here is your answer, along with examples of each.

  • BDSM 101—Understanding Masochism

    Today I want to look at masochism and help those who are not masochists potentially understand why someone might enjoy pain.

  • BDSM 101--Orgasm Denial

    Today we are going to discuss orgasm denial. What is it? How do you do it? Why do people like it?

  • How to Shave Everywhere

    For some, there is nothing sexier than rubbing against a lover’s smooth skin. Yet for some of us shaving can be a pain. Without the promise of some sexual favor to come, it can be hassle not worth undergoing. So how do we give our lover the smoothest skin possible and still make it worth our time and effort? That’s simple, combine the two. Here’s how...

  • BDSM 101—Facesitting

    Today’s article is going to focus on an activity called facesitting. We are going to learn what it is, how to do it, why people like it, and some safety concerning it.

  • How to Submit: A Basic Guide

    Submission is all the craze now, ever since Fifty Shades of Grey hit the shelves last year. But what many people don't know is how to submit. Submission is so much more than being tied up and being spanked. Submission is, simply put, yielding to another, but sometimes that’s harder than it appears.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 11

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Play Party Guidelines

    BDSM play parties can be extremely fun. I highly suggest learning a little about how to respect yourself and others, in a scene, before you attend your first party.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 8

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 7

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 6

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 10

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Date Night Ideas Part 9

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Date Night Ideas Part 5

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Date Night Ideas Part 4

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Date Night Ideas Part 2

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 1

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • The Guide to Moving in Together

    So you think you're ready to move in together? I don't mean to be your mom, but are you sure? Check out this guide to make sure you've crossed your Ts and dotted your Is!

  • BDSM 101: Erotic Asphyxiation

    Today’s guide is going to discuss erotic asphyxiation, what it is, and the major safety concerns it has.

  • Strap On Sex: A Buyer’s Guide

    This guide is aimed at those who have decided they want to buy a strap on harness and are having trouble deciding which one to buy.

  • Celebrating Her Sexy Spirit--10 Ways to Make Her Feel Sexy

    Today’s article focuses on ways you can keep your partner feeling hot and sexy. Just a note this is a male’s perspective on how to keep a female feeling sexy.

  • Summer helped me find myself!

    Those of us who are above size average know all to well what kinda of emotions this time of year can bring to us. All of a sudden the few extra pounds we've gained over the winter, how un-tan we are and the memories of our last pedicure all come back to haunt us.

  • Getting Away Without Leaving Home:

    This article is going to focus on how to get that “get away sexy feel” without ever leaving your home and keeping it cheap and inexpensive.

  • Ways to Get Your Partner In The Mood

    Today we are going to discuss ways which you can increase you and your partner’s sex drives for those times when one of you isn’t feeling that horny.

  • First Time Tips

    Sex can be a wonderful experience that allows us to bond, explore, ignite and surrender to a person in ways nothing else can. It can also be the cause of heartache, regret, disappointment and life altering choices that leave us questioning why we did it in the first place.

  • Sending Dirty Photos

    Today we discuss sending dirty photos, some tricks to it, and how to feel comfortable doing it.

  • Talking Dirty to Your Partner

    Today I want to talk about some tips and tricks for talking dirty to your partner. I want to share some personal experiences and how I think we successfully integrated it into our sex lives.

  • BDSM 101—Wax Play

    Today I want to talk about what wax play is, what you need to do it, how to clean up after it, and some safety concerning it.

  • BDSM 101 -- Finding a Partner Part

    Today I want to talk about how I found my partner. My partner was originally not kinky at all; I introduced her to the world of kink. I want to discuss some of the tips and tricks that I discovered while doing this.

  • BDSM 101—Mummification

    Today we are going to discuss what mummification is, what you need to do it, and some safety tips you should know about.

  • BDSM 101—Erotic Humiliation

    Today we are going to discuss erotic humiliation, what it is, how lots of people go about it, why people like it, and what are some safety considerations you should have.

  • BDSM 101—Blindfolding

    Today we are going to discuss blindfolding your partner, what you want to look for in a blindfold, why anyone would blindfold their partner, and what are some things you can do to your blindfolded partner.

  • BDSM 101 -- Self Bondage

    Today we are going to talk about self bondage. We will discuss what it is and how to go about it, as well as the risks that are associated with it.

  • BDSM 101 — Household BDSM Toys

    Today we are going to look at various household items that be used for some BDSM fun. These are items that you likely have sitting around your house right now, too. We will discuss what you can use, and the pros and cons of each item.

  • Being Super Mom, and a Super Spouse

    There are never enough hours in the day to accomplish all the tasks of being a mother. It's harder still to have the energy to be a pleasing spouse after the tasks are complete. It can be done, though!

  • 10 ways to celebrate your sexiness

    We all deserve to feel sexy. But sometimes that can be tough in today's world. Here are 10 ways for you to keep yourself feeling sexy!

  • Basic Tips for Giving Great Hand Jobs

    Here are a few tips to spicing up the average, and sometimes boring hand job. All it takes is a little imagination, combined with these tricks of the hand!

  • Enjoying The Joy Of Sex

    One of the most influential books ever published celebrated its fortieth birthday last year - and its sequel hits the same age in 2013. A personal celebration of Alex Comfort's "The Joy of Sex."

  • How To Guide: Pleasing Cam Girls (And Not Just With Money)

    Every time I'm on cam, there are people who make me want to tear my hair out. There are also people who I would so love to high-five, as well. Want to have your cam girl love you? Here is a list of what to do, and, of course, what not to do!

  • BDSM 101 — Finding a Partner Part 2: Attending a Munch

    Today we will explore munches. What is a munch? What is the etiquette surrounding them? How can you get involved in one?

  • Flogging 101: Choosing the Right Leather

    Not all leather is created equal. Shopping for a flogger requires knowing the differences between the wide variety of leathers available. Whether you like a sting, thud, or all of the above, this guide will teach you some of the important essentials about different leathers, and is an important first step in finding the flogger that's right for you!

  • A boost of confidence

    Being shy in the bedroom can sometimes feel like you're just plain boring; even if you have an amazing imagination, you are too reserved to share. Here are some tips on how to spice things up, and how not to feel like you're putting yourself out there to get embarrassed and let down.

  • Road Head!

    A lighthearted guide to how not to do something you should never contemplate doing.

  • My Journey into a BDSM Community

    How to articles are great to read, but here is the story of what I encountered as I was taking my first steps into a local BDSM or kink community. Hopefully it will lend a bit of insight into what you can expect.

  • PropertyOfPotter's Guide To Buying A Clitoral Vibe

    Looking for the perfect clitoral vibrator to suit your needs? A little overwhelmed by the huge selection available on Eden? Here's a little list of suggestions based on your preferences.

  • So You Want to Make a Baby? A Guide to Conceiving

    How hard can it be? Have lots of unprotected sex and it's bound to happen, right? Not always!

  • Guide To Anal Accoutrements

    Getting into different types of anal toys can cause a lot of confusion! I'll be explaining different toys for your pleasure today!

  • Meeting Master

    It’s that moment; you’ve come a long way, whether physically, emotionally, or both. You're now standing outside the door, the door that will lead you to meet your dominant or submissive cyber-partner for the first time. You take a deep breath, try to calm your nerves, and go through the door. This moment of the first face to face meeting can potentially make or break your relationship from this point on. Handling this moment is a huge deal.

  • BDSM 101-- Advanced Predicament Play

    Today we will talk about more advanced predicament play scenarios. Most of these require some additional equipment, planning and set up, but you will be rewarded with complex and interesting scenarios.

  • BDSM 101--Predicament Bondage

    Today we talk about what predicament bondage is and I will share some example scenarios that you can place your sub in.

  • BDSM 101 -- Pet Play

    Today I want to talk about Pet Play. This is a type of role-playing seen within BDSM, in which one individual takes on the persona of an animal and the dominant becomes their owner/trainer/controller. Today we will discuss why people like pet play, and the toys most commonly used with this type of play.

  • BDSM 101—Electrosex Part 2

    This article is going to focus on the different types of electrodes and where on the body they are used.

  • BDSM 101—Electrosex Part 1

    Today we talk about a new type of play called electrosex. Electrosex uses electrical stimulation to cause pleasurable sensations.

  • BDSM 101 –Collaring

    Today, we look at collars, and the value and meaning that they have to many individuals.

  • BDSM 101 –Learning to Hit Your Partner Part 2

    In part 1 of learning to hit your partner, I discussed how you mentally prepare for some impact play if you are uncomfortable with it. Today, I want to talk about some strategies about actually implementing it.

  • BDSM Shopping – Bondage Cuffs

    BDSM equipment can often be quite pricey, and there are often too many choices and it makes it very hard to decide what you want to buy. Today we will discuss the different features of bondage cuffs and hopefully help you pick what suits you best.

  • A Shy Woman's Tips For Initiating Sex

    Are you horny, but a bit uneasy with flat-out asking your man for sex? Then check out these tips.

  • Prostate Play

    Today’s article is on the prostate. We uncover this mysterious organ and learn what it does, where it resides, and why there is so much talk about it.

  • BDSM 101 – Negotiating Limits

    Today we discuss what are limits, why should I talk to my partner about limits, what is the difference between a soft and hard limit, and what are some ways you can discuss your limits.

  • BDSM 101-- Safewords

    Today we are going to discuss what is a safeword, do I need a safeword, and how do I used a safeword. This will in turn allow you have better and more fun role playing sessions with your partner.

  • BDSM 101 -- Impact Play

    The art of hitting a person with an instrument can create a large array of pleasant, erotic, and unique sensations. Today we will talk about the different types of toys, and how they vary in each category, and what effect that has on the experience they create.

  • BDSM DIY -- Wooden Paddle

    Today we explore how to make a wooden paddle. This articles talks briefly about how and why people spank, before discussing in detail how you can create your very own paddle and fulfill all of your spanking dreams!

  • BDSM 101 – Pegging

    Today we will talk about pegging. We will discuss: what it is, how to go about doing it, why people do it, and the different toys you can use for it.

  • BDSM DIY -- Spreader Bars

    So you're interested in BDSM and you go to buy some gear. You see prices of 100, 150, and 200 dollars and your heart sinks a bit. There's no way you can afford that, but have no fear. Below is a guide on how to make a very effective, but also very cost efficient, spreader bar.

  • Tracking Your Ovulation for Fertility

    The act of trying to get pregnant can become stressful if it is not happening within the time frame that you want it to happen. This article is going to focus on how you can track when you ovulate and use that to help you become pregnant.

  • BDSM 101--Rope Bondage

    There are many implements you can use to tie someone up. One of the most versatile of these is rope. Today's article will focus on the different types of rope and positions associated with rope bondage.

  • BDSM 101 -- Chastity

    Chastity play is a type of BDSM that denies a person the ability to have sex and masturbate. Today, we will talk about it, what toys are used to enforce it, and why someone would enjoy the experience.

  • BDSM 101--Cock and Ball Toys

    Today's article will focus on cock and ball toys. These are male toys that focus on the penis and testicles. We will learn about the different types of toys that exist, the sensations they provide, and why people might want to try them.

  • The Anatomy of a Dry Spell

    The anatomy of a dry spell, and why you and everyone else's outlooks need to change.

  • Don't Worry, I'll Finger It Out Later!

    Fingering was a term I recall hearing as a young teenager that sparked my curiosity about what it must entail. My gentle and innocent ways prevented me from asking the burning questions that I so desperately needed to know.

  • BDSM DIY -- Rope Flogger

    When it comes to BDSM equipment, it can get very costly very fast, and you may not even be sure if your fantasies will line up with what you truly like. So here is a guide to make a very cheap yet fun rope flogger. So you can both have a flogger with which to have fun and do a test run to see if you want to invest in the future.

  • Eden Lit Is "March"ing On and Getting Things Started

    New lessons and a clearer focus about just where Eden Lit is going in the future were just a few things that happened on the day of our meeting this month. Exciting stuff!

  • Dear Daughter: Live Without Limits

    In a few days, I’m having another baby. In recognition of International Women’s Day, here’s what I’d like to tell her about life, if she’s a girl.

  • Woman's Magazines: The Modern Man's Guide to Women

    Attention Men Listen Closely: If you really want to know what women want, read what she reads. Women's magazines are a great way to get insight into the female mind.

  • She Plays, He Plays: The Strong Toy

    We're sure you've heard about the Fun Factory Stronic Eins. New technology wrapped in Fun Factory's dense, plush silicone? What? So we sent one to Rydell and Susan to see just how different it was. Read on to see what they thought.

  • Exploring Hentai

    There is so much porn, both on and off the internet. Why would anyone choose to look at drawings over real people? With a guilt free conscience, knowing that there are no reluctantly recruited actors, and no awkward feelings about watching strangers get down and dirty, many people choose hentai as an alternative. Plus, kinks and fetishes have no restrictions in hentai!

  • So You Booked a Professional Boudoir Session: Tips from a Fellow Beginner

    Boudoir photos are a unique, sexy gift to give to your partner for a special occasion or for no occasion at all. Here are some tips for the boudoir beginner from a fellow novice on how to have a successful session.

  • Transitioning to Male (Naturally), and the Adventures Along the Way.

    Have you ever wondered why some transguys "pass" so much better than others? Well, here are my tips for how you can confidently walk into any place and be seen as male, all before starting hormones.

  • The Proper Way to Talk Dirty During Sex

    Many people like to dirty talk during sex to spice thing up, but it is important that you know how to dirty talk. You also need to know the limits of dirty talk.

  • No Ruts Allowed: Tried and True Tips for Unlilting Passion

    Has your sex life succumbed to the dreaded 3-letter word: Rut? Here are some tips to help keep your relationship in a permanent honeymoon phase!

  • Broaching the Subject: Introducing Your Girl to the Joys of Prostate Play

    Do you love the tingling, wavelike feeling of prostate play? Do you want to include your significant other but don't know how to bring it up? In this article I will discuss the way I broached the subject and reinvigorated our sex life.

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet O-Z

    The last of The Wild Kink Alphabet series, covering the letters O (for oviposition) through Z (for Zentai)! Have you ever heard of Zentai suits? Transformation? Vore? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • Becoming Well-Known on Eden

    Your friend just told you about this cool new site where you can get free sex toys in exchange for genuine reviews.

  • How To Take Good Boudoir Photos of Yourself

    This is a general suggestion for ways to take quality photos of yourself or your partner without getting into too many specifics. You can always look up some of the technical terms and find tutorials online, but I thought I would write this as an introduction to those who have considered it, but thought they couldn't do it themselves.

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet G-N

    The second section in The Wild Kink Alphabet series, covering the letters G (for guro) though N (for necrophilia)! Have you ever heard of macros? Guro? Hypers? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • Eden Lit Discusses Writer's Block

    So many things going on at the Eden Lit Club House! We are talking about serious topics that should interest everyone from the avid reader to the professional writer. This month we discussed writer's block, the bane of all creative people.

  • Female Ejaculation: The Real Deal on Squirting

    There’s no other mysterious phenomenon like squirting that attracts such interest and attention. Yet there’s little real knowledge about squirting beyond urban legend. What is squirting, really?

  • Sexy Piercings! Part 2: The Vertical Clitoral Hood

    A lot of people get this piercing confused with piercing of the actual clitoris. I assure you, piercing the hood and piercing the clitoris itself are two very different things. Piercing the clitoris itself is actually difficult and dangerous and not often done or recommended. The hood on the other hand, which is the layer of tissue above the clitoris, is safer and has a lot of benefits for your sex life.

  • Valentine's Day: Not Just One Day

    Valentine's Day should not be the only day we show our loved ones we care because our love should be expressed daily.

  • Let’s Not Make a Big Deal About This, OK?

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained. For big rewards, you have to be willing to take big risks. No one got ahead by playing it safe…

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet A-F

    The first section of The Wild Kink Alphabet, covering the letters A (for age play) through F (for furry)! Have you ever heard of erotic asphyxiation? What about cum inflation? Furry? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • WHHHHHYYYYY!!! The reason your vibrator gave up the ghost.

    We've all experienced that moment when our vibrators and bullets ceased to work. Sometimes if we're lucky, giving them a gentle shake or a fresh set of batteries will get them going again. Sadly this doesn't always work and we're left with one resounding question: Why?

  • Editor's Top 3 Last Minute Valentine's Day Picks

    A little birdy told us some of you still haven't picked anything up for your lover. What is it about the gift-giving holidays that turns even the most punctual person into a procrastinator? Never fear! Our Editor in Chief is here with three suggestions of her own...and a naughty bonus.

  • She Plays, He Plays: Indulge Me

    We sent LELO's Indulge Me Pleasure Set to Rydell and Susan thinking there's no way we could top their experience with Tiani and Tiani 2. Apparently, Susan was more than ready to prove us wrong. Read on to find out what they thought of this month's featured toy!

  • Top 25 Most Popular SexIs Articles in 2012

    The year 2012 was a year fraught with change for SexIs. We added a lot of new faces, and touched on a lot of new topics. We had articles all over the spectrum from people all over the world. And these are the most read, most popular, most commented...dare we say most loved? Catch up on what you missed!

  • The Trials of a Long Distance Relationship

    Long distance relationships can be insanely difficult. Without constant interaction in person, you can easily come across a variety of issues. However, it can be done. Let me show you how!

  • Visually Enhanced Psychosexual Therapy (VEST)

    Everyone knows about sexual dysfunction, and those who have experienced it may have tried a score of medical “solutions” with less than fruitful results. For those who have found other “non-medicinal” interventions that have worked, perhaps this article may not be news for you so much as proof that getting reacquainted with your own body, and that of your loved one, can do more for you than any medicine can.

  • Clutter vs Convenience: Books in the bedroom?

    From the ubiquitous 70's offering of The Joy of Sex through Madonna's 'Sex' tome and almost every issue of Cosmopolitan, there was always a certain appeal in having 'coffee table' books & magazines that not only showed our open-mindedness to select friends, but also meant we could just grab a title and take it off to bed with us. But do we still need books for that, or can we get the same reading enjoyment out of our Kindles & Tablets?

  • A Sexy Guide: Enjoying Oral Sex (More)

    Disclaimer: This is written by a cisgender female, and is biased toward a vulva-bearing reader. It is intended for people uncomfortable with oral sex as opposed to those who don't like the sensation itself. I use the term "partner" throughout this article as a stand-in for person who is giving you head, lover, boyfriend/girlfriend, significant other, hottie from the bar, etc.

  • She Plays, He Plays: The Key To The G

    So why exactly did Jopen cover one awesome material with another? We weren’t sure, either. Then we read the Johnsons’ review. Read on to find out what Susan and Rydell think about Jopen’s Key Comet G!

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles in December 2012

    Naughty Christmas gifts, coming out kinky, and sexy fantasies were the topics of discussion in December on SexIs Social. Sadly, despite all the warmth and love, it was also a month of reflection and disgust when a bad situation surrounding one Ohio high school spun wildly out of control. Bundle up next to the heater vent and read the most read and shared stories on SexIs in December 2012.

  • The Clitoris: The Tip of an Iceberg

    Did you know that the size of the clitoris is comparable to that of an average penis? The large majority of the clitoral network is internal, we only get to see the very tip on the outside. There's so much more than the little man in the boat!

  • A Beginner's Guide To Safewords: What Is A Safeword And Why Do I Need One?

    What do you do when "YES, YES, YES" turns into "NO, NO, NO?" Safewords are an invaluable tool to have when you are involved in rough play. In this guide, I will explain what a safeword is and why they are good to have, because in the BDSM world "No" doesn't always mean "No."

  • Sexual Anatomy 201: The 18 Parts of the Clitoris

    Did you know the most of the clitoris is hidden from view? Can you name the many parts of the clitoris? The key to understanding something is to truly study it!

  • "Thinking-Off" (The Thought Induced Orgasm)

    Since the 1970s, the connection between thought and orgasms has been a hot topic (Masters & Johnson)...Mental orgasms, Energy Orgasms, Thinking Off, Thought-gasms, Thought-induced orgasms. I am sure many of you have seen the show “Strange Sex” on TLC, specifically the episode about Thinking Off, but has anyone really thought about it? In this article I highlight my own experiences with thought-gasms, that they are in fact real, and what exactly you might want to know about them.

  • How To Guide To Set (and keep) Realistic New Year Resolutions

    Tonight is officially the last night of 2012. It's been a great big year of ups and downs. Each of us has had our share of events that have changed us; some for the good and some for the bad. The start of a new year is always a great chance to start over and make the next year full of positive changes. But how do you decide where to start? How do you choose goals that are attainable?

  • Anaphrodisiacs

    While you can read a lot about libido-enhancing aphrodisiacs and what to give your significant other to eat if you want an exciting night, there is little talk about natural anaphrodisiacs, foods and herbs that blunt the libido. So, here is everything to know about them.

  • The power in your feet - A guide to giving a fantastic foot job

    Did you know that the most common fetish in the western world is the foot fetish? Odds are good that your significant other likes your feet too. Or maybe you already know he does and you want to knock his socks off with a hot surprise. Or he asked if you would do it. If so, here are some tips for you to make your man moan and groan!

  • Define This: Vore

    Have you had the desire to eat someone today? Whole? There's a rare fantasy fetish floating around the web called Vore. Frequently compared to cannibalism, vore has many different categories that appeal to vorarephiliacs.

  • Shopping Guide: How to Get the Best Underwear for Your Body Type

    Too many times have we all bought underwear that looked great on a model or in our hands but when we wear it, it looks bad or not as expected. I am a firm believer that women should and can wear whatever underwear we like, and this is not a guide to what you should or should not wear. Rather, think of it as we all have a color best for us, and we all have an underwear cut that is best for us.

  • How To: Be a Camgirl

    For those who have contemplated webcamming for money, here is a quick and easy guide to get you started. Webcamming can have some major financial benefits, but like any job, it requires hard work.

  • How To: Get a Job as a Phone Sex Operator

    Ever wondered how to go about working as a phone sex operator (PSO)? Here is my tutorial guide on the basics of starting your career as a PSO.

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles on SexIs November 2012

    Needing a break from all the hustle and bustle of holiday shopping? We’ve got another amazing edition of the SexIs Top 25!

  • Anal Play

    Are you wanting to try anal but have doubts about you or your partner? If you are read my article and I hope it helps.

  • The Science of Love and Heartbreak

    Ever wonder why you fall in love? Why it doesn't last? What you can do about it?

  • An illustrated guide to creating a safe and secure self-bondage system

    In life, you do not always have a partner to play with – sad but true. Maybe because you’re single, maybe because they aren’t into your kink, or maybe you just want some quality time for yourself.

  • You, Your Partner, and Your Kink

    To nuzzle is one thing, but what if you need to tell your partner you prefer a bite? Or handcuffs? Will they accept it, or will they run far away?

  • Push Her Magic Button Just Right

    So you decided you wanted to know more about pleasuring yourself or your girlfriend? Or maybe she simply pulled your hand on her clitoral area? You looked up tutorials and guides, and there came a line: “stimulate her clit”. But it arrived without instructions.

  • How to Deal With a Family Who Disapproves of Your Spouse

    While it is important to listen to what your loved ones have to say about your spouse, it’s also important for them to recognize and be respectful of your partner. The Holidays tend to arrive with enough stress and, when we’re spending time with family, we’re often reminded of the saying that "in-laws never get along." I have tips on how to handle situations, between your spouse and family for the upcoming Holidays, and not only that, but I have a back-up plan, just in case other plans fail!

  • Sexis Subjective: An Old-Fashioned Christmas.

    Toys are a great gift... just not for Christmas.

  • Learning The Ropes: A Guide To Different Bondage Rope

    It is easy to get lost in the knotted jungle of ropes. Here is some help for finding your way out of the forest!

  • The Virgins of the Modern World: Different Classes of Virginity in Today's Society

    Today, a virgin is not simply a virgin. It is no longer as simple as deciding what sexual acts you want, or don't to want to engage in. In our society, virginity means one thing for one virgin and a completely different thing for another, it's a debatable topic. So the question is - what makes someone a virgin and who can claim to be a "True Virgin," in this twisted world filled with varying descriptions and deceptions?

  • SexIs Subjective: The Season of Giving

    I love my toys, so why not share the joy?

  • How to have safe (and yes enjoyable) anal sex.

    This isn't your average "Go after it!!!" mission my friend. If you're going to explore places unknown, then both of you need to be informed. Otherwise it could be messy. No pun intended.

  • Holiday Gift Guide: Titillating Tinsel Edition

    Gift kits, gift wrap and free shipping! Oh, my!

  • Merry Freaking Christmas! An Irreverent Guide to All Your Holiday Problems

    Holiday stress got you down? Here are six easy solutions to your yuletide woes.

  • Some of the best places and ways to hide your sex toys

    If you have a surplus of toys, this can mean one thing for sure. You may have few places to hide them. Never fear, I'm here to help any way I can.

  • Words have power - a guide to talking dirty

    So talking dirty makes your blood boil, but you do not know where to start. Or your partner whispered in your ear to do it. Or simply you’re curious. Then this is the right place for you to start – as words have power and they can spice things up!

  • Internet Safety Should Be For Everyone

    There is no doubt that technology definitely has come a very, very long way since the internet's humble beginnings and the silly, almost cartoon-like sounds of dial-up connections. The internet is something that can be used for seemingly millions of things and should be enjoyed safely, no matter your age, gender, or sexuality.

  • Happy Holidays From Eden Lit!

    The holiday season is upon us once again and we at Eden Lit are feeling very festive. We are dropping Eden Lit Lessons and just about everything we normally do and we're gonna party. We're gonna play games and write happy, hot or maybe even healing stories. Join us for an earlier meeting on Tuesday December 4, 2012 at 3 pm on our forum for a writing party!

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles in September 2012

    Sex education, orgasms and BDSM were on the minds of our readers and contributors in September, this year. And who could blame them, what with the release of 50 Shades of Grey, and the alleged "war on women" waging in the United States presidential and state campaigns?

  • The power in your hands - part II

    So you already know the basics of a handjob, and maybe even have a few techniques you can vary, but you're looking for more options? Read on to learn how to make your guy smoking hot for you.

  • Sex & Religion: The Beautiful and the Damned

    People have touched upon Sex & Religion in a variety of ways. However, I think there is more talk about "don't feel guilty" and less about why people feel guilty despite all "logic." This article is partly personal in nature, but for those who still feel guilty despite all the sermons and debunking, perhaps the answer is that most of us cannot quite put our finger on where the guilt is coming from – and it might be a whole lot more than just religion in the water.

  • The power in your hands - What makes a good handjob good?

    A hand job can be just a quick jerking off and release - but it can be a sexy, hot experience if done well. With blowjobs becoming more common and less the exclusive treat, hand jobs have lost some of the appeal. But with a little concentration your hands can gain power again!

  • Thanksgiving: Why I Thought Of Eden Fantasys Today

    When sitting around the table with your family, sharing all the wonderful things you're thankful for, it's not often that someone would actually pipe up with 'I'm thankful for the best online sex shop!'. But it popped into my mind several times today; though not openly shared with my guests. Here are a few reasons why it came to my mind on this great holiday.

  • Feeling Sexy After Having A Baby!

    Are you wanting to feel sexy again but don't know how? Well that's what I'm talking about today. So read and enjoy.

  • Submissive's Guide to Giving Head

    Although most of us know how to give a good blow job, there are certain things you can do to bring your submission into your technique. Try one or try all, but giving head will never be the same.

  • Body Mods Down Below: Male Edition

    What’s the deal with dick piercings? Do people really split their penises? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that males can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

  • More Than Boys and Girls: C-boys, Dickgirls, Traps, Transvestites, and Transfolk

    You've heard terms like "dickgirl" and "trap" throughout the internet when referring to specialty porn, but who and what are these people, and what's the difference between them all? There's more than just the man-woman/boy-girl binary!

  • "Muffing" Your Man (or Woman!)

    The term muffing has two common meanings: one is oral sex on a female; the other is something you probably haven't even thought of before! Do you know where your man's inguinal canals are? You're about to find out!

  • One Lump Or Two??? Oh, How About 28!!

    It was just one small lump, the size of a pea. Who knew what that innocuous little bit of tissue in my breast would lead to...and the surprising results of all the testing.

  • She Plays, He Plays: A Toy That Isn’t

    When we offered Rydell and Susan a “batty dong,” we didn’t realize we were opening them up to a whole new world of sexual possibilities. Read their account of the fun they had with Leoweenie by Vixen, and find out what they learned!

  • We Are Not Part of a Circus Freak Show

    You see that I am different and you want to stop and stare? Have you no respect? Is it your goal to be as blunt and as rude as possible? I am not your personal side show. I am not something you can just gawk at, stare at and belittle. I am a person just like you: I have feelings, a heart, and a family. I may be different. I am a transman.

  • Body Mods Down Below: Female Edition

    What’s the deal with clit piercings? Do people really get their nipples removed? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that females can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

  • Sex After Having Kids

    Well if you’re anything like me you start to forget what sex is. I have two kids under 5 and I use these steps to make it easier for me to get to have sex.

  • Benefits and Downfalls of Different Communication Methods

    Communicating with other humans is vital, and the more ways to do so, the better. I feel there are some relationships best kept more intimate than text-only. The truth is, it's so easy to fall into text or social media only lifestyle, but we need real human interaction sometimes, right? That's why I want to share the benefits and my personal preferences for each type of communication.

  • The Social Lover: Your Guide To Having More Communicative Sex

    Your partner spanked you for the first time the other night and you loved it, but now they ask you how far you want to take things— You struggle with your response.

  • Three Is Company

    Polysexuality is an alternative to polyamory. Instead of having emotional and romantic feelings for many partners (polyamory), you have just a sexual relationship with more than one partner.

  • Hiding Behind A Mask For The Freedom To Experiment.

    What to do when you are a shy exhibitionist with a lot to lose? When you want to be watched--but not recognized? When you want to watch and play, but fear the risk of exposure? What is the one thing that can give you the freedom to release your inhibitions and let it all go?

  • Eden Lit Club: October Story Starts and All Things Fall!

    The air is crisp, colors are exploding all over, and school is well into its first semester. We're all gathering up and settling down for the winter. The Eden Lit Club is also settling in and harvesting all the creative energy.

  • Shut Up and Kiss Me

    I have undeniable sexual chemistry with my boyfriend. We can’t lay next to each other without going at it like bunnies. I never want to lose that, but sometimes I just want to enjoy kissing without worrying about what happens next.

  • The Cock Ring

    Put a ring on it and make it go longer! Benefits and some of the types of rings.

  • First Time Tips

    While many feel society falsely portrays ‘the first time’ as magical and are consequently disappointed, I was led to believe the opposite and was happily surprised. I am here to tell you that giving away your virginity can be a positive experience if it is with the right person and if you prepare properly.

  • The Spirituality of Sex

    Do you like sex? Do you like ambiance? If there's one thing we learned from ice-cream sandwiches, it's that good things are always better combined. (Or, well, usually, at any rate. We received quite a different message from jalapeno jelly beans.)

  • How to court a poly person

    Pursuing a poly person is different from pursuing a single monogamous individual. There are more people involved than just the two of you that are going to impact whether you are successful or not. Here are some pointers about how to approach things.

  • Beginner's Guide to Anal Play

    Anal sex can be an exciting addition to your bedroom. And although it may seem overwhelming, with a little preparation and patience, it can be an enjoyable experience, perhaps one that you'd like to make a regular occurrence.

  • Candy Cum!

    Ever wonder why your partner never wants to give you oral? It might be your diet! Here's a bit of information on how to make your cum taste delicious and which foods to avoid.

  • Light and Sex

    Does turning off the lights actually contribute to us being turned on? This article is all about how light affects our bodies, our mood and by extension, our sexual experience.

  • All The Crap That Can Go Wrong With Our Cooches

    STD testing: a necessary evil that all sexually active people must partake in at least once in their lives. Fortunately I am disease free today at 36 years of age. But that's because of my horseshoes up my arse, so to speak. For females there are a number of things that can go awry in your reproductive system. Some are STDs while others just mimic the symptoms. Here's my personal account of a bunch of issues I and my body have had to face.

  • The Steel Clit: A How-To On Dealing With A Stubborn Clitoris

    Not everyone has those wonderfully sensitive, easy clits that can get off from a few light rubs of a finger. Some of us have clits of steel that are so stubborn that sometimes the hours spent attempting just aren't worth the orgasm! What do you do with a clit that just won't give in? You've got options and you're not alone!

  • Sensual Massage!

    You don't know what passionate lovemaking is without the most intimate kind of foreplay. Massages are stress relieving, they enhance immunity, improve circulation and joint flexibility, and can even lessen depression and anxiety.

  • Kink: Convenient and Cost-Effective

    So we talked about household items that can stand in for kink toys. But what about the festishes you can't replace with a ping pong paddle?

  • Butt Toy Breakdown

    Because there are so many different butt toys on the market, some that often beget a ‘wtf is that for?’, I figured I’d explain what the most common products are and what they’re used for.

  • Submissive Journals: A How To Guide

    As promised, this is part 2 of my previous post on submissive journals. In this section, I will focus on how to start and maintain your own Sub journal. As well as a starting guide, I will include helpful tips and tricks for writing and formatting your journal, things to consider when choosing a site, important posts to include in your journal, writing prompts, suggestions, and ideas to help you get started.

  • How Far is Too Far?

    A recent French movie shattered mainstream cinematic expectations by incorporating scenes of real sex in place of the usual simulation. And a lot of people got very upset. Were you one of them? A few thoughts on a theme of the movie world’s final frontier.

  • Beginner's BDSM: What It Means To Be Submissive

    You love sex, particularly kinky sex. But how do you know if you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, and become truly submissive?

  • Letter from the Editor: Two Contests and New Types of Submissions!

    You guys are always writing in with topic suggestions, and questions about what kinds of topics we'll accept, and when we're holding our next contest. So we figured we'd give you a quick update, including some information on where to find things.

  • BDSM 101

    So you're interested in learning more about BDSM or even ready to start going down that road? Read on and I'll describe a few of the things that you might want to try out, without sending you running for the hills.

  • How To Make Your Own Amateur Porn Not Suck

    If your going to make porn at home, you may as well know how!

  • Strip Teaser - The Art of Ultra Sexy Exotic Dance at Home

    Dare to experience something new in your love life? Surprise your lover with a sexy striptease at home!

  • Anal play!

    This is just a quick guide for anyone who's interested in anal play or penetration, with some tips I've picked up on through personal experience.

  • Blowjob Tips!

    This is just a quick little guide along with some tips for how to get better at giving blowjobs, based on personal experience.

  • Touch your dang wiener, or how am I writing this if I'm blind?

    I certainly hope that any male browsing through SexIs knows the joys of masturbation, if not you should be masturbating. Male masturbation has many physical, emotional, and even sexual benefits. You can trust me on this, I've been doing it since I was twelve. I've practically got a PhD in waxing the dolphin. (Warning this article will contain several euphemisms for spanking the monkey.)

  • The Beginner's Guide to Strap On Play

    Interested in learning more about strap on harnesses and dildos? Do you like the idea of penetrating a partner with a strap on dildo? Read on to learn about both harnesses and dildos!

  • Cuffs, Chains, and Rope; OH MY!

    Some of us get all tingly at the thought of our partner tying us up. There is something intoxicating about one half of the equation being at a complete disadvantage. There are more options on how to go about doing this than one who think at first glance.

  • Paddle Shopping

    Paddles are pretty iconic to spanking games. They are easy and not complicated to use. A lot of people feel more comfortable with a paddle than any other spanking toy when they are first trying BDSM. All paddles are not created equal. They feel and respond differently depending on how and what they are made of. This is a quick a dirty guide to help you select the paddle that fits you.

  • Making Noise

    Who doesn’t like positive feedback? I mean, when you are working hard, it’s really nice to know that you are making a good impression. For some, it is hard to vocalize their enjoyment. I have oscillated from being a talker, moaner, and silent companion depending on what my relationships are like. I have found that the more feedback I give and receive; the better the sex is for everyone.

  • Eden Lit Club: What's going on in September?

    Everyone writes poetry. This was our premise in August and it was a rousing success! It turns out our community does, indeed, write poetry. As we continue to reorganize and redefine our club as an entity, we learn more about our unique skills and not a small amount about ourselves as individuals.

  • The Handy-Dandy Guide to Clitoral Vibrators

    Are you thinking about getting a clitoral vibrator but not sure where to start? I’m here to help!

  • Fun with Blow Jobs

    Check out this article for some fun tips to stimulate your partner during oral sex.

  • Flogger Shopping

    Picking out a flogger is like picking out a new pair of sexy shoes. You need it to be comfortable enough but without sacrificing an ounce of style. Floggers, unfortunately, are expensive, making them a group of sex toys that aren't really cost effective to experiment with.

    Never fear! Krissy Novacaine is here with some things to consider when flogger shopping.

  • You want to do what?

    The art of negotiating a BDSM scene is a delicate balance between brutal honesty and fantasy. Both people have to walk the line between maintaining the illusion of an exchange of power while still maintaining clear boundaries. Many authors that write about BDSM stress the importance of negotiation, but they don’t tell you how to go about it. No one is going to have the exact same negotiation needs, but there is a general guideline to how this whole process can be done.

  • HOLY MOTHER OF...STOP!

    Safe words are an iconic part of BDSM play for a reason. They maintain the integrity of the role play while still giving the individuals a way to end play immediately. Safe words are an important thing to think about.

  • BDSM Etiquette and Involvement

    OK, so you are venturing into the BDSM community and aren’t sure how to interact. What do you need to know? How do you not offend people? Here are some tips and tricks for navigating the kink community.

  • Submission in a few of its forms.

    There are as many ways to submit as there are people in the world submitting, but there are a few different ways that these get lumped together.

  • Music to Set the Mood

    Music is something that can elevate, or totally destroy a sexual encounter. Everyone has their own idea of music to create a vibe, and almost everyone's is different.

  • Strip Club Etiquette

    A visit to the strip club can be a thrilling, exciting, eye opening experience. As both a sometimes stripper and strip club client, I would like to share with readers how to make the best of your trip to the nudie bar...and how not to make a fool of yourself!

  • 10 Steps to Making Your Own Summer Romance

    When people think of a ‘summer romance,’ a very distinct image comes to mind. You know the one. Two people on a sexual adventure free of hassles, commitment, or drama. Everyone dreams of this at one point or another, but before you start fantasizing about what could be, humor me for a minute.

  • How to pick and clean your toys!

    Whether you're an expert or a novice, you always want to make an informed decision before buying a product. Keeping your toys clean is always recommended, but there's a lot more to it.

  • Feeling Beautiful After Hate

    Have you ever had something happen to make you feel lesser? Many things can lead to this: rape, an abusive relationship, or even just a friend who likes to put you down. Feeling beautiful after that can be a long hard road; it was for me.

  • Guide to Sex Toys for Men

    This is a really basic article covering how to get started using male masturbators. It's all based off personal experience however I feel it will be accurate information for all.

  • Anal For Beginners

    Feel like experimenting with anal, but not exactly sure where to start? It's not as complicated as it may seem, check it out!

  • So You Wanna Try Bondage?

    Maybe you've wanted to try it for a while, or you just read some spicy erotica that spiked your interest, but either way you want to try bondage. Now the only thing you're trying to do is figure out where the heck to start, right?

  • Eden Lit Club

    The Eden Lit Club is cleaning out and redecorating its clubhouse! It's an exciting time for the club as we are changing, rearranging and redefining who and what we are.

  • Cyber Sex Part Two

    Do your fingers freeze up at the keyboard trying to figure out what to say during cybersex? Can you think of anything besides mmmmmmmm....or oh yeah baby. Unable to find anything on the internet I have gathered some examples that I would like to share with you.

  • Move Over, G-Spot: The Anterior Fornix is Here

    For decades, the G-spot has reigned supreme as the marvelous, magical, mystical erogenous zone inside the vagina. But did you know there's an often-overlooked hot spot just a couple of inches north of the G-spot? It's called the anterior fornix, and it just might change your life.

  • My First Days as a Dom

    I thought I would be rough and tough. But instead, I ended up being a weepy mess, afraid that I was breaking my husband.

  • BDSM Training Schools Online

    School is in session for Dominants and Submissives alike with several online institutions to choose from offering everything from the basics of BDSM to the intricacies of specific fetishes, relationships and even legal matters.

  • Cyber Me Sexy

    Where, how, and why would you want to have cybersex? Where do you find someone with similar needs and what should you expect?

  • When The Bread of Your Relationship is Getting Stale and Dry

    Let’s be honest; there are always new products and ideas for spicing up your sex life, but what about the non-related sex aspect of the relationship? It’s like a loaf of bread. After awhile of just sitting there, it becomes hard, perhaps a bit moldy, and just unappealing all around. So what can we do?

  • The Diary Of A Girl Who Just Wants To Be Loved

    This is a story about a girl who is trying to live each day without going insane. She is up, she is down, she is all around. She makes choices and fights battles with herself and others. She likes hard extreme kinky sex and wants it more often but can't seem to find the courage. She is trying to find herself, and I'll let you know when she does. Who is this girl? She's driving in the rain. She wants some sunshine out of it all.

  • Domestic Submission

    Submission doesn't always have to involve whips and chains. Sometimes, the best way to prove your desire to submit to your dominant is to perform domestic duties that may seem mundane but are always helpful.

  • Feeling Off Balance

    As we women grow older we face certain milestones: Childhood, Menarche, Motherhood, Menopause, Cronehood. Sometimes we have the luxury of just waiting and watching it all happen and sometimes we have to take matters into our own hands. There is often a feeling of excitement about the change in our lives and sometimes there is a touch of sadness about moving on.

  • The Rules of Safety: D/s Relationships

    Recently BDSM has been ushered into the mainstream. Let's take a look at the basic rules you should know about before engaging in play.

  • How to properly care for a Fleshlight!

    As a Frequent FLyer, I currently own 22 different fleshlights, and after a little trial and error, I've found a simple and safe way to care for your fleshlight(s)! With a few simple materials you can keep your fleshlights as good as new for a very long time.

  • How to Help Cure DGS (Death-Grip Syndrome)

    Do you sometimes not finish in bed? Do you find yourself grabbing yourself quite roughly? Chances are you have DGS, more commonly known as Death-Grip Syndrome. Don't worry, it's curable! If you want to figure out how to help cure this, read this article!

  • Respect for the Small Soldier

    I am asking you today to give a respectful salute to a soldier who has gone on many a mission, sometimes grueling and even dangerous ones, to bring pleasure to couples, threesomes and moresomes in whatever rooms we may choose to rut and copulate. He’s lean and helmeted, often with a functional but flimsy hood over his helmet, but he has a tough job sometimes. Also, he makes mistakes. But let us treat him with dignity, and allow me to help you understand him a bit better.

  • Buyers Guide: Heating Up and Cooling Down with EdenFantasys

    When you think of summer, what comes to mind? The spark of fireworks as they explode in the night sky? The heat of the air drying your lips and skin? Fiery passion with a new-found lover? ? How, exactly, do you stoke it? Everyone's way is different. Let us give you some pointers.

  • Lube: You should use it.

    So many erotic novels make becoming aroused out to be some simple, five-second thing. Us girls know the truth. Here's a handy guide to the different types of lube you can use for... well, whatever!

  • Buyers Guide: Be Playful! Express Your Love with Toys!

    How do you express your love? Do you buy your lover something cute you know they’ll enjoy? Maybe you take them out on a date and come prepared? Perhaps you express your love by taking care of the environment? Whatever the form of expression you use, we’ve got something for you.

  • Buyers Guide for a Sexy YOU!

    What makes you feel sexy? What’s more important: feeling sexy or looking sexy? How do you define “sexy”? Still looking for your “sexy”? Let us help you along with this Buyers Guide for a Sexy YOU.

  • Valentine's Day Gift Guide: Simple, Sexy, Fun Edition

    Valentine’s Day is one of the most complex, pressure-laced holidays, gift-giving wise. You’re set up to believe you can’t just pop off to the market and grab any old thing to take back to your romantic interest.

  • The (Sex) Toy Story

    Ruminations from a middle-aged man who thought the sexual revolution was over, somebody lost, and things were pretty much the same.

  • With This Ring…A Buyer’s Guide to Cock Rings

    So you say you’re ready to get your Frodo on and try your very first cock ring? First, you’ll want to know the ins and outs of getting it in and out, from safety to texture, and ultimately to decking out your member in style.

  • The Bottom Line: A Buyers Guide for Anal Toys

    There are some things in life which demand that you throw caution to the wind and just jump in cold...but who wants something cold in their butt? Check out our guide to picking out the perfect pucker-toy.

  • Toys for Boys: A Trans Men’s Buyer’s Guide

    Hard packies, soft packies, packing straps, and the mindset that one size does not indeed fit all – if you’re looking for a new cock, we’ve got you covered.

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