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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Mar. 17, 2010
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by Forbidden Light,
Mar. 03, 2010
In every city, hundreds of beautiful men and women are including sexual activity into their massage practice. Alternatively, could it be that they are involving massage in their sex work? Nudity, mutual touch and sexual stimulation are becoming common complementary features to therapeutic touch…. There’s always been a thin line between massage parlors and cathouses—if any distinction at all.
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by Tobi,
Mar. 02, 2010
Every gender identity has its own rules for social interaction. It’s when you step into the larger world that etiquette gets a little tricky. You meet someone. You fall “in like.” Finding the right moment to reveal you’re transgendered requires tact, timing and, sometimes... a little luck.
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by ErinORiordan,
Feb. 26, 2010
Lesbian? Gay? Bi-curious? Straight. Sexual identification isn’t always etched in stone. Sometimes, you can’t tell who the players are, even when you have the scorecard.
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Feb. 17, 2010
Immediately in the city everything is just as hard as you’ve always heard it is: the disgusting humid summers. Finding an apartment. Getting a job. Locating friends. But the subways become easy, once you get the hang of it, and Manhattan is comprehensible, once you orient yourself. Be careful not to over-orient: you will change.
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by Johnny Murdoc,
Feb. 11, 2010
Unsatisfied with the fare dished out by mainstream media, many gay voices are seeking out and creating their own vehicles of self-expression—and in the process, re-inventing print in their own image.
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by G.L. Morrison,
Feb. 08, 2010
My lover made up a modern proverb: “A woman who loves her belly loves her body.” I don’t think it will catch on. It’s true that women, particularly modern women in Western culture, have a love-hate (or even a hate-hate) relationship with their bellies. Why? What did that sweet bump of skin (located as it is under the two much glamorized and beloved fat-bags) do to deserve such scorn?
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by Sinclair Sexsmith,
Feb. 03, 2010
If New York City was on Facebook, our relationship status would say “It’s Complicated.” I love her, I do; I have idolized her since I was a kid, watching all my favorite cheesy eighties movies like Big Business, The Secret of My Success, and Big, over and over again. Our culture mythologizes her, paints her as the place to be, so full of potential. She might even be The One.
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by Roland Hulme,
Jan. 19, 2010
When Sir Arthur Conan Doyle penned the first Sherlock Holmes story in 1887, he had no idea he was breathing life into what would eventually become the greatest crime-fighting franchise in history. Neither did Doyle realize he’d inadvertently sparked one of the most enduring debates of modern literature—the question of the Great Detective’s sexuality.
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by Tobi,
Jan. 05, 2010
It’s hard to understand non-binary pronouns when you don’t understand non-binary gender—which is often the reason for using non-binary pronouns. The best way I can explain it is to walk you through my own process.
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by Lady J,
Jan. 01, 2010
My first real girl crush didn’t occur until I was well into my 20s. Sure, I’d had my share of the typical and varied female relationships—female friends whom I loved like sisters, female rock stars I’d idolized, girls I deeply admired for their beauty, wit, charm, or intelligence—I’d loved many, many women in my life. But I’d never actually been turned on by one. Until recently...
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by Johnny Murdoc,
Dec. 28, 2009
According to John 4:8: “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” Proponents of the Westboro Baptist Church, however, preach that God is hate—if you’re gay, that is. See how one community’s protest united people from all walks of life to baptize these divisive miscreants with the waters of truthiness, and banish evil from their midst.
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by Mandy Van Deven,
Dec. 03, 2009
The July 2, 2009 ruling of Naz Foundation v. Government of NCT Delhi decriminalized homosexuality in India, and the world declared this a groundbreaking victory for the Indian gay rights movement. While India going gay made for sensational news, the issue that caught the world’s attention wasn’t actually the primary focus of the ruling. The issue at its heart of was HIV/AIDS.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Dec. 02, 2009
My first exposure to someone with AIDS happened in my late teens. My friend John, the man who both demystified gay male sexuality for me, and helped me understand what it was like to be a sexual minority, introduced me to a friend of his: a handsome young man who was in hospice care, waiting for the inevitable.
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by Judy Cole,
Dec. 01, 2009
Seeing the future doesn’t mean you can change it. Remembering the past won’t keep it the same. But sometimes, though separated by long years and even death, a friendship can endure.
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by Elizabeth,
Dec. 01, 2009
Two decades as an HIV educator and counting.
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by Dr Dick,
Nov. 16, 2009
Institutionalized homophobia is rooted in a fear and hatred of women. The dominant culture enshrines male privilege and punishes anyone who attempts to undercut the paradigm. Discrimination is so widespread, ingrained—and sometimes so subtle—that many non-gay people don’t even notice most of it. But those of us on the receiving end of the bigotry are keenly aware.
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by Johnny Murdoc,
Nov. 12, 2009
This is a familiar story, like every other story about a broken heart.
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by Rabbit White,
Oct. 21, 2009
Who doesn’t remember their first crush? I was four years old; she was my Sunday School teacher, tall with pale skin and long sandy brown hair nipping just above her waist. I remember feeling excited by her, romantic toward her. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with her but I had fantasies of grandly sweeping her away to do...something.
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by Dr Dick,
Oct. 05, 2009
Dr. Dick weighs in with a little talk about sexual identify, just in time for National Coming Out Day.
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by Daniel W Kelly,
Sep. 25, 2009
In our melting pot of a world, it’s not uncommon for individuals to speak more than one language—Spanish, Italian, Chinese…Gay? Yep, like most subcultures, the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender (LGBT) community has created its own dialect over the years. No, it’s not a full-fledged alien language; more like ‘street’ talk that intermingles with everyday speak.
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by Dr Dick,
Sep. 14, 2009
Can we talk about sexual orientation for a bit? I sure hope so, because I’m gonna go ahead and launch into it here, if you’re ready or not.
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by Tobi,
Aug. 27, 2009
Courtney Trouble, already well known in queer porn circles for her 6-year-running queer porn website, nofauxxx.com, has recently gained additional notoriety for her new film Roulette. In April she received the Feminist Porn Award for Most Deliciously Diverse Cast, and recently NoFauxxx was named The Best Queer Porn of the Bay by the San Francisco Bay Guardian.
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by sarahdopp,
Aug. 21, 2009
We find ourselves and we find our loves in our own unique ways – that’s just how it happens to be. For a whole bunch of us, this means we get caught in a closet (or ten) somewhere along the line. Fortunately, we get to decide for ourselves whether or not (and how) we want to come out of those closets. There’s a lot to consider.
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by Daniel W Kelly,
Aug. 13, 2009
Could there be a better time than right now to be gay in a society on the verge of transformation? We have both the freedom to be out and in love and just enough limits to our rights to keep us from taking them for granted.
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by Gabe,
Aug. 06, 2009
There are some issues that go with moving which are pretty universal. Others are a little more unique to me as a trans man. I’ve thus assembled a checklist of Things to Be Taken Care Of—The TG Guide to Transitioning Towns, if you will. Read on!
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by Tobi,
Jul. 31, 2009
Being a trans woman myself, and having dated a number of other trans women, I occasionally have people ask me for tips or advice on being sexual as or with a trans woman.
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by Sexis Editors,
Jun. 25, 2009
The 40th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots takes place this Sunday. Sexis takes a look back at what Stonewall meant then, and what it means to this day.
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by Gabe,
Apr. 10, 2009
What are some of the ways by which transgendered persons can best obtain the physical characteristics they’re looking for?
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by Citi Kittie,
Mar. 24, 2009
It’s not easy for a guy to question his sexuality, but it’s something almost all guys do at some point. Exploring your sexuality is a human right - and it can even be a lot of fun!
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by Daniel W Kelly,
Mar. 19, 2009
“I know it when I see it.” That was former U.S. Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart, on his decidedly un-scientific approach to discerning what pornography might be, back in 1964. Gay porn on the other hand was not always so blatant during its years of gestation, ranging from beefcake fitness mags to steamy pulp novels, before hardbodies went finally went hardcore.
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by SaucySarah,
Mar. 07, 2009
You’re a woman. You have a boyfriend, but you just can’t stop fantasizing about your best female friend’s mouth and how good it’d feel on your skin. Are you bisexual or what?
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by Daniel W Kelly,
Mar. 07, 2009
Contrary to some small minded, popular beliefs, being gay isn’t based on sweaty bar hookups and showtunes. Get real, and get a grip – being gay is as individual as your social security number.
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