BDSM Guide Sex Guides and Tips
by Double D, aka Delilah Douglas

Flogging

Flogging is the act of striking a person during BDSM play, more specifically S&M play, with a hitting instrument (whip, flogger/cat-o-nine tails, crop, etc.) as opposed to a part of the body (spanking).

With any flogging toy, the shorter the tails, paddle, cane or shaft, the more control you will have over the strike and the easier it will be for inexperienced players. The best strike zones for flogging are relaxed muscular or fatty areas away from joints, organs, bones that are close to the surface, major arteries and veins, all of which can cause health problems if bruised. Before using any pain-inducing toy (flogger, nipple clamps, etc.), first use it on yourself to know what sensations you are working with. This is not only to protect the player receiving the sensation, but also to hone your skills wielding the toy. Practice makes PERFECT: perfect pain and perfect pleasure. HAVE FUN!

Flogger/ Flogging:
This hitting instrument is the most commonly recognizable BDSM toy in popular culture; so much that the term is now used to represent all instruments of its nature. The device itself is also known as a Cat-O-Nine Tails and is essentially a whip with many tails/thongs. Multiple
Beginners try
Rubber whip junior
Rubber whip junior
Eagles whip
Eagles whip
leather or synthetic strips are connected to a handle and can be wielded in any number of techniques and intensities.

The most common technique is making a figure 8 using mostly wrist movement; the forearm rotates and the upper arm is stationary. One figure 8 will cause the flogger to strike twice in a fluid motion. Floggers can make a variety of different markings because they have a very diverse range of movement. With enough practice the flogger can be manipulated so all tails compress together to strike a concentrated area or flail out over a larger strike zone.

More experienced players try:
Strap whip
Strap whip
Thong whip
Thong whip
Pony play whip royal
Pony play whip royal
Cane:
A slim stick used for inflicting a quick, stinging pain that was the primary weapon of corporal punishment from school teachers in previous years. It is typically made of rattan, bamboo, or plastic. The very end of the cane moves fastest, so the intensity of the initial sting is lessened if the point of contact is lower on the cane.
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Feathers on a bamboo cane
Feathers on a bamboo cane
More experienced players try
Bamboo cane
Bamboo cane

The end of the cane will produce a mark that will resemble two parallel lines (welts) straddling a bruise because it compresses the skin as it makes contact. The bruise represents the initial sting and the two welts represent the hot, aching after-effect of the cane. Canes take a little practice to master the degrees of intensity, so try using it on yourself before you subject another player to the lashing.

Crop:
Or Riding Crop is a stick-like striking implement with a small flap of leather (or leather-like) material at the tip. It is commonly used in horseback riding to gain a little speed in the saddle. The crop can be used in a number of ways that vary the intensity of the blows.
Beginners try
Mini crop medium tip
Mini crop medium tip
Riding crop
Riding crop
More experienced players try
Narrow tip crop
Narrow tip crop
Heart bat
Heart bat

With a flick of the wrist and an almost stationary arm it can produce a small slap to the skin. With the addition of even the slightest bit of arm movement it can produce a deep bruise. If struck with a stationary wrist, the slap of the leather will be accompanied by a stinging sensation from the tip of the stick. This stick is much like a cane and is usually made from similar materials but a bit denser. This will produce a deep bruise that might welt like a cane mark, depending on the strength of the blow. Crops with a stationary, rigid tab at the end are known as "bats" and are meant for small, quick slaps.

Paddle:
A hitting implement with a handle and a wider, more solid area of contact than other "floggers." It resembles a ping pong/ table tennis paddle and was also used as a disciplinary tool in
Beginners try
Paddle cheetah fur
Paddle cheetah fur
Lip paddle
Lip paddle
Heart paddle
Heart paddle
classrooms. Most people who are familiar with fraternity and sorority hazing are familiar with its use for corporal and ritual punishment. It is traditionally made of wood, but S&M versions are made of leather (or leather-like material) or plastic. Sometimes the paddle will be covered in a soft material like plush, fur, or velvet; some styles are adorned with spikes or flaps with designs to imprint on the skin.
More experienced players try
Studded paddle
Studded paddle

Paddles provide a spanking pain, but without the frailty of the human hand. In other words, it is a very intense pain, much stronger than a hand spanking. One must be careful when paddling to not hit too hard, too deep, or too frequently to avoid bruising of muscle tissue. The sexy, large bruises produced by safe paddling are the results of the breakage of blood vessels in the skin, not the muscle tissue.

Whip:
A hitting instrument that is characterized by a handle with a leather or synthetic tail. Most people are familiar with the bull whip used by Catwoman. Bull whips tend to have long tails and are extremely difficult to use for any purpose (especially BDSM play). They are not recommended for this reason, but many whips with shorter tails are available for BDSM use.
Beginners try
Whip tip crop
Whip tip crop
More experienced players try
Viper tongue
Viper tongue for a different take on the classic whip

Quirts are whips with very short tails (sometimes a split tail resembling a serpent's tongue) and are far easier to use than the common BDSM whip. All whips leave a stinging sensation and a thin, red welt (or lash) that will vary in length depending on the stroke. With a certain degree of force ANY whip can draw blood, so be very careful and practice.

Flogging Health Concerns:
There are types of BDSM play that may draw blood; accidentally or purposely. To avoid drawing blood, practice with the flogger/hitting instrument and learn to control the depth and intensity of the blows. If blood does appear, it is best to use the SAFEWORD and stop the scene. Do not touch the bleeding area with bare hands; the blood may contain harmful pathogens (HIV/AIDS). Use latex gloves when cleaning up the blood, wash the area with antibacterial soap (plus your hands and the flogger afterward), then treat with antibacterial ointment or rubbing alcohol, and then cover with a sterile bandage. It is recommended that you have a first aid kit (equipped with latex gloves) if you participate in flogging.

Most flogging causes bruising and swelling of the targeted area; some people like to wear their bruises as memories of their play or badges of courage and accomplishment. Here are some important facts about bruising.

  1. Safe bruising during BDSM play is caused by the breakage of small blood vessels under the skin. They spread out over areas larger than the actual point of contact. The area that might sting from a riding crop could be the size of a quarter, but the bruise will most likely be the size of a silver dollar.
  2. It is unsafe to strike a player so hard that the bruise occurs in the soft tissue below the skin. This takes much longer to fully heal than the 2-4 week healing time of skin bruises.
  3. Some people bruise more easily than others; women tend to bruise easier than men; older people bruise easier than younger people; fat bruises easier than muscle; bruising easily is a genetic trait as well. Stay healthy; bruising occurs frequently in people who do not get enough B12, iron, folic acid, and other important vitamins.
  4. If you plan of taking medication for the pain, take acetaminophen (Tylenol), not aspirin, ibuprofen (Advil), or naproxen (Aleve) all of which thin the blood.
  5. To decrease swelling, apply ice to the area immediately after play for 10 to 20 minutes and continue 3 times a day for the next few days. In addition to ice packs, you can apply arnica topical treatment (found at most health food stores) to decrease swelling. Arnica is a plant that reduces swelling and the pain caused by it, the plant also causes the blood to reabsorb faster.
  6. If bruises last more than 4 weeks, it's time to see a doctor because it could be something serious, such as a sprain or red blood vessel damage.