BDSM Guide Sex Guides and Tips
by Double D, aka Delilah Douglas

Sensation Play

Activities that manipulate the five senses. Some activities are for stimulation and involve creating a new or uncommon experience for the senses. The use of pain stimulation such as spanking or nipple clamps is referred to as S&M (Sadomasochism). Another way to stimulate the senses is inducing a feeling of pleasure; for example, with a vibrator. Some other activities are for sensory deprivation and involve restricting the player's senses, such as the use of a blindfold. The scope of this sexual exploration is never-ending; people are always coming up with new ways to play. Hot wax, ice, whips, incense, ball gags, feather dusters, and just about anything else you can think of can be used for sensation play.

Sensory Deprivation:
A form of sensation play where a Sub's senses (sight, hearing, taste, scent, touch) are restricted. This can be accomplished by using bondage restraints. Limiting physical movement is a type of sensory deprivation because we interpret and identify objects by using our sense of touch (with our hands); and, if we are unable to use our primary means of identification (mostly sight, sound, and touch), we can become frustrated and disoriented, but also more aware of our other senses as in the belief that some blind people develop better hearing.

In BSDM play, the Dom has the ability to take away that which makes the Sub understand the world around him/her. The Sub must sexually surrender and give all trust over to the Dom as a blind person would a Seeing Eye dog or a deaf person would a sign language interpreter. It also helps a Sub to focus on the pure sensation of what a Dom is doing. Blindfolds are used not only as a means of blocking out other stimuli but for the element of surprise; a Sub may not know to expect pleasure or pain and cannot see if the Dom is holding a vibrator or a crop.

Ideas for Sensation and Sensory Deprivation Play:
Start off by having your Sub lie down on a bed or table. Have the Sub lay face-up with his/her legs spread apart, hands at the sides or above the head. You should have the Sub wear a blindfold and ear plugs; if you choose, you can restrain your Sub as well. After the Sub has the blindfold and ear plugs on, gather whatever toys and supplies you will be using on him/her. This will not only keep your Sub in suspense of what you will be using, but also gives him/her the opportunity to get into the frame of mind needed for sexual surrender.

Here are a few ways to stimulate your partner; these objects can be used in a number of ways, but these are just a few suggestions.

String/ Shoe Lace/ Ribbon/ Silk Scarf- Take the string at one end, let the loose end drag continuously over the Sub's body. Be gentle and deliberate with the placement, as well as the motion of the string. Bring it close to the Sub's genitals, but don't make direct contact. Try starting from one leg, continuing across the torso, and then down the other leg. Don't forget about the feet and hands.

Warm Water (bath temperature) and a Small Paintbrush- Take the paintbrush and dip it into the water. Hold one end of the brush firmly between your fingers and, with the other hand, flick/tap the end of the brush just below the bristles. This will create a light sprinkle of water on your Sub. Do this in various locations on your Sub's body; be unpredictable about where the next sprinkle of water will go. Eventually, take the wet brush and paint long, languid strokes on your Sub's hips and inner thighs. Then paint up around the nipples, continue to the neck, and gently behind the ears. You can choose to use it on the genitals, but be sure the brush is brand new.

Ice and a Drinking Straw- With the ice cube, gently touch it to the Sub's shoulder, but only for a second. Bring the ice to his/her chest, gently circle around the areolas, and then make contact with nipples. Let the ice cube sit on his/her chest or stomach (if it falls off, you might save this technique for the back). Take another ice cube and rub it around the Sub's ankle. Lift the leg a little and run the ice from the ankle to the area behind the knee, keep doing this back and forth and then do the same for the other leg. Take the ice and bring it to the Sub's genitals; rub the ice in soft concentric circles around the head of the penis or the clitoris of the Sub. Occasionally bring the ice down the length of the shaft or around the outer labia. When there is a nice little puddle on your Sub's chest or stomach (from the ice you left on it), take the straw and gently blow through it to push the water around his/her torso.

Sex toys in Sensation Play- Almost ANY sex toy can be used during sensation play to tantalize a Sub. Toys designed for long term, wearable enjoyment are often utilized in this type of play. These toys provide constant stimulation while worn; this can open up the body to receive more heighten and attentive responses to other forms of stimulation (such as those listed above).

Nipple clamps provide a pinching pressure as well as weighted tug. They come in a variety of styles that range in intensity, some which have vibrators attached to the clips. Just remember that the longer you leave the clamps on, the more painful it will be when they are removed and the blood rushes back to the area. For more information, see the section on Clamps.

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Butt plugs give a feeling of fullness that really stimulates the vast number of nerve endings found in the anus and rectum. If something causes the Sub to squirm while wearing the plug, it can brush up against the sensitive prostate in men or hit a woman's g-spot from behind. The butt plug can also be taken out just be orgasm for a real power surge effect.

If your Sub is a man, a vibrating cock ring can provide a constant source of stimulation. Most varieties are perfect for resting on the perineum (the area between the scrotum and the anus) which provides an indirect manipulation of the prostate without having to penetrate. Please see the section on Cock Rings for more information.

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If your Sub is a woman, a great sensation toy is the strap on clitoral vibrator which keeps a steady stimulation to your Sub's most pleasurable area. Other versions of this vibrator penetrate for g-spot stimulation in addition to clitoral vibration; watch out it can get intense, but it will drive her wild.

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