It's important to keep in mind that some women are not and never will be receptive to G-spot stimulation. Some even find the experience irritating, so be sure to communicate with your partner, and let them know just what feels good and what doesn't. Having said that, a lack of stimulus is the most common cause of unresponsiveness in the G-spot; in which case, it can usually be "reactivated" with proper stimulation and pelvic exercises. Building up your pelvic muscles is a great way to enhance your sex life in general, and the Energie™ vibrator is a great way to do it with.
All about the big "O"
People have reported having orgasms stimulated through many different parts of the body, but the clitoris and G-spot are the main vehicles. G-spot orgasms create contractions around the uterus, and clitoral orgasms, which are generally more meteoric, create contractions in the pelvic floor; experiencing both types of orgasms at the same time has been described by many as a kind of synergetic orgasm that you can feel much deeper within the body.
Though having a lover rub your G-spot can be oh-so fun, we recommend flying solo on your first mission. This way you'll be better prepared to tell your co-pilot exactly how you like it when the time comes. By any standards, masturbation is the bare minimum for sexual experimentation. On the other hand, it can be more difficult to reach and stimulate the G-spot on your own than with a partner, so we'll go over positions and strategies for both. There are several G-spot-friendly positions that we'll mention, but using the fingers is generally considered more effective.
First of all, and we can't stress this enough: make sure your (or your partner's) nails are neatly trimmed. Start off by playing with yourself the way you normally would, devoting as much time as you like to the clitoris (some women prefer to climax at least once before going for the G-spot.) Setting the right mood with candles, music or whatever turns you on will also help you get aroused and ready for G-spot play.
Once sufficiently "pre-heated," use your index and middle finger to locate your G-spot as previously mentioned. The best position for this is squatting or lying on your stomach. Be sure to massage with lots of pressure in a continuous motion at first-we're sure you'll have your own favorite method before long. You may experience discomfort or a desire to urinate during the first couple of minutes; this feeling is absolutely normal and should quickly change into a highly pleasurable one. In addition, it might be helpful to press against the G-spot with your other hand from the opposite side; sometimes you can feel it swell between your hands.
Reaching your own G-spot isn't exactly convenient, and even if you do, maintaining firm and steady pressure can be even more of a challenge. That's why many women prefer to have a partner stimulate their G-spot.
Start out lying on your stomach with your legs apart and your hips raised. (This position is just a suggestion-lying on your back with your knees up is also a popular position.) Have your partner crook his fingers downward towards your navel and massage your G-spot with a firm and consistent touch. Tell your partner to feel free to experiment with circling, rocking or any other kinds of motions until you have a favorite, and be sure to give him or her lots of feedback. Communication is a lot more important than it may seem; if you tell your partner you enjoyed something you didn't, he or she is going to repeat it over and over. Your partner will most likely be willing to obey your every command in the bedroom anyway, so don't be afraid to get a little selfish.
One of the best things about having a partner "at hand" is the following position. Once his or her fingers are massaging your G-spot, their thumb should be in perfect position to play with your clitoris. Even better, have your partner use their tongue instead! It seems so simple, yet it can add a whole new dimension to your sex life.
One last method we'll mention, although it's not for everybody, is fisting; fisting is the most sure-fire way to enhance awareness of the G-spot, and who knows, it might become your favorite way to stimulate it as well.
Until all the way up to the late 20th century, it was believed that a female's ejaculation resulting from a G-spot orgasm consisted of urine. This was in large part due to the urge to pee when the G-spot is first stimulated. In fact, the G-spot is quite similar to the prostate, and female ejaculate is just like semen without the sperm.
Some women never ejaculate, some ejaculate on arousal and some upon orgasms. It's important to remember that women differ greatly sexually, and that includes when and if you ejaculate. Some women ejaculate from just clitoral stimulation. (Sometimes women report feeling like their urethral sponge is filling with fluid right before they're about to ejaculate.) In addition, keep in mind that ejaculation and orgasms are completely separate physiological events, for both men and women.
Having a good G-spot vibrator is ideal for playing with yourself, and it doesn't hurt to use one with a partner either. The chief benefits are that it's easier to reach your G-spot with a toy than your hand, and the vibrations take care of all the work for you. If you're a beginner to G-spot stimulation, you might want to start out with a toy made out of soft material, like jelly or some types of rubber. However, many women prefer toy made out of a more rigid substance like silicone, plastic, metal or even glass, because you can apply more pressure with a harder material. Regardless of the material, a good G-spot toy will measure 4 to 8 inches in length and have a curved tip to help you direct the vibrations and pressure. Also, keep a look out for toys with a vibrating motor in the tip-these are usually designed specifically for G-spot stimulation. Here are some of our recommendations:
Lucid dream no. 9 has a vibrator near the tip and is made of firm jelly. It also has ridges along its shaft that let you rub your clit at the same time.
So that's the basic run-down; everything you need to know to get started on your journey of G-spot exploration (good luck in your travels!) One last point we feel is worthy mentioning is that a diaphragm might impede G-spot stimulation, and if that's the case, you'll want to find another form of protection.