Health & Hygiene
You have the power to obliterate the "dirty myth" about anal sex by simply cleaning up a bit before you engage in anal play. Start by defecating; I know, easier said than done. You really don't have much control over the time you need to poop, but you can be vigilant about going to the bathroom as soon as you feel the urge. The less time feces spend in the rectum, the less likely you are to have stray fecal matter later on. The exit will also be a lot smoother than if you hold it; feces can become impacted and therefore difficult to pass. By staying healthy and eating foods high in fiber defecating won't be a big issue.
After you go to the bathroom, take a shower or bath. Use mild soap and water to clean the anus. Take a soaped up finger and massage the outer sphincter, then slowly work your way to the inner sphincter. The anal canal should be nice and clean after you rinse it out. If you are not able to shower, use non-scented baby wipes or a washcloth to clean the anal canal. Some people prefer a deeper cleaning and incorporate an enema or anal douche into the cleaning ritual. This not necessary, but it creates an optimal environment for a long night of anal pleasure.
Anal douching is a way to clean your ass if you are concerned about leftover feces in your rectum, or you are not confident your rectum will be empty when you want to be anally penetrated. Anal douching is the less drastic, but less effective version of a full blown enema (typically deeper in the rectum); though sometimes the terms are used interchangeably. The douche allows you to squirt water into your rectum or anal canal to flush out fecal remnants or to onset defecation.
To perform an anal douche, fill up your douching device with warm water (body temperature); scalding hot water can burn your rectum and cold water can cause cramping. If you're new to douching, don't put a lot of water in your butt at first. Lube up the nozzle and your asshole, and then insert it into your butt. Relax your sphincters for easier penetration. Once you let the water into your butt, take out the nozzle and tighten your sphincter; try to hold the water in your rectum for a few seconds and then release the water. Repeat this process until the water coming out of you is clear. Most people douche in the bath tub or over the toilet, just in case things get a little messy or you have the urge to poop when you release the water. If you feel the urge to defecate, do so; this is a natural reaction to douching and can happen several times after one douching session.
There is evidence sugesting the thin mucous produced in the rectum to help bowel movement is excreted by a process similar to that which produces vaginal fluid. Plasma in the blood gets absorbed through skin cells and what remains of that plasma is a moist, mucosal film acting as a lubricant to prevent abrasions in the tissue. Anal or vaginal douching washes away this natural lubricant; after you douche you must wait at least two hours before engaging in anal activities to let this lining regenerate.
You can purchase cheap, single-use "vaginal" douches at the drug store, but always empty out the contents in the bottle and rinse it thoroughly; you only want to squirt warm water into your butt. There are other types of anal douching instruments sold in the drug store such as enema balls (also marked as ear syringes) and more expensive douching kits that use a small hot water bottle; these should also be emptied of any contents and replaced with warm water.
If you become a douching enthusiast (known to happen on hygienic as well as erotic levels) you may want to upgrade your tactical approach. Hose attachments to shower heads, equip with nozzles offer a deeper, more pressurized flow of water into the rectum. These hosing systems (or shower shots) can be purchased from medical supply, sex toy, or fetish retailers. There are douching items specifically designed for anal play; EdenFantasys.com is proud to offer a few for your cleaning needs.
Anal/ Fecal Incontinence Concerns
Anal/fecal incontinence is the inability to control your bowel movements or passing gas frequently; it constitutes a reasonable, yet misguided source of anxiety about the effects anal penetration on the digestive system. Some fear the stretching and relaxing of the anal anatomy for penetration will cause the area to become unresponsive and ineffectual for holding feces until desired evacuation. In actuality, people who have regular, well-prepped anal sex are less likely to becoming anally incontinent than people who only use their butt for sitting and shitting. The elasticity of anal tissue is very resilient and proper anal sex (lubricated, warmed-up, and using a condom) is rarely detrimental. In fact most people have bowel movements larger than the average width of an insertable toy or penis. Your ass reverts back to its normal size shortly, if not immediately after penetration.
Think of it this way: when you work out, you stretch your muscles in order to bring blood flow to the area causing the muscles to be more pliable and adroit for physical activity. The work out received by those blood-enriched muscles keeps them healthier and stronger over time. Proper anal penetration, which involves warming up, is a healthy exercise program for your butt. The pelvic muscles are stimulated by pleasurable activity causing them to contract and release (voluntarily or involuntarily) thus strengthening the anal anatomy. People who have anal sex are more aware of how to relax their anal sphincters for more comfortable defecation and have a greater sense of consciousness about how to keep the butt happy. In addition to this, stimulation helps blood flow evenly through the area; this prevents conditions like hemorrhoids.
Passing gas frequently after anal sex (immediately after or the following day) is a common occurrence. It is rarely severe and most likely caused by an inconsistency in lubrication throughout the entirety of penetration. The only way to develop fecal incontinence from anal sex involves unyielding, intense trauma caused by particularly violent, forced, or involuntary penetration (as in rape). The same trauma to the sphincters or nerves can occur in women during difficult vaginal childbirths. Anal incontinence typically occurs in older adults or those who are experiencing an overall breakdown in muscle and/or digestive strength. The condition also occurs in those with nerve damage, spinal cord trauma, or digestive disorders; as in severe cases of Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS). If you do experience problems controlling your bowel movements, though most likely not caused by anal sex, see a doctor because it could potentially be a larger health concern.
Some men have a negative image of their prostates due to uncomfortable ideas about rectal exams and prostate cancer. These men should know stimulating the prostate has been deemed helpful in the prevention and treatment of prostate cancer. If the fluid hangs out for too long, the prostate can become congested and suffer from painful maladies. An active, exercised, well drained prostate gland will stay healthier than a lazy prostate, which never gets to empty itself of fluid (ejaculate) or a good massage.
Locating your P-Spot/ G-Spot in the Butt:
- Lie down on your back or your side.
- Use a lubed index finger to massage the outer anal sphincter in slow concentric circles; this is to relax the sphincter for insertion. Please be patient and take your time to really relax.
- Once the sphincter is fully relaxed, with the palm facing the perineum, insert the tip your index finger* (up to the first bendable part of the finger). Go slowly and wait for your asshole to get used to the sensation before inserting more of the finger inside. Use more lube if you need to. Once you are fully relaxed the internal sphincter should open up for your finger.
- When you can comfortably get most of the finger inside, you should be past the sphincters and into the rectum about 2 inches. When you insert a straight object directly into the rectum, it should feel like you've reached a wall of sorts, this is the first structural curve of the rectum. Put the pad of the finger on the front wall of the rectum, just below the curve; remember the finger should be angled toward the belly button (not the tailbone).
- Bend your finger, making a "come here" motion while gently dragging the pad of your finger back and forth over this area.
If you are a man: The spongy texture of the P-Spot tissue should be different than the rest of the rectum. Press gently against the prostate, there is no doubt you will know when you've hit the mark. The pressure may cause the penis shaft to tingle or could cause spontaneous ejaculation; this is probably due to the manipulation of the urethra through the prostate.
If you are a woman: The point of G-Spot stimulation in the rectum is not as large as the P-Spot in men nor is it characterized by a different tissue texture, so it is a lot harder to find. Plus you will have to position your finger(s) at a sharper angle and with firmer pressure than men. The rectal wall and the thin membrane of the vaginal wall are all that separates you from the G-spot itself (which is located in the vagina). Applying firm pressure to the front rectal wall in order to stimulate that pleasurable area in the vagina is a form of indirect G-Spot massage; it may not be as intense as direct vaginal G-Spot stimulation.
*Most anal enthusiasts will instruct you to insert your finger pad-first into the anus as not to scratch the delicate folds of the puckered tissue. I personally prefer to go in nail-first (starting the flattest part of the nail just below the tip) for several reasons: it gives a more tapered, gradual insertion; my finger nail protrudes just above the skin so it actually snags a little going in pad-first; and I also prefer a harder surface for insertion, it helps with stability and smoothness of entry. The choice is up to you, the only rules that are ESSENTIAL to anal penetration are LUBE, RELAXATION, and PATIENCE.