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  • Helen Fisher: Why we love, why we cheat

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them.

  • Pole Dancing: Not just for the club anymore!

    "Pole-dancing" is a phrase that used to incite images of scantily-clad strippers swinging around a pole with wads of cash sticking out of their underwear. Maybe for some people it still does, but pole-dancing has been growing in popularity among women seeking to get in shape, be sexy, and pick up a cool new skill all at once.

  • Bikinis after Babies

    Summer is fast approaching. Time for beaches, the sun, and swimsuits. But if you're like me, then you don't feel comfortable in a swim suit.

  • My Experience With the IUD and How it Improved My Life

    If you've ever experienced heavy flows, severe menstrual cramps or forgotten to take your pill, the IUD might just be the answer to your contraception needs!

  • Teens and Sex

    We all know how hard it is raising teens. This stage is where communication is so very difficult, yet so essential. Sex is certainly going to be a struggle during their teenage years, but this is the time when you are needed the most.

  • Seeking Help as a Survivor of Sexual Violence

    Rape, abuse, and sexual assault are crimes that overwhelmingly target women, so I will be speaking primarily about women who have survived these things, and from my own experiences as a woman who has been assaulted. Through this series of articles, I hope to provide survivors and their supporters with resources, wisdom, and understanding, using myself as an example.

  • Vibrator Envy

    Today’s article focuses on a problem that many men face with the introduction of a toy, and that is envy and feelings of inadequacy in the face of a vibrator. We will discuss how to overcome this and why you will never be replaced by a vibrator.

  • Myth Busters: "Females will always know when they are having an orgasm"

    In movies and magazines and on tv and websites, I've heard this idea of orgasms being the most obvious thing in the world. Sometimes they are so mind blowing that they are impossible to miss: my body seizes, pleasure surges through me blinding and deafening. Afterwards, I am so high off of oxytocin and endorphins that I am giddy and giggle, slightly drowsy. Then it is the most obvious thing in the world, but not all orgasms are alike, not for me and certainly not from one person to another.

  • How Yoga and Exercise Affect Your Health

    It’s hard not to miss the benefits of yoga and exercise posted everywhere we look. We see ads for exercise machines that help burn fat and tone muscle. We see yoga mats and bricks used to stretch our sides, arch our backs, and reduce stress overall. But there are added benefits to both that don’t normally get enough recognition. That is what this article is about.

  • It's a Myth! The Fallacy of the Sexual Peak

    It's common knowledge that women and men have their sexual peaks at very different times, but is this idea heavy on the common and light on the knowledge?

  • Gendered Technology: Sex Toys and the Perpetuation of Feminine/Masculine Ideals

    On EdenFantasys.com, a search of the word “pink” yields 48 pages of content while a similar search of the word “blue” only produces 26. Traditional gendered ideals are upheld not in the functionality of sex objects, women’s toys are insertable while men’s come in the shape of disembodied torsos and vaginas, but even in their color and design.

  • The Virginity Paradox

    The term "virgin" is thrown around with a lot of confusion and legalism. What, technically speaking, constitutes a virgin? Does it matter?

  • Date Night Ideas Part 2

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • From Prude To Lewd

    Our adventure from sexual repression to complete openness.

  • Courage in Kansas

    Wichita has been without abortion services since the horrible murder of Dr. Tiller. But now, nearly four years later, Julie Burkhart and others step forward to fight the protesters to reopen the doors of the clinic and once again provide the constitutionally protected service.

  • Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 4

    Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

  • Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 3

    Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong

  • Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 2

    Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

  • Sexual Myths: Debunking Them

    Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

  • Something I Wish I’d Known: A Woman’s First Penetrative Sex Shouldn’t Be Painful

    I’m annoyed that I didn’t know about this before I had sex for the first time. I had no reason to be afraid.

  • Letting Your Guy Go Down On You

    Oftentimes I have heard women talk about how they are very self-conscious when it comes to oral sex. Today I want to reassure a lot of people that men like giving cunnilingus and help you let your man go down on you.

  • First Time Tips

    Sex can be a wonderful experience that allows us to bond, explore, ignite and surrender to a person in ways nothing else can. It can also be the cause of heartache, regret, disappointment and life altering choices that leave us questioning why we did it in the first place.

  • Maintaining a Healthy Body Weight

    Today I want to look at how you maintain a healthy body weight. We will look at the psychology behind it and discuss fad diets.

  • Masturbation doesn't have to be alone

    For me, I find masturbating with someone else, whether it be in-person or in the virtual world, to be a much more fulfilling experience than being solo. There is a thrill and shared intimacy in sharing the build-up and climax of an orgasm with another person.

  • Making Friends With the Ladies Downstairs

    I've lived my life perpetually jealous of women who have an easy going relationship with their clit or g-spot. I always felt like I was in some kind of cold war with my body. I have decided to try to accept what my body likes instead of trying to trick it into liking what others do.

  • 3 Steps to Beautiful

    Keeping a positive self image is difficult in this age of beach blonde Barbies and thin as rail models, but my 3 steps to beautiful help me see that my beauty is unique to me. In living by these steps, I've learned to see myself as beautiful without comparing myself to others.

  • Returning To Intimacy When Cancer Has Changed Your Body Image

    What happens after the diagnosis and the treatments? You have to find a new normal. That includes accepting your body changes. Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, things will be different. HOW different depends on YOU.

  • Five Common, Strange Facts About Women & The Truth

    A list of "Weird, Funny Facts About Women." The same exact ones that keep showing up around the internet. It's been featured on sites like India Times and others. Despite the list's attempts at humor, I felt compelled to add more womanly experience to these common factoids.

  • Splash! It's Not Pee! (Or Why Squirting Is Vastly Different From Urinating)

    Many people believe that the stuff that comes out when a woman "squirts" is urine, but most women who have experienced it will tell you otherwise, myself included. I took it upon myself to bust the myth, so without further ado, I present to you, my lovely reader, the difference between squirting and urinating, and how to tell which you're doing.

  • Enjoying The Joy Of Sex

    One of the most influential books ever published celebrated its fortieth birthday last year - and its sequel hits the same age in 2013. A personal celebration of Alex Comfort's "The Joy of Sex."

  • Sexual Education: Who is the teacher?

    Saying who is responsible for educating the youth about sex is not as simple as it seems. There isn't one right or wrong answer, but I feel the best course of action is a united front between the home and school.

  • Blowjobs Aren't Sex, and I'm a Monkey's Auntie

    A fact of life or a cheater's charter? Some thoughts on an argument that I just don't understand.

  • Don't Just Lie Back And Hope You'll Enjoy It

    You want your man to learn how to eat pussy? First, you should learn how to be eaten.

  • Boy, Girl, or Both?...Part 2

    In my last article, the topic of intersexuality was broached with a brief description of the term and its various conditions. In this article, I will explore the issues intersexuals are facing today, along with the strides they have made in the past century. I will be exploring one man’s experiences growing up as intersexual, along with our medical, cultural, and religious views on the topic. Read on for more.

  • Early Labels Have Lasting Effects

    A comment to a young girl, whether a well-placed compliment or a spiteful insult, can have lasting effects on future personality and sexuality.

  • I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

    Just a few short decades ago, women had no choice but to depend on others, but as the years go by, more and more women are breaking the mold of the past and standing on their own two feet. Independence is important for us all, especially since there won't always be someone there to provide for us.

  • Guide To Anal Accoutrements

    Getting into different types of anal toys can cause a lot of confusion! I'll be explaining different toys for your pleasure today!

  • Contraception Part 3 --Barriers, Permanent, and Fertility Awareness

    Today's article focuses on three other types of contraceptive methods. We will discuss their efficacy, any special features, and their side effects.

  • Boys Like Boobies

    A lot of guys dream of a girl with big tits. However, even with a flat chest, you can make those dreams come true.

  • Contraception Part 2 -- Hormonal Birth Control

    Today's article focuses on contraception using hormonal means. We will talk about the types, how you use them, and the side effects they have.

  • The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part Two: The Hook-up

    We left our lovers on the dance floor, on the verge of their very first kiss. You’ve decided to go through with it... actually, you decided before the first dance even started, but now it’s time to let him know. Read on!

  • Great Expectations (part four)

    The final part of our look at the pros and cons of giving head.

  • Great Expectations (part two)

    In part one, we looked at how expectations about blowjobs differ between male and female participants, and who expects what from the experience. This time we look at the experience itself, and the preconceptions that naturally arise.

  • Clitoridectomy -- a Form of Female Genital Mutilation

    In this article, I discuss a form of female genital mutilation -- one that is still practiced today around the world -- clitoridectomy. I wanted to share things I learned while doing research, and what led me to learning about clitoridectomies. The details are horrific, but I keep it light here. After learning what I have about FGM and clitoridectomies, I felt strongly about bringing the topic up in order to share, and perhaps raise more awareness.

  • The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part One: The Pick-up

    There’s a lot of literature out there telling guys how to pick up girls. In the first half of a two-part article, we talk about what the girl needs to do to while he’s actually doing the picking.

  • Contraception Part 1 -- An introduction

    Contraception (preventing pregnancy) can be very confusing as many forms exist out there. This three part series will focus on how they work, their effectiveness, and the side effects they come with.

  • Erectile Dysfunction... Sweet!

    ED has a lot of possible causes, and you can spend a fortune on drugs and doctors trying to figure out what they are. Or, you could just stop using artificial sugar substitutes. There’s a libido-killer in your larder, and you need to get it out.

  • Influential Women: Charlotte Moorman

    How a classically-trained cellist, and Yoko Ono's former roomie, challenged and changed one writer's world

  • Influential Women - Marilyn Monroe

    Though mostly known for her sexy and charming persona, Monroe actually sought to be a fully rounded individual.

  • Influential Women - Jenny Lawson / The Bloggess

    In honor of International Women's Day I'd like to share two women who have had a profound influence on me. I first wrote about Amanda Palmer. The second, yet equal in influence, is Jenny Lawson/The Bloggess. Her battle with depression and anxiety while being courageously true to herself has greatly influenced me.

  • Influential Women - Amanda Palmer

    In honor of International Women's Day I'd like to share two women who have had a profound influence on me. The first is Amanda Palmer whose blogs, tweets, music and overall philosophy have changed the way I look at myself in a profound way.

  • Influential Women: Beth Ditto

    Do you know how fabulous Beth Ditto is? If not read on. If you do read it anyway!

  • Anne Bonny: A Bloody, Badass Pirate Tale

    We take our role models from many sources. Whether they be a celebrity, a historical figure, a friend, or family member, we choose them because they inspire us to be a better person in some way. And yes, even a pillaging, feared pirate CAN be a role model.

  • Watson and Crick? Bah! It’s all about Franklin, Rosalind Franklin.

    You may or my not have heard of Rosalind Franklin. As we celebrate Women’s History, here’s a chance to look at a marvelous, intelligent woman of science.

  • Piercing the Hood

    As you may have guessed from the article title, this is about my experience with a genital piercing, a vertical clitoral hood piercing to be exact. This is from the perspective of a cisgendered woman, and will be largely focusing on my relationship with my vulva.

  • Girls v. Grown Women

    Many people say that girls are less mature than grown women and that grown women have better relationships. But who defines maturity here? Is maturity the only factor in a relationship's success/failure?

  • 12 Things That Increase Fertility

    Since writing about my miscarriage, some of you have asked if I knew how to increase the chances of fertility. Soon after that, I began writing a few of the things that I had stored in my mind. Now, I've finally found the time to sit down and share those thoughts.

  • One Generation to Another: Interviewing Mom

    My mother is a 58 year old woman, who grew up in a very different time. Views on women, on life, and love have changed a lot since she was my age. So how does a woman who’s been married twice, had three children, and lived such a full life view womanhood? I interviewed her recently to find out just what she thinks about women, motherhood, love, marriage, and even sex.

  • Feminists Don't Deserve Chivalry?

    In this article, I want to briefly discuss this particular idea that feminists don't deserve, or should not receive, chivalry from a male spouse or boyfriend. Many people have this idea, which basically originates from a few misconceptions about feminism and chivalry.

  • Sexuality and Christianity: My journey to finding peace and reconciliation.

    This article is an account of my experience with my journey through sexuality and the church.

  • How To Take Good Boudoir Photos of Yourself

    This is a general suggestion for ways to take quality photos of yourself or your partner without getting into too many specifics. You can always look up some of the technical terms and find tutorials online, but I thought I would write this as an introduction to those who have considered it, but thought they couldn't do it themselves.

  • Sexy Piercings! Part 2: The Vertical Clitoral Hood

    A lot of people get this piercing confused with piercing of the actual clitoris. I assure you, piercing the hood and piercing the clitoris itself are two very different things. Piercing the clitoris itself is actually difficult and dangerous and not often done or recommended. The hood on the other hand, which is the layer of tissue above the clitoris, is safer and has a lot of benefits for your sex life.

  • Menstruation: “Red Days” - A Jewish Perspective

    Although, it is a natural process of the body, the topic of a woman’s period is often off limits. In this day and age, with sex education in school, sexuality in virtually all television programs, all the progress in women’s rights, why are women still plagued by the old age stigma of being “unclean” or “dirty” during their ?time of the month'?

  • Mind Kink: Exploring Consensual Non-Consensual

    Consensual non-consensual (C.N.C.) is sometimes thought of as 'rape-play.' When done correctly and with respect for your partner, C.N.C. can be a very passionate and enjoyable thing. We've all had fantasies of being home alone and suddenly our partner dressed as a burglar comes in and 'burgles' us. The very idea of a trusted partner taking us forcefully and making us enjoy it can be highly erotic. C.N.C is a way to safely explore these fantasies and enjoy them fully.

  • Define This: Female Copulatory Vocalizations

    Is there more to your moans and groans than you thought? Let's see what the science says about sounds and sex.

  • My Coming Out

    Coming out of the figurative closet tends to be a difficult path for many people. It’s not just working up the will to tell everyone else, but admitting it to yourself.

  • Does Size Really Matter?

    Many people are hyped up over the idea that the size of your penis affects your sexual performance. Is that really true and if not why do people think this way?

  • Rape Isn't A Consequence

    Growing up, I was warned by many folks that there are situations we put ourselves in that can get us raped. I didn't question this until I experienced several instances at work that brought out the fear. I learned how ugly the fear is, and how the warnings seemed to endorse that rape was a consequence for making bad decisions.

  • A Cultivation of Sexual Myths

    We've all heard our share of sex myths. The "you can't get pregnant the first time" myth, the "douching with Coke a Cola" myth, and the classic "you won't get pregnant with the girl on top" myth. But what about myths that go further? Myths that make you wonder if you're a bad person? Or if you really had sex? Myths that have been so pervasive in our cultures that they have lasted for literally centuries?

  • Getting the Snip, Part Three: Another Option

    After deciding as a couple to get a vasectomy (part 1) and discovering that complications would prevent this from happening quickly (part 2), we had to look again at our birth control options.

  • Men: Don't Feel Worried About Your Woman's New Sex Toy

    Many men feel anxious and uncomfortable when their woman gets a toy. I am here to tell them why they shouldn't feel that way.

  • The Forbidden Fruit

    Anal sex is one of those things that are considered a "taboo", but that is what makes it so interesting.

  • Shame & Masturbation

    Most of you would agree that masturbation is A-Okay! But did you have to overcome a self-imposed reluctance? Or worse, an idea of societal shame? This article looks at how two people, a male (Kenneth) and female (Michele), dealt with their insecurities (and those of others) and eventually became (mostly) comfortable with their self-lovin’.

  • My Story: Recognizing and Preventing Rape

    This a bit heavy for a first article, but as someone who has been a victim, rape is a serious issue that men and women need to stay informed about. I admire the magazine Cosmopolitan for making a monthly article about the issue of campus rape and actually doing something to raise awareness of the problem. In this article you will learn about my experience and ways to be aware and safe.

  • Stuck in the Friend Zone

    The idea of the "friend zone", at least the way many men use it, is one of the most subtly misogynistic relationship concepts we have. Here's why.

  • Healing through Masturbation

    Life is full of ironies. This is how to have better sex with others by having sex with yourself.

  • In Praise of the PAP Smear

    There are few other things most women hate having to do. Despite its necessity, the PAP smear is a procedure only half of women in the United States schedule annually during the peak ages of HPV exposure. Yet, it’s the only definitive test for cervical cancers.

  • A Gentlemen Always Lets The Lady Cum First.

    Call it common courtesy. Call it being a gentlemen. Call it whatever you like. If you're allowing your lady to cum first, you, my friend, are a prime example of the refined, exquisite gentlemen of sex etiquette. Alas, many men out there refuse their lady this fine privilege. Hell, some don't even know if their partner has cum. This, my readers, can not go on any longer. Not in the year 2013!!! We outlived the Mayans for Christ sakes! Surely this too shall pass. I hope...

  • Illinois Court Hands Down Ruling On Plan B

    After a 2005 mandate requiring all pharmacies supply the controversial contraceptive and a 2011 challenge to the law, an Illinois appellate court has made a ruling about the drug's distribution.

  • Little-Known Side Effects of Birth Control

    Hormonal birth control like the Pill, the patch, a shot like Depo-Provera and Nuva-Ring all provide your body with the kinds of and similar levels of hormones produced in the early stages of pregnancy in order to control fertility. Yet, certain side effects are not revealed because they were determined to be "irrelevant" to your experience of the drug.

  • Sexual Anatomy 201: The 18 Parts of the Clitoris

    Did you know the most of the clitoris is hidden from view? Can you name the many parts of the clitoris? The key to understanding something is to truly study it!

  • What Rights?

    Many people bring up the idea of requesting a father's signature before a woman can get an abortion. These people do not think of the consequences of such actions. These measures are not only undue burdens, illegal under Roe v. Wade, but also horribly oppressive measures that would force women to give birth against their will.

  • Masturbation: It is Perfectly Fine!

    Flicking your bean, flogging the dolphin, jerking the gherkin...Whatever you call it, it is perfectly safe. It's also healthy!

  • Racing Against the Clock

    In today's feminist-oriented girl power culture, women are encouraged to pursue a career and find themselves before settling down. But too often now, women are finding that they've waited to long and their fertile years are long behind them.

  • Should His Opinion Count?

    The choice to have an abortion is one of the many things that empowers us as women. The right to make a choice for our own bodies. However, a child is not created by just a woman. Should the father have a say in the case of an abortion?

  • Losing innocence while gaining perspective.

    I was young, impressionable and I just really didn't wanna be the last virgin in a group of supposed Sex Goddesses (my friends).

  • The Tale of a Lesbian Lolita

    Being a Lolita is tricky enough. Combining an alternate sexuality with that can sometimes make your peers give you some pretty odd looks!

  • "Thinking-Off" (The Thought Induced Orgasm)

    Since the 1970s, the connection between thought and orgasms has been a hot topic (Masters & Johnson)...Mental orgasms, Energy Orgasms, Thinking Off, Thought-gasms, Thought-induced orgasms. I am sure many of you have seen the show “Strange Sex” on TLC, specifically the episode about Thinking Off, but has anyone really thought about it? In this article I highlight my own experiences with thought-gasms, that they are in fact real, and what exactly you might want to know about them.

  • The boys' club and porn culture

    The verbal-visual porn dichotomy demystified. Or: do women like porn?

  • From the Mouths of Babes

    I had my children as a teenager. I struggled with their irresponsible father and my teenage children know the paths that I've taken and they respect them. I've always told them that I'd respect theirs as well. However, you'll never know what they are until you talk to them.

  • Lolita Anti-Sexuality

    In the minds of some girls, Lolitas should never have so much as a sexual thought. It's a common happening in the communities to even begin to think like this. Why? Are they right? Hell no!

  • Who has the right to decide?

    Being adult means we are responsible for our actions and their consequences. We have the ability to create and destroy lives – but such power comes with huge responsibility. Who can make such decisions? Who can shoulder such responsibility? Who can have a say over a life created by two people that would belong to two?

  • Shopping Guide: How to Get the Best Underwear for Your Body Type

    Too many times have we all bought underwear that looked great on a model or in our hands but when we wear it, it looks bad or not as expected. I am a firm believer that women should and can wear whatever underwear we like, and this is not a guide to what you should or should not wear. Rather, think of it as we all have a color best for us, and we all have an underwear cut that is best for us.

  • SexIs Subjective: Equal Rights?

    Normally when you see the words "equal rights" you think of race and sexual equality; but there is another topic on my mind at the moment, one that's hard to address without offending at least a few people - Do men have the right to decide whether or not the person they impregnated gets an abortion?

  • Contraceptive Series Part 7: Ortho Evra, the Birth Control Patch

    This is the seventh installment of my contraceptive series, in which I will provide accessible information about Ortho Evra, the only available transdermal contraceptive in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of Ortho Evra— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

  • Letters to myself

    When I was still a teen, I think around 14 or 15, I red a book series where the main character girl would write letters to her older self, to be opened and red ten years later. I liked the idea and decided to follow her suit and started writing for myself. Here I would like to share same excerpts with you that have any relevance to sexuality.

  • Feminish: Sex Pozzies

    Think feminists don't like sex? Think again. One feminist's discovery of sex positivism.

  • Porn Desensitization

    While porn is a fun and exciting experience in aiding sexual intercourse or masturbation, there are some harmful elements to watching an excess of it. In essence, our brain's reward center is the culprit. Unfortunately, many people suffer from porn addiction. Recognizing what causes porn addiction is the second step in recovery. The first is realizing there is a problem.

  • How To: Be a Camgirl

    For those who have contemplated webcamming for money, here is a quick and easy guide to get you started. Webcamming can have some major financial benefits, but like any job, it requires hard work.

  • How To: Get a Job as a Phone Sex Operator

    Ever wondered how to go about working as a phone sex operator (PSO)? Here is my tutorial guide on the basics of starting your career as a PSO.

  • When Our Breasts Sag

    Some of us have a bit of give in the boob area. Considerations on achieving a pair of firm breasts should not jump first to surgery. There are some things we can do to prevent a sagging pair and maintain our chest puppies. As always, hard work is involved.

  • Contraceptive Series Part 6: NuvaRing, the Vaginal Ring

    This is the sixth installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about NuvaRing, the only vaginal ring available in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of NuvaRing— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

  • Lolita Fashion and Sexuality

    There are too many misconceptions about the Lolita subculture. "They're ageplayers," you'll see. Here's why they're wrong.

  • No, You Can't Treat Breast Cancer by Squeezing Your Breasts

    The headlines were unbelievable. Simply squeezing the breasts could treat cancer, or prevent it, depending on where you got your source. Hey, it's science! Men (and some women) had fantasies of going to work in the new field of therapeutic breast massage. But while the story is based in truth, you have to go to the source to find it.

  • Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Four)

    The worst part of our struggle was about to unfold. It would change us forever and leave us wondering if this foolish wish was truly outside our grasp.

  • Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Three)

    Our battle to become pregnant had a lot of downs and one very special up.

  • Sexy piercings part 1: Nipples!

    Usually when the phrase "pierced nipples" comes up, it inspires cringing and thoughts of intense pain, and then loss of sensation. Well, I'm here to say that's not necessarily true. Nipple barbells can be aesthetically pleasing when placed correctly by a skilled piercer and will heal nicely with proper after care. Getting my own nipples pierced was one of the best piercing decisions I've ever made, for both looks and my sex life.

  • Define This: Father complex - what it is, and what it isn't

    Freud and Jung were the first ones to describe the phenomenon, but the views have since changed. Contemporary psychologists do not quite agree on what is and what is not a father complex – some even argue there is no such thing. In this article, I have tried to collect the most important highlights and features of the phenomenon.

  • Push Her Magic Button Just Right

    So you decided you wanted to know more about pleasuring yourself or your girlfriend? Or maybe she simply pulled your hand on her clitoral area? You looked up tutorials and guides, and there came a line: “stimulate her clit”. But it arrived without instructions.

  • The story of my first vibrator or why I shop online

    A little funny and a little embarrassing story of the first piece of my toy collection.

  • Contraceptive Series Part 5: Depo-Provera, The Birth Control Shot

    This is the fifth installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about Depo-Provera, the only injectable option available in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of Depo-Provera— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

  • Bipolar: Living upside down

    The world is hard enough to figure out without the instability of bipolar. Up and down, insanity and complete clarity. My mind is constantly betraying me. My emotions- are they real or are they exaggerated? Normal situations become a puzzle, always wondering what's reality and what is strictly emotional. This is my story of finding BALANCE in an otherwise upside down world.

  • Is your Christmas gift Inappropriate?

    Why are sex toys viewed as taboo? Why would it be embarrassing to unwrap a sex toy in front of the family? After all gifts should be something that is useful. What could be more useful than a gift that is good for your health, gives you contentment, and faithfulness to oneself?

  • A Hairy Situation

    Every November, men allow their facial hair to run wild for cancer. So why exactly is the idea of women doing the same "just gross"?

  • Understanding The Female Orgasm.

    If you've been having trouble reaching the big "O," it may not be your partner's inability to please you. It may be a misunderstanding as to what part of your lady bits needs to be manipulated for an earth-shattering climax.

  • Why Most Men Are Afraid of Sex Toys.

    Even in today’s day and age, most men still shy away from sex toys. They see them as a threat to their manhood, or even worse, a replacement for their god given penis. I'm here to tell all men to shut the funk up! Sex toys are not a dangerous thing that will destroy your relationship with your partner. Sex toys will enhance your love life tenfold. As long as you learn to stop worrying and fall in love with the joy that is a sex toy filled love life.

  • The power in his hands - a guide to fingering a girl

    So you decided you wanted to treat your girlfriend better and enhance the experience for her – good decision! Women like to be pampered and appreciated, and they are able to reach several orgasms during one act – so yes, why not?

  • I pondered, do most women know if they like cunnilingus?

    Thoughts from myself and other men and women on the joys or lack thereof of women receiving oral sex.

  • The gender equality in sex

    Merely a hundred years ago, women were suppressed and they weren’t supposed to know about sex or enjoy it much. The world since then has come a long way. The age of sexual freedom changed a lot of things, and feminists today are fighting for our equal treatment. Should they? Should they not? What about male rights?

  • Natural Pregnancy Prevention Methods

    Most of us are familiar with the standard, everyday birth control methods such as the pill, Depo Provera injection, condoms, IUDs and more. However, did you ever find yourself wondering what people used before these methods were widely available, or what the people who have religious or other reasons not to use the doctor-administrated methods use? If so, you may find these natural birth control methods pretty interesting.

  • The Extra Pleasure Spot: Cervical Orgasms

    While some of us are busy still trying to achieve orgasm during penetration, there are the few, blessed rest of us who have found a whole ‘nother type – the cervical orgasm, also known as the X-orgasm. In this article, I want to share with you the X-orgasm, what it is, how it happens, and even better, my own experience.

  • The power in your hands - part II

    So you already know the basics of a handjob, and maybe even have a few techniques you can vary, but you're looking for more options? Read on to learn how to make your guy smoking hot for you.

  • Want to see my D?

    Nowadays it seems like showing your D is easier than saying hi.

  • Five Reasons I Do My Kegels, and Why You Should, Too!

    You've been hearing about Kegel exercises for years, but if you've never actually done them, now's the time.

  • Sexism in Science Still Lingers

    Women have made amazing progress from where we once were. We run the family and bring home the bacon. We are now the majority of college students. However, there is one area in which women are still horribly behind: science.

  • Breast Cancer: It's not *just* about the breasts!

    Breast cancer awareness is all well and good, but in order to do the most for awareness, the focus needs to be more on the women affected by it, and not just the isolated body parts associated with it.

  • Contraception Series Part 2: Paragard, the Non-Hormonal IUD

    For those of you who read the first installment of my contraceptive series, this is the second installment, in which I will provide accessible written information about Paragard. Paragard is my favorite contraceptive to talk about because, well, I use it! This article will provide information about the basics of Paragard— everything you need to know when making your decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

  • Feeling Sexy After Having A Baby!

    Are you wanting to feel sexy again but don't know how? Well that's what I'm talking about today. So read and enjoy.

  • An Open Letter To My Mommy Friends

    You have kids. I don't. I accept your choice -- so why can't you accept mine?

  • Inspiration on a Personal Note: Why to Love Your Vagina

    As women, our vagina's can sometimes be a source of confusion, anger, or shame. The way we feel about our vagina's strongly suggests how we feel about ourselves as a whole. I would like to share some of the things that have helped me through my journey. These are things that have helped me love my vagina and therefore, love myself.

  • SexIs Subjective: Why is Everyone Obsessed with Policing My Sex Life?

    As a kinky lesbian poly woman, it seems like everyone wants a say in how I get it on. From the federal government to religious groups to well-meaning friends, apparently I'm just not doing it "right." Why does anyone even care?

  • You're as Unique as Your Vagina

    I bet you don't know that your vagina is one of a kind. You are made up of an intricate network of nerves that is unique to you and your reproductive system. No two females are the same.

  • Contraceptive Series Part 1: Hormones and Your Body

    There are a lot of misconceptions about how birth control works and what the options are. As a feminist birth control researcher, I am working to dispel these myths through this series about each form of contraception available on the market in the United States. In this introduction to the series, I am giving an overview of the two feminine hormones and how they work in contraceptives.

  • Love Your Body! Out Of The Image Box!

    I never had anyone tell me I was pretty growing up. I never had any support from my family. My body self image was horrible. I hated myself so badly that I have no pictures. I didn't look in a mirror. I believed that no one could love me or even look at me.

  • I Am A Feminist, and I Shave My Legs

    As a feminist who shaves my legs, I have frequently had to defend shaving my legs, much more than I expected to do within a group of people that supposedly advocates free choice.

  • Your Shape Shifting Vagina!

    Everyone knows that penises change shape when they're aroused, but did you know that your vagina changes shape too? Penises aren't the only body parts that grow!

  • "Muffing" Your Man (or Woman!)

    The term muffing has two common meanings: one is oral sex on a female; the other is something you probably haven't even thought of before! Do you know where your man's inguinal canals are? You're about to find out!

  • Sex Feed: $1,000 Shot Promises Better Sex for Months

    The hottest new trend on the coast is the G-Shot, a $1,000 shot that promises longer and more intense orgasms for up to 4 months. With plenty of rave reviews, the real question is--Is this $1,000 "G-spot Shot" worth it?

  • Perfection is Overrated

    Real women come in all sorts: fat and thin, healthy and unhealthy, old and young, cis and trans, and all of us with different outlooks on life. But the one thing we all have in common is that none of us can possibly live up to the idea of "perfection" that is shoved down our throats!

  • Our Young Teen Girls. How Young Is Too Young?

    Girls today are going through puberty so early. When do you start talking to them about grooming? What grooming is okay at that age?

  • Romney vs. Obama vs. Your Uterus

    You've considered your political candidates' views on taxes, deficit, and their four year plans. Have you considered their views on your reproductive rights? Here is the skinny!

  • Attention Skinny Women Bashers: You're Not Helping Self-Esteem Either

    There is a lot of pressure in America to be skinny when you're a woman, but lately there have been campaigns that bash skinny women in a way that are just as unhelpful to women's self-esteem as calling larger women unattractive. This is a healthy skinny woman's response to internet campaigns to end the bashing of curvy women that in turn call skinny women unattractive and perpetuate the very beauty standards they seek to abolish.

  • Talking About The First Time

    I think we all remember the first blowjob we ever gave. But do we remember why we gave it?

  • One Lump Or Two??? Oh, How About 28!!

    It was just one small lump, the size of a pea. Who knew what that innocuous little bit of tissue in my breast would lead to...and the surprising results of all the testing.

  • Getting the Snip, Part One

    This series of articles will detail the experience of getting a vasectomy. In this part, I discuss how my boyfriend and I decided that vasectomy was the right form of contraception for us. The next part will cover his experience of the procedure itself, and then I will write about how the procedure is affecting our relationship and our sex life.

  • My orgasm/squirting experience

    These are just my experiences with squirting and different types of orgasms.

  • Female Genital Mutilation

    Imagine being held down by women you know. They remove your clothing, pry your legs apart, and without sterilization or anesthesia begin to cut into your genitals. All the while your mother sits beside you, telling you what an honor this is, and how it makes you clean and marriageable. Impossible, right? Not hardly. 140 million girls and women worldwide have endured this and thousands more are subjected every single day.

  • Miscarriage -- My Experience and Journey to Healing

    I don't remember ever hearing anybody actually share what it's like after a miscarriage. When I miscarried, and the months that followed, I didn't know if I'd ever come out of it. But I did, eventually. I realized what was hindering me from carrying to full term, I went through depression, and I slowly emerged out of it, and I want to share with you guys just what it was like for me.

  • Women United

    I can't believe she wore that! Look at her, she is too fat! She is too thin! Blah! Blah! Blah!

  • Size does matter!

    How big is yours? 6 inches? Maybe 10? What about how deep is mine? Have you ever thought of how much dick a girl can really take? No, of course not, so let's discuss.

  • Body Mods Down Below: Female Edition

    What’s the deal with clit piercings? Do people really get their nipples removed? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that females can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

  • Sex After Having Kids

    Well if you’re anything like me you start to forget what sex is. I have two kids under 5 and I use these steps to make it easier for me to get to have sex.

  • Define This: Retroverted Uterus

    What is a retroverted uterus? Did you know that there are different types of tipped uteruses?

  • Benefits and Downfalls of Different Communication Methods

    Communicating with other humans is vital, and the more ways to do so, the better. I feel there are some relationships best kept more intimate than text-only. The truth is, it's so easy to fall into text or social media only lifestyle, but we need real human interaction sometimes, right? That's why I want to share the benefits and my personal preferences for each type of communication.

  • The How To Guide to Lesbianism

    To avoid confusion, questionable Google searches, and to manage the minefield of other people's questions.

  • The Social Lover: Your Guide To Having More Communicative Sex

    Your partner spanked you for the first time the other night and you loved it, but now they ask you how far you want to take things— You struggle with your response.

  • This Box Is Toooo Small

    Starting over at thirty something and forty something with two teen kids, dogs and a lizard.

  • Fibrocystic Breast Disease

    Fibrocystic breast disease. It really isn’t a disease at all. It is not related to breast cancer in any way. Feeling a lump can be very scary and concerning. You need to seek the advice of a physician. It may not be breast cancer; it could be a Fibrocystic Breast Condition.

  • Three Is Company

    Polysexuality is an alternative to polyamory. Instead of having emotional and romantic feelings for many partners (polyamory), you have just a sexual relationship with more than one partner.

  • Isn't That You On The Screen?

    You can find anything on the Internet. Including, apparently, footage of your friends having sex.

  • The Condom Broke, Now What?….Plan B

    Plan B is the emergency contraceptive pill that can be taken up to 72 hours after unprotected sex or in the case of failed birth control such as the condom breaking. There is important information you need to know.

  • The Girl Behind The Glory Hole

    It’s been said that sex workers are among the most misunderstood professionals in the world. But they are also among the most dedicated.

    In the first of several interviews with different "specialists," conducted over a period of six months, a woman filling what some people might describe as the most demeaning of all her trade’s many roles talks about the demands of her job, her motivations and the rewards.

  • Sex and Depression

    Over my time, I've heard a lot of people talking about how sex and help when you are depressed. Being one who like sex and hates feeling depressed, this very much intrigued me and I wanted to find out more. How does depression affect one's sex life? How could sex possibly help one's depression? Is it all really that simple? So, I decided to start some research and find my answers.

  • Response to “Enjoying Porn: It's for Ladies Too”

    Ladies how do you like your porn?

  • Being Yourself, From Behind a Mask

    We all have masks that we wear in our life. They may not be physical masks, but they are there nonetheless. But these masks allow us to be who we really are, just presented differently.

  • Enjoying Porn: It's for Ladies Too

    Watching sexy scenes on a bright screen isn't just for the boys' club anymore.

  • Hiding Behind A Mask For The Freedom To Experiment.

    What to do when you are a shy exhibitionist with a lot to lose? When you want to be watched--but not recognized? When you want to watch and play, but fear the risk of exposure? What is the one thing that can give you the freedom to release your inhibitions and let it all go?

  • Swallow

    A word to make guys go weak at the knees... and some girls to go weak in the stomach. A look at the cultural and societal background to the power of seven little letters.

  • My Boobies: Oh The Adventures They Have Had!

    My boobies and the adventures they have had over the years: from children to life saving.

  • Women = Vaginas. Men = Pigs.

    What limited sexual education communicates to our children.

  • Sex and Fitness

    There are many benefits to fitness: a healthier body, longer life, lower stress, and a more toned looking body. But what about your sex life? Does fitness provide any benefits to that?

  • First Time Tips

    While many feel society falsely portrays ‘the first time’ as magical and are consequently disappointed, I was led to believe the opposite and was happily surprised. I am here to tell you that giving away your virginity can be a positive experience if it is with the right person and if you prepare properly.

  • Bacterial Vaginosis: "Eww What's That Smell?"

    Bacterial vaginosis is common in women of child bearing age and it is not a sexually transmitted disease.

  • Evolution of the Menses: A Bloody History

    What are you wearing right now? Do you have a tiny tampon in, a huge monster pad, or are you lucky enough to not be surfing the crimson wave? Whether you are currently shark bait or not, you may find it interesting to revisit some rags of the past.

  • Confessions of a Stripper: Why Men Are Drawn to Strip Clubs

    After work, Joe and his friends decided to hit a local Gentlemen’s Club for a beer before heading home. Joe and Ernie call their wives to say they will be late. They don’t dare reveal the truth, with a white lie they hang up and its high fives all around.

  • You Know Your Girl Is A Virgin If...

    Ever think you can tell if a woman is a virgin just by looking at her? Some people think you can.

  • Shrinking The Gender Gap One Taboo At A Time

    You’ve probably all seen it by now, the remarkable study that reveals how the more sexually aroused a woman becomes, the more willing she is to swallow her scruples. Well, in case no one had noticed, men are no different.

  • Candy Cum!

    Ever wonder why your partner never wants to give you oral? It might be your diet! Here's a bit of information on how to make your cum taste delicious and which foods to avoid.

  • Light and Sex

    Does turning off the lights actually contribute to us being turned on? This article is all about how light affects our bodies, our mood and by extension, our sexual experience.

  • My Dear Kira

    Back when I was in high school I got to a point where I said, "Screw boys, I'm batting for the other team!" That's when I met Kira, an absolutely gorgeous 18 year old girl who was into girls. Kira was the girl that got me to see other girls in a whole different way.

  • The Steel Clit: A How-To On Dealing With A Stubborn Clitoris

    Not everyone has those wonderfully sensitive, easy clits that can get off from a few light rubs of a finger. Some of us have clits of steel that are so stubborn that sometimes the hours spent attempting just aren't worth the orgasm! What do you do with a clit that just won't give in? You've got options and you're not alone!

  • Shhh... I've Got My Period!

    Menstruation: it’s natural so why do we find it taboo?

  • Past, Present and Future: The Shifting Legality of Abortion

    What do we learn from our past and how do we implement those lessons in the future? America needs to take a look at statistics from our shared past before voting.

  • Anal play!

    This is just a quick guide for anyone who's interested in anal play or penetration, with some tips I've picked up on through personal experience.

  • I'm Not Easy, I'm a Slut

    Discussing a few implications, and why I strongly prefer one word to the other. Hint, a yellow balloon with the words: It's a Slut!

  • Mysteries of the Male Ejaculate: A Matter of Taste

    There is so much that goes unasked and unspoken between a man and woman. Since orgasms really begin and end in the mind and so much of sex is psychological, understanding each other's sexual needs, wants, fantasies and expectations can be a wonderful turn-on, and create a deeply passionate connection.

  • Making Noise

    Who doesn’t like positive feedback? I mean, when you are working hard, it’s really nice to know that you are making a good impression. For some, it is hard to vocalize their enjoyment. I have oscillated from being a talker, moaner, and silent companion depending on what my relationships are like. I have found that the more feedback I give and receive; the better the sex is for everyone.

  • Talking about it.

    I am an American. I am a woman. These two things mean that I was socialized to be ashamed of being a sexual being. That shame didn’t last long, but it was an intense few years learning to shrug it off.

  • To Make a (NSFW) Music Video

    I have made various music videos, and all from porn clips.

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: When worlds collide

    The lighting is set, the camera is ready to go live. You are dressed and everything is ready to go...And then your child wakes from a nightmare and is crying for you.

  • Real Men Eat Pussy—and Kiss Ass

    I don't believe that all things must be equal in a sexual relationship—few things in life in general, much less in any kind of human relationship, are truly equal. We all have ways in which we intentionally or unintentionally get over on someone else or receive more than another person in the course of human dynamics.

  • What's wrong with me?

    After years of feeling down and depressed, wondering what was wrong with me, I've finally come to terms with the fact that my body doesn't work quite the way I would like it to.

  • Summer's here! What to do?

    I always get insecure when summer hits. The fat that I’ve been building up over the winter has to go.

  • When "Doing Your Wifely Duties" Becomes a Chore

    When I first discovered EdenFantasys, I hadn’t read or even heard of the 50 Shades of Gray series. Now seven months after placing my first order, who would ever imagine I would be living my own series; that my whole sexual being would be change.

  • Sexy to the Undead

    As odd as this concept might be. I have actually seen some sexy looking zombies. One was in Return Of The Living Dead. This one girl with a punk hair coloring job got turned into a zombie and in one scene is walking fast through some fog and then attacks a homeless guy.

    Did I mention she is pretty much naked?

  • Thank You, EdenFantasys

    How has EdenFantasys changed my life? I would love to say that I have always been sex positive, open, free and knowledgeable but the truth is the person I am today is a direct result of the community at EdenFantasys.

  • My Favorite Outdoor Location

    I’ve recently rediscovered the fun from having sex outdoors can be. When I was a teenager, this was an ordinary occurrence, but as I grew older and became married sneaking around like a couple teenagers wasn’t a necessity anymore.

  • Understanding Desire and Love in the Brain

    In Egyptian mythology, ib or heart portion of the soul was placed on a scale balanced against the Feather of Ma'at. The feather a symbolizing truth, in the judgment of the dead. All of our deeds, sins and contributes laid in the weight of the heart and if heavier then the feather the heart was gobbled by Ammit.

  • Fantasy Land

    As the parent of a toddler, the greatest place on Earth right now for him seems to be the Magic Kingdom. While researching a trip to the so called “Happiest place on Earth” I started thinking about the name for one part within the theme park, Fantasy Land.

  • Female or Male ? That is the question.

    Haven't you ever wondered how it would be if you was in your spouse’s shoes, and you changed sex? Well I'm Jaylin and I was born a female but ever since I was younger, I always wondered how it would be if I was a male instead of a female. Don't get me wrong I love being a female but I just think men got it easier than females.

  • Free the Boobies: The Joys of Going Braless

    I have no problem with bras, but sometimes it just feels good to get it off.

  • To wait, or not to wait, that is the question.

    The coverage of Olympic athletes and virginity makes me wonder about an important aspect of sex education. How do I advise my daughter when making the choice to lose her virginity?

  • Purr-fection: Why I Love Catwoman

    While the infamous Catwoman is no doubt a sex symbol, there's more to love about the femme fatale than just her sex appeal.

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: The Unveiling

    So you want to know what a successful cam girl looks like? You wanna see just what I am made of? This is the line of questioning I have been getting lately, So, Why not. Ok then, Lets get down to the glitter and glam of... ME.

  • Strip Club Etiquette

    A visit to the strip club can be a thrilling, exciting, eye opening experience. As both a sometimes stripper and strip club client, I would like to share with readers how to make the best of your trip to the nudie bar...and how not to make a fool of yourself!

  • A Peak Behind the Female Dominated Future or, My Time as a Man in the Eden Forums.

    For the first time in recorded history, women out number men. Roughly about 51 to 49 percent. Current trends suggest this number will actually continue to grow over time expecting to reach about 60/40 in 2060. As an amateur sociologist I'm curious to study the land scape of the future and the Eden Forums seem to have let me do that. These are my journeys.

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Sex Sells

    If you have read my other articles, you got the details in a perky, upbeat, sometimes sarcastic way. Tonight, it is coming from the other side of me, the depressed single mother that feels like things will never change. This will prove that being a cam girl, or a mom, is not all glam and glitter.

  • Confessions of a Stripper: How it all began.

    With the days of the Red Light District long gone, the back bone of the sexual atmosphere in the French Quarter is the Exotic Dancers who fill its numerous clubs. Over a hundred Ladies of all ages and back grounds work every night year around to entertain the tourists.

  • 10 Steps to Making Your Own Summer Romance

    When people think of a ‘summer romance,’ a very distinct image comes to mind. You know the one. Two people on a sexual adventure free of hassles, commitment, or drama. Everyone dreams of this at one point or another, but before you start fantasizing about what could be, humor me for a minute.

  • So, you want to be a Cam Girl?

    Lots of requests have been coming in about what it takes to be a cam girl. Well, Let me tell you...

  • In Praise of Lingerie

    It seems for most men that what they want most is to see a woman fully nude and ready to do all sorts of unspeakable to them. I'm a bit different. I want a woman to do those unspeakable things to me and with me, but I want her wearing something more than her birthday suit.

  • Seeing Red in the Bedroom

    The idea of having sex during my period always freaked me out. After some research, I decided to give it a shot.

  • Anal For Beginners

    Feel like experimenting with anal, but not exactly sure where to start? It's not as complicated as it may seem, check it out!

  • Orgasms: You're not a freak.

    No one ever told me what a normal orgasm was like, and so I spent years feeling like a freak for the way(s) that I orgasm.

  • How many Wrongs does it take for me to find Mr. Right?

    The touch of his body next to mine makes me feel safe. When he kisses me, I close my eyes and my mind floats away. He fixes his mouth to say "I love you" and my heart just melts.

  • Own Your Body—All of It

    These days, a great number of people will probably say it takes a huge fool of a man to tell women what to do with their bodies. Ladies, I'm going to be just that kind of fool right now.

  • Community Commentary: Wait...there are still "The Rules"?

    Love, relationships and romance can be difficult and confusing enough, but take a trip to your local bookstore and you might wind up even more topsy-turvy than when you entered.

  • Hyper Aware of Hair Down There?

    What do you do about the hair below your belt?

  • Ashamed No More

    No two clits are the same just as no two people are the same. Learning about your clit is a very empowering event. Our clit is the root to our female sexuality and just like sexuality the clit is nothing to be ashamed of.

  • It's Getting Harder to Tell the Girls from the Women...

    The shorts are getting shorter, the tops getting lower. Boobs and butts are rounder and bigger. Heels and mascara and lip gloss abound. Nope, not talking about your girlfriend's girlfriend. I'm talking about the pre-teen next door!

  • How Not to Win Friends and Influence People. Or Get a Date Via the Internet.

    Everyone's had them: rude, ignorant, or downright offensive emails. Usually, I just ignore them. This time, I got mad.

  • And They Called Me Whore

    Waking up the next morning, grabbing my panties off of the floor and pulling my clothes together, I realized what had happened. I bow my head, make my way to my friends car, and silently wait for what I know is coming. Laughing, they tell me how wild I got last night, and then I disappeared.

  • Tokophobia: Fear of Childbirth

    Tokophobia: (As defined by Wikipedia) described the fear of childbirth or pregnancy as a psychological disorder, when it had previously received little to no attention as such, in addition to introducing the term tokophobia (from the Greek tokos, meaning childbirth and phobos, meaning fear). Tokophobia is also widely ascribed to the fear of pregnancy, and may also be called "maieusiophobia."

  • Exploring our Sexual Vocabulary: Today’s Word Starts with ‘C’

    The words we use to describe the things we do in bed can say a lot about us, and the society we live in. When we talk sex we usually are talking about something “dirty” or “nasty” or if it drips with raw animal desire, it might even be “filthy.” Why is that?

  • Pregnant Submissives Need Fun, Too.

    As a submissive who has been pregnant three times and a childbirth doula, I can tell you without a doubt you can still enjoy a power exchange relationship even during the highest risk pregnancies! Keeping the spice in your sex life during pregnancy can even lead some of lucky few to have the elusive orgasmic birth!

  • How To Have Amazing Sex

    I was fortunate enough to attend a course that was in part taught by leading sex therapist and sex researcher, Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz. One of the things she discussed was a study her and her fellow colleagues conducted to learn about what components tend to be involved in reaching “optimal” sexuality.

  • To See Justice for the Raped, First they Must Be Seen.

    Despite rape's prevalence in society, the unwillingness to even discuss it has prevented major progress and left innocent people feeling helpless. Instead of waiting for the politicians to discover the willingness to address the prevalence of rape, it's time to stand up, be counted and demand change.

  • 11 Different orgasms? Who knew?

    We orgasm to release tension, we orgasm to feel euphoric, and we orgasm because it's the most incredible feeling in the world. We live to orgasm, at least some of us do. What could be more fun than learning more ways to orgasm?

  • Why I Hate the Term BBW

    For me, the term BBW is offensive and I'd rather it not be used. There are better ways to talk about ourselves!

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl : It's all in the Attitude.

    Whether we are talking about Mothers, Cam Whores, or sexual fetishes; it all comes down to attitude. And as much as people believe, attitude is everything. I am here to tell you, you are full of shit. Attitude means nothing if you can't back it up with the rest of you.

  • From Another Perspective

    Living through sexual abuse is extremely difficult, but what if you're not abused in the way others would think? What happens if that person lives with you and is close to you?

  • SexIs Subjective: Fit is the New...

    How someone looks is a big deal in society. Different phrases and trends in body perception can play a large role in someone's life. Why one phrase is finally getting it right.

  • The First Time

    No one's first time is what everyone imagines it will be. We as a society put so much emphasis on the first time that it is nearly impossible to meet the expectations that accompany your first sexual experience.

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Mood Based Pricing

    How can I tell you who I am in the cam world, if you don't know who I am for real. I want to show you everything involved in being a Cam Girl. And by everything, I mean who I am, what I do, and who (and what) I deal with. So from now on, I am going to be doing 3 part articles. I hope you enjoy!

  • For My Friends & Family: An Open Letter From An Abusive Relationship

    Ever wonder how a woman gets trapped in an abusive relationship, why she stays, and what really goes on behind closed doors? Here is a letter from a woman, just like you and me, who can give you a glimpse.....

  • Confessions of a Stripper

    When you see her on the stage, she appears to be a sexual animal. She is the nameless face that you desire to make all your dreams come true. She knows how it is done and you are ready for her to teach you. Or can she? Do the girls who make their living by teasing men, making them believe they have all the sexual answers, really know what they like in the bed?

  • EdenFantasys, how I love thee. Let me count the ways.

    Everything that has been positive in my sex life within the last ten months has been because I found a wonderful place called EdenFantasys. EdenFantasys has been the center of my growing sexual confidence, and I am so thankful for stumbling upon them.

  • A brief history and cultural lessons of sex in China... a Woman's point of view

    Ever wonder what how the "traditional" Chinese woman views sex? Ever wonder what her family and friends and school, and society and government view sexuality from a woman's point of view? Well, now's your chance. And outsiders view looking into the world of traditional China.

  • The 5 Hallmarks of Feminist Porn

    For decades, pornography has been the domain of men - it was made by and for horny guys, with no regard for what women might like and what might be upsetting to them. But in recent years, there has been a surge of new feminist porn, created by female pornographers for women's enjoyment. It's a very diverse genre, but there are some defining features that most feminist porn films possess.

  • SexIs Subjective: When Words Are Not Enough

    When I first read the suggested topic for this month, I thought that I wouldn't have anything to say about the subject. The slogans and phrases mentioned do not really apply to me. However, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that although the phrases did not exactly apply to me, they did make me feel something.

    They made me feel angry.

  • Feeling Off Balance

    As we women grow older we face certain milestones: Childhood, Menarche, Motherhood, Menopause, Cronehood. Sometimes we have the luxury of just waiting and watching it all happen and sometimes we have to take matters into our own hands. There is often a feeling of excitement about the change in our lives and sometimes there is a touch of sadness about moving on.

  • A little BDSM finally helps me to orgasm - followed by lots of "self love!"

    As an older teenager/young adult, I was sexually dysfunctional due to past issues. In addition to thinking masturbation was "disgusting," I also never understood why men found me attractive. It wasn't until a partner tied me down and "made" me orgasm, that I truly realized what I had been missing.

  • Virginity: Hold On To It or Give It Away?

    Losing our virginity is a big deal to most of us. While some of us want to lose it as quickly as possible, others are willing to hold onto it until they find the perfect partner.

  • Why You Should Buy Your Mom a Sex Toy

    Our mothers do so much for us, often going underappreciated for all their tireless work and love. The best way to appreciate someone is to do it in a way that feels good to them, and to you - and what could feel better than facilitating a self-love revolution? Yes, it might seem weird, but your mom deserves just as many awesome sex toys as you do, and here's why...

  • The Plastic Vagina

    Vaginal cosmetic surgery is on the rise in both the US and the UK. Why? What is so wrong with a woman's vagina that she needs to go under the knife to change it? What is normal?

  • Suck It!

    Who really likes giving head anyway? I do, I do! Let me help you like it too.

  • SexIs Subjective: It's YOUR Body.

    Controversial movements like ‘fat acceptance’ or ‘pro-ana’ leave me feeling confused. How can they ask for acceptance of their bodies while at the same time bringing others down because of theirs?

  • SexIs Subjective: Body Image vs. Conformity

    Joining a group is all about finding individuals with similar thoughts to your own. When the group’s main subject is weight and body image, should the thoughts of others really be used to create your own?

  • 5 Ways to Control a Man

    So you've heard the phrase "It's a man's world." While this may seem true to some women, it's not to me and I'm here to show you why. You have the power. Don't be afraid to use it.

  • Sex Not Going as Planned? Here are Three Steps to get Back to Pleasure.

    It happens to the best of us. You're in the moment, fully enjoying every kiss, stroke, and lick...until you're not. You start thinking about the laundry that needs to get done or that fight we had with whoever or the bills that need to get paid and before you know it, you are just over it. Sex? Not anymore. These three steps are my sure-fire way to move through those moments and back to your pleasure...fast.

  • So, You Read ‘Fifty Shades’, and Now You Want to be a Sub…

    Yes, I get it. You read all three of the ‘Fifty Shades’ books in one weekend, you’ve looked up some stuff on the Internet about BDSM, and now, you’re DYING to be a sub, right? You even typed up a contract just like the one in the book, went and bought a pair of handcuffs, and put a wanted ad in the craigslist personals looking for a Dom. Right?

  • Pinks and Blues. Colors are Colors.

    Makeup, Videogames, Nail Polish, Cookbook, Cologne. I bet you know which sex each of these items belong with.

  • Menstrual Sex: It's Not Just For Vampires

    Many people are terrified of having sex when they or their partner are menstruating, but it's really not that big a deal! There are plenty of ways to have mess-free sex while one partner is bleeding, even if you get squicky around blood. As long as you have the right equipment and attitude, it shouldn't be a problem.

  • Exploring Vibrator Use

    According to studies, just over half of women and about 1/3 of men have at least some experience using vibrators during sexual play. Up to 35% of women usually don’t reach orgasm during masturbation, and up to 70% of women cannot orgasm from penetrative intercourse alone. However, we know that clitoral stimulation is the key for most women being able to achieve orgasm.

  • Just What the Marriage Counselor Ordered

    This month, our parent company EdenFantasys is celebrating 10 sexy years of business! To honor the anniversary, we asked the EdenFantasys Community to tell us what being a member of our community has done for them. This is what SexyStuff had to say.

  • What Makes A Girl Feel Sexy? (“?” Being the Operative Punctuation)

    The sofa was pleather. And so were the girls.

  • I’m batting my eyelashes at you, didn’t you know?

    Lacking in the flirting department? Nanamondoute has advice for the ladies on how to grab his attention!

  • Fat: Mind Over Matter?

    A recent study on body image shows overweight people who lose weight find themselves still lingering in the “fat” mindset. Another reports people view those who lose a lot of weight in a more negative light than even overweight people who maintain a stable weight. What, then, is the point of losing weight?

  • Summer Skin: How do you keep it safe?

    I’m not a girly girl by any means and I don’t have a normal regimen that I use on a daily basis all year long to protect my skin. However, in the summer I do pay special attention to my skin and try to prevent it from becoming sun burned and becoming dry. Dry skin is very common in the summer so I am going to offer some suggestions on what I do to keep my skin soft in the summer.

  • Why So Uptight?

    I was recently on a business trip and had an afternoon to kill and went to a museum for a change of pace. As I was walking around all of the great pieces of art, I noticed something. Back in the Renaissance people were not afraid to have everything hanging out and on view to the world.

  • Oral Sex: How are you at receiving?

    Many men and women report oral as being their favourite sexual act, if not at least enjoying it quite a bit. Oral sex is one of the most common ways of being able to make a woman orgasm, as it gives her partner much more control over the type of stimulation and the exact spots to hit to pleasure her.

  • Touch Me There

    Having a partner that will experiment with you is one of the greatest things in a relationship. Having someone that you trust implicitly is essential for any truly great relationship. And letting that person do things with you that you wouldn’t let anyone else do can be incredibly sexy.

  • Money Talks, or Does It?

    Recently, I read an article discussing whether or not gender equality had changed the rules on who should pay on a date. Like the author, I also grew up thinking that when I was older and dating, the man would automatically pay for the first date, and probably any future dates. It was his responsibility assigned to him by gender, right?

  • Unselfish Hands

    I looked into coming back to write some new articles for EdenFantasys and saw that Touch is the theme for this month. More specifically, how hands relate to touch. I couldn’t wait to write this article.

  • Money Talks: Should he pay?

    Should men still be held responsible and expected to shoulder the financial burdens? Even in such small things as paying for the first meal?

  • More Than Looks

    The evening news comes on to report about the protests in New York – the 1% protests. The reporter clutches her microphone as she gestures with her other arm at the crowds behind her with a serious and solemn expression.

  • Sex and Pregnancy: Trimester Two

    My second trimester started out with a bang. Two, to be exact.

  • 50 Shades of Setting the Mood

    Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve undoubtedly heard about the new book “50 Shades of Grey” by E.L. James. In case you haven’t, it’s a story about a woman becoming submissive to a man. And that in no way fully describes the book, I know.

  • Does Your Partner Mind if You Touch Yourself in Bed?

    I confess that I have trouble sleeping if I don’t have an orgasm that night. It usually doesn’t even matter if I got off in the morning, or if we had sex four hours before bedtime. If my body has already gotten over the endorphins, I have trouble sleeping.

  • Womens issues: Are we sluts?

    Should we take back the word “slut” or just do away with it entirely?

  • Sliding Backwards

    How have we slipped so far so fast, with perhaps more backsliding to come? On the face of it, that doesn't make sense, even with so many cranky and fascist old white guys in leadership positions in the local, state and federal government despite men being only half the population.

  • Like Mother, Like Daughter

    You hear about kids growing up just like their parents. What about their sexuality?

  • 144 Tweets to Document Sexual Abuse ... Before She Died

    Texas teen said her story wasn't believed, and she committed suicide.

  • Sex and Pregnancy: The First Trimester

    It's possible there are as many myths and misconceptions about sex and pregnancy as there are babies being born. So what's fact and what's fiction? In this three-part series, Lady J, as a part of her own pregnancy journey, takes us through sex and pregnancy, one trimester at a time.

  • Denial of Sterilization as a Form of Birth Control: Discrimination or Due Diligence?

    Nothing polarizes debate like birth control. Though many high-profile arguments rage on about abortion, the “morning-after” pill, and insurance payments for birth control pills, sterilization is an often overlooked but equally charged form of contraception.

  • Uniboob Look is Definitely Not the New Sexy

    Want cosmetic surgery? Choose your doctor carefully.

  • Birth Control Pills Out of Order and Recalled

    Company says: “No immediate health issues.” How is pregnancy not a health issue?

  • Feds Rule Insurers Must Cover Preventative Care, Birth Control

    New guidelines go into effect next year. Hooray!

  • Milk Producers Find Out No One Thinks PMS is Very Funny

    Ads are pulled from airwaves. Want to alleviate symptoms? Try sex.

  • Merging the Madonna and the Whore

    The day has come to start bridging the gap between being a mom and being a slut.

  • The Power of SlutWalk Los Angeles was in its Stories

    In January of this year a representative from the Toronto Police Service said “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized” and with that, he created one hell of a shit storm and spurred a new feminist movement.

  • Tuesdays With Nina: The Vagina Monologues

    The Vagina Monologues is a powerful performance that has become a big part of V Day movement, with performances raising funds for women's resource centers and other causes. The show has been performed by countless women internationally, including our own Nina Hartley.

  • Nikol Hasler: Oversharing

    When I was a little kid I was a total weirdo. I would talk to anyone, anywhere. Homeless guy on a bench? Tell me everything. Mother at the park swinging her child? Let's chat about swinging and did you know my grandpa died when my mom was a teenager and her mom is crazy and did you know my neighbor Mrs. Pinkski has a little dog and she thinks I stole her tulips but I was on roller-skates?

  • The Sweet Release — Getting In Touch With Your Inner Slut

    Getting in touch with one’s inner slut offers a new world of empowerment, liberation, and … fun.

  • A Different Kind of Flower Child: Author Inga Muscio

    Inga Muscio came into my life on my first trip to New York City. A daft, nineteen-year-old, budding feminist, I scanned the shelves of St. Mark’s Bookshop and one bold title caught my eye: Cunt. I plucked the book from its resting place to view its pink daisy laden cover and the words “a declaration of independence.” Clearly, I had to read this book.

  • Celebrating International Sex Workers' Rights Day With A Sex-Toy Fashion Show

    Nothing livens up a fashion show like prefacing it with the words “sex toy.”

  • When the Assault on Planned Parenthood Becomes Personal

    My relationship with Planned Parenthood is personal. When I was 19, I was in an abusive relationship and when I found out I was pregnant, Planned Parenthood was there for me. I credit the organization with saving my life. They provided me with all of the information I needed to make an informed decision. I am not ashamed or embarrassed; I am simply grateful that I had a choice and a place to turn.

  • Supporters Rally for Planned Parenthood and Reproductive Healthcare in Manhattan

    The chants and speeches could be heard from several blocks away. The Planned Parenthood rally in Foley Square outside of the courthouse in Manhattan on Saturday afternoon attracted more than 5,000 men and women who came together in peace on the brisk sunny day to demonstrate the importance of healthcare, and reproductive healthcare, for women.

  • Burlesque Cabaret—Fundraiser for Sex Workers Outreach Project—LA

    Those walking into The Grand Star Jazz Club in Los Angeles’ historic Chinatown district on January 27th were in for a special treat. Upon entrance they were greeted by Cleo and Jessie Nicole, two drop dead gorgeous hostesses in tight black dresses and heels.

  • Contraception Without Copay

    If your car only started half the time or your computer only worked on alternate days, what would you do? If you found you were only getting half the channels on your cable you’d call up the company and raise holy hell, right?

  • What My Sex Toys Taught Me

    If someone had told me a couple of years ago that my sex life could be completely different—better than it’s ever been—I probably wouldn’t have believed them, and worse, possibly not even cared.

  • Is There Sex After College?

    College, for those who embrace it, can be a full-on smorgasbord of awesome. At no other time in your life will you have such easy access to all things indulgent and sinful.

  • Nikol Hasler: "Nipple Hair Is Okay!"

    ... among other things. Accepting that some things about your body are beyond your control.

  • Weird Sex Science Awards: And the Nominees Are ...

    For normal people, sex is an enormously pleasurable act; and then there are the scientists, for whom sex seems to be just another human behavior to scrutinize and analyze.

  • Supermodels and Sex: Misconceptions and Reality

    Wrapped up the psyche of satisfaction is the psychology of sex. Superior sex is only in small part physical; the rest is in the minds of you and your partner and how you perceive each other.

  • The Secrets of Lust, Desire and Arousal in Women

    Science offers clues, but doesn't have the answers—maybe because “desire” is what a woman says it is.

  • Remembering the Victims

    Community comes together to end violence against sex workers.

  • God, Sex and Ecstasy

  • Living La Vida Secreta: Growing up Gay in a Traditional Mexican Family

  • Tuesdays With Nina: A Woman's Sex Drive is Like a Mountain Range...There's More Than Just One Peak.

    Women have been told that they reach the top rung of the sexual ladder later than men do, but what does that really mean? Is it possible to quantify the female libido chronologically?

  • A Brief History of Aphrodisiac Cookbooks

  • The Score (Part One)

    For once, I’m not writing about getting laid. Kinda.

  • Mirror, Mirror: When Pictures Lie

    Every picture tells a story, but a lot of the time, what's being sold as the truth is a fairy tale. When does fashion become a weapon and just how dangerous is altering reality to sell advertising?

  • The Naked Reader Presents: Snatch: The Delicate pH-Balance of Girl Power

    White power. Black power. Power to the people. Exceptionally potent phrases, all.

  • Talking Dirty: Gillian Telling Comes Clean with Dirty Girls

    In public, most women try to be well mannered, look pretty and smell nice. But once a single gal gets home at the end of the evening? She’s just plain dirty.

  • Dear White Guys: An Open Letter

  • Vagina of Steel

    Squeeze 1 … 2 … 3, and release

  • Online Dateless

    The sea of online love is vast, and there are a lot of fish in the ocean. If you don't want to wind up looking like a bottom feeder, you have to have to dangle the right bait. So, put away those night crawlers and read on.

  • The Sexpert Series: Dr. Patti Britton

    When it comes to sex therapy, pretty much anyone with an opinion can hang out a shingle and call themselves an “expert,” but how do you separate the spin doctors from the real deal? In the days ahead, SexIs will be speaking to some of the most respected “sexperts” in the field to separate pros from the poseurs—and get the skinny on how to have great sex.

  • I Eat, Therefore, I Am…

    Most of us have some kind of issues involving food and many are forever trying to lose weight thinking it will help achieve sexiness, so there’s probably nothing more socially subversive you could do in America in 2010 than to gain weight on purpose.

  • Top(less) of the World!

    Women make a statement for topless equality

  • Scent of Arousal: The Science Behind the Sexy of the Great Pheromone Debate

    Whether it’s the first flicker of sexual attraction, or deep in the throws of passion, it’s a good bet that when you’re in the moment, you’re not worrying about the chemistry of desire.

  • Period Pieces

  • Secrets of a Sex Writer: A Little Bit Poly

  • Our Porn, Ourselves: Erika Lust on the Future of Porn

  • Beautiful & Kind: Interview with a Sex Goddess

    “The Beautiful Kind” (a.k.a. “TBK”) is both the name and motto of the 30-something bisexual vegetarian sex goddess located in St. Louis, Missouri. A prolific sex writer, TBK writes for a variety of magazines, including SexIs, and also pens a popular Internet advice column “Ask The Slut.”

  • Midori’s Post Cards From a Sex Nerd: When Bad Things Happen … Throw a Party!

  • Some Girls: An Interview with Jillian Lauren

  • Tuesdays with Nina

    Nina discusses an email from a viewer who has questions—many, many questions.

  • April Fresh, Part One

    Voluptuous April Flores is making serious waves in the world of alt-porn with dangerous curves cultivated by confidence, courage and—lo and behold—carbs.

  • Secrets of a Sex Writer: Girl Crushes, Bisexuality and Bi-Curiousness

  • The Naked Reader Book Club Twitterotica Contest!

    One week, 140 characters...and your imagination. Presenting our weekly winner, runner-up and the outstanding entries for last week’s topic: "I want you, but I can't tell you."

  • Motorcycles and Sex: The Rapture of the Road

    There may be nothing you can legally do with your body more exciting and sensual than grabbing your partner and jumping on a motorcycle, at least in public. No other human experience heightens the senses and ignites instincts like climbing atop a great chuffing beast and heading out on the highway.

  • Feminist Feat: Leora Tanenbaum Talks about Bad Shoes

  • Belly Dancing Your Way to Better Sex

    Like certain other physical activities—surfing, yoga, running—belly dance more than just exercise; it becomes a way of life for some people—a way of carrying yourself, enjoying your body and moving proudly and sensually through the world.

  • The All-Important Second Date

    First date: coffee or dinner and a movie. Second date: things begin to warm up. While traditionally the third date is "the one we do it," sometimes second dates are all it takes...

  • Secrets of a Sex Writer: My “Trendy” Post-Breakup Celibacy

  • Eating Disorders – Thin, Sexy, Perfect and… Frigid?

    I studied eating disorders like a Ph.D. candidate, crossing back and forth from memoir to scholarly article, to magazine column and back again to autobiography. I put in hours of effort, memorizing passages and quotes, regurgitating information and ultimately learning everything there was to be learned about Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa.

  • The Whole Camel Foot

  • SexFeed:Pills to Prevent Pregnancy and Premature Ejaculation Also Lower Sex Drive

  • SexFeed:Anti-Porn Activists Now Targeting Female Porn Addicts

  • The Whore Journals: Werewolves, Foot Fetishists and a Trip to Vegas

    It's my very first professional sex for pay encounter, and I'm having a strange sense of déjà vu. Guess you never know how small the world is... until you meet your first client.

  • When the John’s a Jane

    A look at women who pay for their pleasure, and the sex workers who satisfy their cravings.

  • Dr. Dick on Demand—Eating Out at the Y: The Finer Points of Cunnilingus

    Many women prefer oral sex to intercourse, because it has the potential to give them exceptional orgasms. And for those of you who need loads of direct clit contact to get off, mouth-to-clit stimulation is one of the easiest, most enjoyable ways to get make that happen.

  • Em & Lo's Sex Ed for Grown Ups: Advanced Anatomy

  • The Saggy Boobs Light Brigade

    Behold the human body! Sure, it's a beautiful thing. But perfect? Not hardly!

  • My Dildo Looks Like Orson Welles

    Is there some sort of sexual subterfuge going on? Some collective cultural desire to hide sex even with something as liberated as sex toys? Because why don’t many dildo manufacturers associate their sex toys with, y’know…sex?

  • Chemo Sexual

    At 31, she was diagnosed with Primary Mediastinal Large B Cell (Non Hodgkin’s) Lymphoma. Described at times as “diffuse” and “aggressive,” this cancer targets white chicks in their early thirties. Now, 16 months into remission, the author looks back on her road to wellness, including some sexual detours along the way.

  • Rosebud

    It’s a safe bet to say that the anus is the most disowned area of most people’s bodies. To say that the anus and anal sex are taboo does not begin to capture how personally directed the fear and disgust of the anus is.

  • The Plight of the Submissive Feminist

    When you’ve spent most of your life fighting to be taken seriously as a woman, it can be extraordinarily grating to discover that you want to call any man “sir.” This, then, is the plight of the feminist sexual submissive—how do you maintain your identity as a strong, intelligent, independent woman when you also get off on letting people push you around?

  • The Story of (the Missing) O

    In her witty, tongue-in-cheek tale, Cutting Up Playgirl: A Memoir of Sexual Disappointment, author Carrie Jones chronicles a life without orgasms and her quest for the ever-elusive climax to her story.

  • Burning for You

    UTIs (Urinary Tract Infections) are not “teh sexay”—to some, they are the TMI of sex; but nonetheless they are a fact of life. But when they start showing up more frequently than syndicated episodes of Seinfeld, there has to be a solution.

  • The Whore Journals: Getting PAID for doing what I used to do for FREE

    She was smart, attractive, unemployed…and good in bed. Fed up with getting screwed by the corporate world, she decided to take destiny in her own hands, have sex on her own terms, and put a new twist on the world’s oldest profession.

  • Sex & Culture & The Pill

    Today, women take contraception for granted. Many even consider having to take a daily dose a chore. In response, a proliferation of once-monthly, and even once-quarterly forms of birth control have flooded the marketplace … but it wasn’t so long ago that sex minus fertility wasn’t an option—even if you were married. How the introduction of one little pill changed the modern world.

  • The Girlfriend Game: Can I See Some I.D.?

    Lesbian? Gay? Bi-curious? Straight. Sexual identification isn’t always etched in stone. Sometimes, you can’t tell who the players are, even when you have the scorecard.

  • The of Eroticism of Skin

    You could say skin holds a certain magic that’s frightened us and attracted us since forever, right from the very beginning.

  • Dr. Dick on Demand: The Lube Rubric: A Little Dab’ll Do Ya!

    When it comes to producing natural lubrication, no two women are exactly alike. And since lubrication is essential during sex—no matter how aroused you are—it’s more than a good idea to have a bottle nearby.

  • Overexposed: An Executive Pornographer Gets in Too Deep

    Maybe you know me. I’m the one who stays quiet, simply listening, as other women discuss the evils of pornography. At risk of outing myself, I choose not to share my opinions. But I have quite a few. After all, I spent three years working behind the scenes for a company publishing porn websites and DVDs.

  • The Secret Life of the American Cougar

    To hell with the young ones that don’t know their G-spot from their clit, or who think that perky tits and a flat tummy are the keys to getting a date. Give me a little of that Cougar spirit!

  • Fire in the Belly: Self-Love and Navel Gazing

    My lover made up a modern proverb: “A woman who loves her belly loves her body.” I don’t think it will catch on. It’s true that women, particularly modern women in Western culture, have a love-hate (or even a hate-hate) relationship with their bellies. Why? What did that sweet bump of skin (located as it is under the two much glamorized and beloved fat-bags) do to deserve such scorn?

  • The Madonna/Whore Paradox: De-sexualizing and Re-sexualizing the American Mom

    Making babies is sexy. Having them? Sometimes not so much. For many couples, the transition from carefree lovers to full-time parents comes with unexpected consequences in the bedroom. Maternal instinct can put the kibosh on the libido—of men and women alike. So, can a woman be a model mom and a red-hot momma?

  • The Lap Dance

    As a happily married woman who had spent a considerable amount of time learning how to do a striptease, I figured it was high time to go see the real thing. Yes, Virginia—it’s time to find out what really goes on at the strip club!

  • Period Sex: Blood In, Blood Out

    On a 1 to 10 scale of Internet freakydeaky, I’d personally place period fetishes at a rather tame three or four. And if any of you wonderful readers have a lust for the moon blood, alas, this is not your story, but a quest to discover how many people are unwilling to go to town when Aunt Flo’s in.

  • Girl, You’ll Be a Woman Soon...

    While many women complain about the misfortunes and misadventures that go along with being well endowed, believe me when I tell you that we flat gals have our fair share of daily embarrassments and occasional calamities.

  • Grading on the Curves: A Report Card on Women’s Healthcare

    It’s fair to say that healthcare and women have a complicated history. Let’s take a look at why.

  • No More Periods: Is This a Good Idea?

    Many of today’s newer birth control pills are specifically marketed for a new reason, other than birth control itself: menstrual suppression

  • Come as You Are

    An education in orgasms, from beginner to expert.

  • Pubescaping

    To shave or not to shave—that is the question. I've always sported hair in my southern hemisphere, so when I saw porn where the models are bare except for a landing strip, I wondered what it would be like to be clean-shaven. I trim during the summer to keep my little curls from saying "boo!" when I wear a swimsuit, so when my husband begged me to let him shave me, I figured it might be fun...

  • The Road Taken: How I Used to Be a Prude

    I used to be a prude, but I didn’t know it. I had what I thought was good sex. My husband then (now ex) and I played around a little bit, did things like “69” and the occasional blindfolding. Seemed shocking and kinky at the time.

  • Rebel Belle: How the Bible Belt Isn’t Always a Chastity Belt

    Sage sexuality south of the Mason Dixon? Boy, howdy!

  • The High Artifice of Girl Watching

    Dolly Parton has said that it takes a lot of money to look cheap. And it’s true. Women spend a fortune on all manner of things to look younger, thinner, taller, bustier—to get noticed. It’s no secret. We want you to look. That said, there are right ways and there are wrong ways.

  • Just Looking 101: How to Scope Out Guys without Being Creepy or Getting Caught

    Guys love it when people look. It’s the kind of shock and awe that leaves us riding high on dopamine and suddenly increased self-worth, even if secretly so. But let’s be honest. In a very practical sense, there’s clearly a right way and wrong to way to scope out guys. The right way is flirty and fun. The wrong way? Well, it might just necessitate a visit from Nancy Grace.

  • Is This Love?

    Crush, obsession, or the real deal? One woman’s journey to decipher the difference.

  • The Nylon Underground

    It’s a tradition as old as the internet itself—the act of selling one’s own used undergarments online for a quick infusion of cash. Yvette Safire recently found herself in a bit of a financial bind, and thus began to contemplate the possibilities...

  • Getting “Wet” – Understanding Why and How Women Do and Don’t

    Although in the United States, a woman’s ability to get wet is often valued as a sign of her sexual interest in her partner, appreciation for women’s self-lubricating potential (we are the original self-lubricating beings…) is not universal. In some cultures it is dry sex that is held up as the ideal, and women become smooth about avoiding becoming slick.

  • Dr. Dick on Demand: Sexual Mythbusters, Part 1

    No matter your experience level, no matter what you know (or think you know)—there is need for a little remedial sex-ed from time to time. The one and only Dr. Dick has a surprise or two for you this week, as he sets about a little sexual mythbusting of his own (sans handlebar moustache and/or beret).

  • The Sexual Revolution Versus the Female Imagination

    What happens when rough sex scenarios and feminist sensibilities collide?

  • The Selling of Pseudoscience Porn: Why Women Have Sex!

    Or, to lay it out for you in mathematical terms: Bad Science + Bad Sex = Good Marketing.

  • The Great Douche Debate

    It turns out that Gladys’ husband wasn’t impotent, after all. And June’s wasn’t in the closet. Nope. The problem, duh, was FEMININE ODOR. Think about it: What red-blooded American male could manage to think about pussy after a hard day’s work when it smelled like, um, PUSSY?

  • Sex and the Suburbs: The Booby Trap

    I have breasts. You have breasts. Women have breasts. What we do with them on the other hand is our decision.

  • Sex and the Suburbs: Bi-Bi Mommy

    The last relationship I had before I met my husband was with a woman. Yes, I am a bi-sexual woman, although I am not a great fan of labels and can’t truly, with all honesty, say that I know that I fit the definition of that title to a tee. Nor do I really care.

  • Living with Infertility

    With a media that pushes pregnancies of 8 or families of 18, it can be difficult to accept the reality that simply having a first or second child may be extremely difficult or ultimately, never happen at all.

  • Dr. Dick on Demand: The Self-Sexological Exam

    What if—you, a healthy, otherwise happy woman—had gone through your entire life...without having experienced the joys of an orgasm?

  • Observations of a Sex Positive Gypsy: Porn for the Jaded

    One of the hazards of being a traveling sex educator is the creeping case of the hornies that just can’t be quelled, pilled, potioned, pricked, or new-aged away...which inevitably leads me to porn. Problem is, I think I qualify as “porn-jaded”, which makes it harder to find the stuff that gets my panties in a twist. What to do?

  • Sex and the Suburbs: To Watch or Not to Watch, That is The Question

    Many men already know the joys of pornography, whether it be a raunchy movie or some strategically shot photos on the internet—and aren’t afraid to sing their praises. However, most women I have spoken to regarding porn either love it or hate it, and there isn’t much middle ground.

  • Sex and the Suburbs: Why Celebumoms Make Us Feel Bad—And Why We Allow It

    Why has the once-cherished mom-bod become something to be looked upon with disgust and disdain, rather than revered as the happy result of something natural and beautiful?

  • Jilling Off

    Girls do it, too. Oh, do they ever.

  • Sex and the Suburbs: We Really Need to Talk...

    This week: an open letter to dads, husbands and/or partners, from the mothers who love them but want—or, rather, need—more foreplay).

  • Sex and the Suburbs: The S-E-X Talk (You Knew It Was Coming)

    When it comes to talking to your wee little ones about the birds and the bees (and specifically, why Mommy and Daddy are doing it), the truth often WILL set you free—and it just might get you laid more often.

  • Sex and the Newly Single Mother

    I’m a newly single mother with a ridiculous libido, a penchant for deep throating and the ability to grind a man into orgasmic hyperventilation. (Not to toot my own horn, but a girl must be confident in her talents even though I’m too chicken shit to try them out on anyone new.) I’ve left my comfort zone sexually, the place in which I was pretty happy and complacent: marriage.

  • Sex and the Suburbs: A Day in the Sex Life of a Suburban Mom

    It’s time to enjoy a glimpse into the world of your typical suburban mom (played by me), and how sex fits (or more appropriately doesn’t fit) into it. It’s not pretty, it’s not glamorous and it certainly isn’t all that sexy. But here it is, stripped down to the bone. It might just look a little familiar…

  • Sex and the Suburbs: The Post-Baby Body Image Dilemma

    Body-image issues play a considerable role in our sex lives—but how do you confront them?

  • How to get free blow jobs

    This post might give you a headache but it’s totally worth it

  • Sex And the Suburbs: Motherhood and Intercourse—A Mythical Concept No More

    Why? Because moms have sex...

  • Other Lovers

    Last night I slept with Christian, my ex-husband, for the first time since he became my ex-husband. In so doing, I knowingly exacerbated his feelings for me, opened my own heart back up to him…and betrayed both of our significant others.

  • Beyond Bromance – Women Getting Off to Guys Getting it On

    It's said that men like nothing more than to watch two women going at it. So what about the reverse: women getting off on watching two guys getting it on?

  • Boating for Beginners Part Two: A Handy-Dandy Guide to Cunnilingus for the Guys

    Cunnilingus isn’t nearly as hard as it’s made out to be. However, it helps to know what you’re doing down there – and, maybe even more importantly - what NOT to do down there.

  • The 25 Hallmarks of Bad Cunnilingus

    In the spirit of the ‘25 things’ meme so popular on Facebook, Lindsay offers up for you her 'Top 25 Things Not to Do When Between a Woman's Legs’, in no particular order of offense…

  • {FemEj}

    Where we shine the warm, wet light of truthiness on that newly-hallowed squirt of feminine splendor: female ejaculation. So come – and be christened!

  • Auto-Erotic Autonomy: Women & Self-Image

    Societal standards be damned - self-esteem is more involved in great sex than you might think.

  • Keeping A-Breast of Things

    Whether you know them as bazongas, bazookas, cha-chas or torpedoes, chances are likely that breasts have influenced some aspect of your life. They are not only at the core of female sexiness, but they define fantasies, appear as desires and are a cash cow for movies, magazines and music world-wide. Regardless of whether you love them or hate them, it is nearly impossible to avoid the dynamic duo.

  • Sex and Pregnancy: A Short Guide to Getting Off When You’re Knocked Up

    So, you’re pregnant! Don’t let your mother-in-law tell you that you can’t have sex during the next nine months—chances are that not only can you have sex, it might just be the best sex of your life.

  • O: Your Own Carnal Knowledge

    So you think you know what an orgasm is (and isn't)? Think again!

  • Clitology

    The fervent focal point of a woman’s sexuality – but what do you really know about it?

  • From Hysteria to Ecstasy: How the Once-Illicit Vibrator Evolved Into the World’s Most Joyful Toy

    News flash: women are masturbators as prodigious as their male counterparts, if not perhaps a bit more so. It didn’t happen overnight, either. In fact, women have been using sex toys for as long as there’s been sex.

  • The Venus Pendulum: A Brief History of Women and Sex

    How do you condense the history of female sexuality into 1500-ish words? With dignity, aplomb, and an occasional dig at the Victorians.

  • Boating for Beginners, Part One: A Handy-Dandy Guide to Cunnilingus for the Guys

    Cunnilingus isn’t nearly as hard as it’s made out to be. However, it helps to know what you’re doing down there – and, more importantly, why.

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