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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 16, 2010
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by Dr Dick,
Mar. 15, 2010
In the last installment of my series on male masturbation, we discussed problematic masturbation styles—how they can get in the way of satisfying partnered sex, and offered a surefire way to resolve these problems. This time around, I’d like to offer suggestions on how men can use different styles of masturbation to overcome certain dysfunctions, such as premature ejaculation.
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by Morgan,
Mar. 12, 2010
When you’ve spent most of your life fighting to be taken seriously as a woman, it can be extraordinarily grating to discover that you want to call any man “sir.” This, then, is the plight of the feminist sexual submissive—how do you maintain your identity as a strong, intelligent, independent woman when you also get off on letting people push you around?
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by Mandy Van Deven,
Mar. 10, 2010
In her witty, tongue-in-cheek tale, Cutting Up Playgirl: A Memoir of Sexual Disappointment, author Carrie Jones chronicles a life without orgasms and her quest for the ever-elusive climax to her story.
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 09, 2010
Great sex is easy... when you’re Nina Hartley, but even Nina says there’s a lot to be learned from reading. This week, Nina tells us which books are essential to educating your libido.
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by Tucker Cummings,
Mar. 09, 2010
On the 115th anniversary of his death, we still have much to learn about sex, power and the true nature of love from the man for whom the term “masochism” was invented.
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by Alisa Bowman,
Mar. 08, 2010
UTIs (Urinary Tract Infections) are not “teh sexay”—to some, they are the TMI of sex; but nonetheless they are a fact of life. But when they start showing up more frequently than syndicated episodes of Seinfeld, there has to be a solution.
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by The Beautiful Kind,
Mar. 08, 2010
She was smart, attractive, unemployed…and good in bed. Fed up with getting screwed by the corporate world, she decided to take destiny in her own hands, have sex on her own terms, and put a new twist on the world’s oldest profession.
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by Forbidden Light,
Mar. 03, 2010
In every city, hundreds of beautiful men and women are including sexual activity into their massage practice. Alternatively, could it be that they are involving massage in their sex work? Nudity, mutual touch and sexual stimulation are becoming common complementary features to therapeutic touch…. There’s always been a thin line between massage parlors and cathouses—if any distinction at all.
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by Nina Hartley,
Mar. 02, 2010
When you’re raised in a very conservative environment, it often throws a monkey wrench into your sex life. Thankfully, you can overcome early sex-negative training and learn to embrace a robust means of healthy sexual expression.
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by Liz Langley,
Mar. 01, 2010
Today, women take contraception for granted. Many even consider having to take a daily dose a chore. In response, a proliferation of once-monthly, and even once-quarterly forms of birth control have flooded the marketplace … but it wasn’t so long ago that sex minus fertility wasn’t an option—even if you were married. How the introduction of one little pill changed the modern world.
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by Dr Dick,
Mar. 01, 2010
For some men, this freelance sexual investigation can, and often does, produce some very interesting, unique and even downright strange styles of self-pleasuring, that sadly, often do not lend themselves to partnered sex. But according to Dr. Dick, with proper motivation and some focused redirection, men can learn to climax with a lover as well as on their own.
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by ErinORiordan,
Feb. 26, 2010
Lesbian? Gay? Bi-curious? Straight. Sexual identification isn’t always etched in stone. Sometimes, you can’t tell who the players are, even when you have the scorecard.
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by The Bloggess,
Feb. 25, 2010
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by Yvette Safire,
Feb. 23, 2010
You could say skin holds a certain magic that’s frightened us and attracted us since forever, right from the very beginning.
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 23, 2010
Who is responsible for you having a happy sex life? Hint: It’s not your partner. Nina explains that without a healthy emotional state, good communication, and mutual respect for one another, no amount of bedroom acrobatics will save a bad sex life.
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by Zoeyjane,
Feb. 22, 2010
Who knew that one little pill daily—a mere 20 milligrams of the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) Paxil—would cause my entire world to come crashing down?
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by The Beautiful Kind,
Feb. 22, 2010
Not every woman in their late 30s can say they devirginized four men in one year. I can. Over the course of several months, I spent intimate time with four adult male virgins, from 24 to 38 years of age. Two had overwhelmingly positive outcomes, and two did not.
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by Ymagine,
Feb. 19, 2010
Women love men. Men love porn. While some wives hate their hubby’s smut habit, others have learned to embrace it… with some very satisfying results.
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by KalCobalt,
Feb. 17, 2010
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by Cherry Trifle,
Feb. 16, 2010
And why shouldn’t they? Haven’t they earned it, for Pete’s sake? And if nothing else, the prospect of aging does seems far more tolerable if oral’s still on the table.
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 16, 2010
When you’re in bed, how often do you find yourself saying "no" to something that might actually be pleasing? A little too often? Find out why Nina says learning to give, accept and offer permission is the path to embracing your true potential, and unlocking the pathway to untold sexual pleasures.
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by Lady J,
Feb. 15, 2010
Scientists do many things in the name of progress. They seek cures for diseases; explore the nature of the universe, and the universe of nature. But sometimes, their findings can be flawed, faulty—or downright eff’d up. In other words: Put back that planet, and take your paws off my G-Spot!
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by Dr Dick,
Feb. 15, 2010
When it comes to producing natural lubrication, no two women are exactly alike. And since lubrication is essential during sex—no matter how aroused you are—it’s more than a good idea to have a bottle nearby.
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by Johnny Murdoc,
Feb. 11, 2010
Unsatisfied with the fare dished out by mainstream media, many gay voices are seeking out and creating their own vehicles of self-expression—and in the process, re-inventing print in their own image.
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by KalCobalt,
Feb. 10, 2010
CBT: It all makes sense until that last letter. Cock and ball...torture? Really? If you were raised on “guy gets smacked in the junk” clips on America’s Funniest Home Videos, or if you possess junk that prefers a little tenderness to the crotch equivalent of Fight Club, this one might take a little explaining.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Feb. 09, 2010
To hell with the young ones that don’t know their G-spot from their clit, or who think that perky tits and a flat tummy are the keys to getting a date. Give me a little of that Cougar spirit!
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 09, 2010
This week, Nina takes on two very different questions. First, she tackles the issue of clit sensitivity. Does it diminish as we age? Can a clit piercing enhance pleasure? Next, a considerate young man wants to please his lover, but is worried that he’s climaxing too fast. Find out why Nina says: "There’s no such thing as coming to soon."
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by G.L. Morrison,
Feb. 08, 2010
My lover made up a modern proverb: “A woman who loves her belly loves her body.” I don’t think it will catch on. It’s true that women, particularly modern women in Western culture, have a love-hate (or even a hate-hate) relationship with their bellies. Why? What did that sweet bump of skin (located as it is under the two much glamorized and beloved fat-bags) do to deserve such scorn?
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by The Beautiful Kind,
Feb. 08, 2010
Did you know that the average woman takes about 20 minutes to achieve orgasm? The majority of men, on the other hand, don’t have a problem coming in 5 minutes. If a woman can orgasm during intercourse (though not all do), she’s going to require more time than most men need. Basically, a woman’s orgasm is like a symphony, whereas, a man’s is more like a rock song.
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by Rabbit White,
Feb. 03, 2010
Leather has a well-established niche in gay history. A look at the macho pioneers—from military men to bikers and artists—who shaped leather culture as we know it today.
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by Sam Benjamin,
Feb. 02, 2010
For more than five years, my working life revolved around framing acts of public copulation. I’ve pushed cameras and microphones into dwellings no machines should ever go. I’ve been granted a front-row seat to scenes of startling intimacy. I’ve helped pick up thousands of used baby-wipes. And somewhere along the line, I learned a lot about how men and women perceive each other.
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by Nina Hartley,
Feb. 02, 2010
This week, Nina discusses some of the better sex advice books available, from Tristan Taormino to Carol Queen, and even Nina herself! She also gives a few tips on how to enjoy a rewarding sex life with a partner with MS.
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by Dr Dick,
Feb. 01, 2010
Nowadays, body piercings are all the rage. And, as we all know, some fellas can’t stop with just a few—which can lead to some humorous predicaments when being wanded by airport security. While I firmly believe in the right of every man to augment, embellish, or in any other way customize his equipment, it’s a personal decision. If it makes you happy, go for it. If it ain’t for you, just say NO.
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by Rydell Johnson,
Jan. 28, 2010
Snip-snip, the Big V, or voluntary sterilization. No matter how you slice it (good one, right?), a vasectomy is a major decision. Fortunately, it’s a minor procedure—and a great excuse to spend the weekend on the couch.
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by Citi Kittie,
Jan. 27, 2010
All the pick-up guides I read (and I read a lot) focus on small talk. What to say, how to say it, how much to say, how little to reveal. But sometimes it’s easier to say nothing at all. Sometimes the best way to meet people is to leave language aside and just bark, mew, whimper, or pant. *Sniff, sniff*
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by Elizabeth,
Jan. 27, 2010
Compared to heterosexual sex or sex between men, sex between women is generally a lower-risk activity. It isn’t however, a no-risk activity.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 26, 2010
Today, Nina talks about how to conquer the Cowgirl position—or, to be more precise, how to do the “butt shimmy"—in a way that will make everybody happy!
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by Alisa Bowman,
Jan. 25, 2010
As a happily married woman who had spent a considerable amount of time learning how to do a striptease, I figured it was high time to go see the real thing. Yes, Virginia—it’s time to find out what really goes on at the strip club!
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by Cherry Trifle,
Jan. 25, 2010
Big budgets, top names and sleek production values aside, in its never ending quest to be hot, hotter, hottest, traditional adult movies have become predictable, thus leaving the door wide open for a new breed of amateur auteurs to infiltrate the market with reality-based fare many viewers say they can’t get enough of.
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by Yvette Safire,
Jan. 21, 2010
In Gilda (1946), Rita Hayworth slowly peeled off a single elbow-length black glove to evoke all the magic and sensuality of the striptease, to the delight of viewers and the press. Roughly sixty years later, hardcore pornography lurks in every corner of our Web browsers. But are our lightning-fast Internet connections really helping us do sex better, faster, and more efficiently?
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by Sarah Sloane,
Jan. 20, 2010
Fight Club. Rugby. MMA. Let’s face it—we live in a society where it’s okay to be physically combative in a competition for superiority. But what happens when the fighting takes on an overtly kinky overtone? You’ve got what some refer to as Rough Body Play, or “Thug Play”—an old fashioned beatdown, not to the death, but until someone gets tired or cries “uncle.”
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by KalCobalt,
Jan. 20, 2010
If you’ve ever filled out a BDSM checklist, chances are you’ve seen a question about whether you enjoy “serving as furniture.” Or you might have run across someone who gets hot when referred to as “it.” What’s the allure of objectification? Let’s take an objective (sorry) look at this very stationary fetish.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 19, 2010
Today, Nina dishes on the biggest sexual organ of all...the brain!
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by Johnny Murdoc,
Jan. 18, 2010
When I moved in with my partner, I did something unthinkable: I stopped masturbating. Though we’d been sexually active before we moved in together, but I still masturbated occasionally, and, at 21, I needed to orgasm more than once a week. Still, I felt bad when I did it—almost like it was a betrayal of our relationship, and I promised myself that I’d stop when we moved in together.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Jan. 15, 2010
On a 1 to 10 scale of Internet freakydeaky, I’d personally place period fetishes at a rather tame three or four. And if any of you wonderful readers have a lust for the moon blood, alas, this is not your story, but a quest to discover how many people are unwilling to go to town when Aunt Flo’s in.
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by Mrs Melee,
Jan. 14, 2010
I love strippers. I love their well-fitted bikinis. I love the way the move in high heels. I love the their upper body strength and flexibility. (Oh, the flexibility.) I love the bravery and unfettered sensuality. Showmanship turns me on. Tina Fey would never approve of me.
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by Sam Benjamin,
Jan. 13, 2010
The recession is upon us; no one sane would dare doubt it. The auto industry’s long since moved overseas, and despite government bailouts, no one in their right mind would buy a Ford. Pilots are working longer hours for 50% pay; 127 banks have failed. But are industries we previously thought to be recession-proof feeling the punch too? If porno fails, says the soothsayer, the nation fails…
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by Citi Kittie,
Jan. 13, 2010
I ended up the collared pet of a woman I never met, never talked to on the phone, saw on webcam only a handful of times, but communicated with almost daily. It’s not easy turning your life over to another person, and maybe not all that healthy. But its allure was as strong as any drug and I just couldn’t resist.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 12, 2010
Nina answers a few viewers’ questions on yeast infections, excessive masturbation, and...Nina dishes on her favorite sex toy!
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by Dr Dick,
Jan. 11, 2010
Getting ready to marry and finding yourself with a case of the cold feet? Never fear; Dr. Dick is here, with a primer for all you betrothed to-be to find your own sexual success.
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by Zoeyjane,
Jan. 08, 2010
My sex life was completely, 100 percent, definitely no question about it attributed to my high and low moods. So, I stepped away from the computer and told a doctor in real life. I was easily diagnosed as bipolar, in part because of the record setting, in addition to the fact that I was unbalanced and moody. Since, bipolar has been written on my metaphorical psychiatric permanent record.
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by Yvette Safire,
Jan. 08, 2010
The Victorian Era added an important term to the sexual lexicon, other than merkin. When a family shared a bed, Mother and Father would instruct the kiddies to squish together and lie on their sides facing the same direction. Everyone stayed warm and more children could fit in the bed. Thus, spooning was born.
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by The Bloggess,
Jan. 07, 2010
Hi. My name is Jenny and people email me weird-ass shit. Almost all of emails begin “You don’t know me but I saw this and thought of you”. Then I feel a little bit sad at the direction my life has taken. But then I look at the links and it makes it all worthwhile. Except for the ones that make me question humanity. And then I share the links here. Then we all suffer and rejoice together.
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by Liz Langley,
Jan. 06, 2010
Some of us have a fetish—a very particular fetish, that is—a fetish for latex and PVC, which is often associated with the realms of BDSM or S&M. But this particular fetish isn’t about BDSM. It’s just for ‘the look.’ Or, as renowned designer The Baroness puts it, “the other S&M: Stand and Model.”
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by KalCobalt,
Jan. 06, 2010
Is there happiness in slavery? When a collar isn’t just jewelry but means something, what does it mean? Let’s talk fact and fiction when it comes to living under contract.
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by Nina Hartley,
Jan. 05, 2010
How does a couple prepare for a threesome? How do you know if it’s right for you and your partner? Why is the fantasy often better than the reality? Nina explains it all!
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by Roland Hulme,
Jan. 04, 2010
Known for his legendary libido, Greek god Pan left a trail of ravished woodland nymphs in his wake. In modern times, does the aphrodisiac that bears his image live up to the horny hype, or is it another myth waiting to get busted?
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by The Beautiful Kind,
Jan. 04, 2010
This week, Sexis’ own friendly e-neighborhood sex surrogate takes on a BIG problem—penis size...or, rather, the size of men’s anxieties over penis size.
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by Dr Dick,
Jan. 04, 2010
All phobias can be overcome with some effort. The same is true for conquering a fear of sex. Here, I walk a young gay man through his trepidation. We take simple, easy to accomplish steps to build confidence and dispel his apprehensions.
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by Elizabeth Black,
Jan. 02, 2010
When I heard about figging, I was fairly certain that I’d enjoy it. Figging is inserting a plug of fresh ginger root into your ass to enhance sexual pleasure. The ginger’s juices soak into your anal tissues, resulting in a burning sensation that is both arousing and excruciating. This practice took root in Victorian times—and you know those prim folks engaged in some very kinky pastimes.
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by Alisa Bowman,
Dec. 29, 2009
Last year, on Christmas Eve, I dressed in red lingerie, fishnets and heels, sauntered up to my husband, and said, “I am here to satisfy you in every way.” He rather enjoyed that gift, so I decided to make it a yearly tradition. This year, however, I wanted to take things up a notch. Rather than just dress up, I was going to perform. I would give him a strip tease to be remembered.
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by Nina Hartley,
Dec. 29, 2009
How do adult performers make anal sex look so flawlessly clean? Nina dishes on a few tricks of the trade.
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by Dr Dick,
Dec. 28, 2009
One of the most difficult things for me to deal with as a therapist is the aftermath of sexual trauma. And I know that the trouble I have with this is only a tiny fraction of the difficulty my client has as he or she faces his/her past.
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by KalCobalt,
Dec. 23, 2009
White coats, stethoscopes, and nurses standing by? Ooh la la! A surprising number of folks get faint at the thought of a little medical porn, or medical equipment—and those are two very different kinks. The doctor will see you now, with five examinations of this very popular kink.
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by Bella Bell,
Dec. 22, 2009
When faced with the task of investigating what goes on it the Japanese sex clubs, I never for a moment thought that it would be easy. But who’d have thought that it’d be so hard to catch a ride on ‘the touching trains’?
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by The Beautiful Kind,
Dec. 21, 2009
Hey, fellas—when’s the last time you sported a boner? Have you ever noticed how annoying spontaneous erections are for teenage boys, and how annoying lack of erections are for older men?
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by Newme,
Dec. 18, 2009
An education in orgasms, from beginner to expert.
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by KalCobalt,
Dec. 16, 2009
Of all the things crammed into pussies and asses through the ages, the fist maintains an underground popularity that’s baffling from the outside. What is it about fisting that captures the minds (and hands) of its devotees? And why exactly is the whole country terrified of its own ass?
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by Nina Hartley,
Dec. 15, 2009
This week, Nina expounds on the art of proper breathing techniques during sex, in order to open up the body to maximum pleasure.
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by Elizabeth Black,
Dec. 14, 2009
To shave or not to shave—that is the question. I’ve always sported hair in my southern hemisphere, so when I saw porn where the models are bare except for a landing strip, I wondered what it would be like to be clean-shaven. I trim during the summer to keep my little curls from saying "boo!" when I wear a swimsuit, so when my husband begged me to let him shave me, I figured it might be fun...
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by Rydell Johnson,
Dec. 11, 2009
What’s better than a daydream about a porn star, a pop star, or simply Star (she’s the new redhead in accounting)? Try some erotic make-believe starring your significant other.
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by Mother May I?,
Dec. 10, 2009
I used to be a prude, but I didn’t know it. I had what I thought was good sex. My husband then (now ex) and I played around a little bit, did things like “69” and the occasional blindfolding. Seemed shocking and kinky at the time.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Dec. 09, 2009
BDSM is rarely considered from anything other than its purest physical aspect; even rarer still is it presented as something other than a pagan or non-mainstream religious set of beliefs. But what happens when someone who has deep faith and belief in more traditional, conservative religion finds that their sexual interests don’t exactly fit in with that lifestyle?
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by KalCobalt,
Dec. 09, 2009
Knives and sex with no felonies involved? It’s possible. It can even be part of a fun Friday night. How do you mix sharp blades with tender bits? Here are five points (I’m sorry) for living on the edge (I’m so, so sorry) with erotic knife play.
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by Alisa Bowman,
Dec. 08, 2009
Last I wrote, I was feeling like an old, haggard, dull excuse for a wife—the very type of wife who might have a husband who wasn’t particularly interested in bedding down with her. I can tell you, worrying that you may no longer be attracted to your husband is one problem. Worrying that he may no longer be attracted to you? That’s a problem of an entirely different magnitude.
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by Nina Hartley,
Dec. 08, 2009
The old saying goes, “Them that can, do; them that can’t, teach,” but sometimes there’s that one in a million who can do both—and SexIs has her. Each week, adult actress, activist, auteur and legend Nina Hartley answers your questions on all things sexual. Vlogging will never be the same.
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by The Beautiful Kind,
Dec. 07, 2009
One woman’s up close and personal mission to help others work the kinks OUT.
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by Elizabeth,
Dec. 01, 2009
Two decades as an HIV educator and counting.
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by Dr Dick,
Nov. 30, 2009
World AIDS Day brings into focus the micro-strategies needed to combat a macro problem.
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by minivanlibertine,
Nov. 25, 2009
Sage sexuality south of the Mason Dixon? Boy, howdy!
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by Newme,
Nov. 24, 2009
When it comes to verbal communication, my husband generally have no problem finding things to discuss. Actually, one of the things I love most about him is that he truly listens to me and respects my opinions. But there’s one topic we both stumble over—sex. Actually, it isn’t the topic of sex per se, but being able to effectively communicate our wants and needs.
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by Dr Dick,
Nov. 23, 2009
Have you ever wondered about the term sex positive? If you’re like me, you see it all over the place, especially on sex-related sites. I confess I use it way more often than I should. It’s become one of those industry buzzwords that has, over time, become so fuzzy around the edges that to some, it’s now virtually meaningless.
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by Rabbit White,
Nov. 23, 2009
On the L in Chicago, an average thirty-something man sits quietly in his seat. Suddenly a little plastic ring falls out from his pant leg and rolls along the floor. There are thousands of men all over the country walking around secretly rigged up with devices in their pants—made of plastic, metal, tape and other items that yank the skin of the penis. And no, this isn’t some sexual fetish or kink.
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by Newme,
Nov. 18, 2009
Hello. My name is Newme…and I’m a closet kink. If you saw me walking down the street, you would probably think, preppy mom. I’m top to bottom J. Crew—cardigan, tee and jeans. Mother of four who home-schooled her kids, drove them to all their activities in a Honda Accord, worked hard for a living, helped my husband start his own business. Nothing special, just your typical person on the streets.
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by KalCobalt,
Nov. 18, 2009
Bondage is often devious, but no bondage is quite as sly as predicament bondage. Every minute is a mind game and every movement an act of will. Here are five whys and hows of this nasty little game.
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by Yvette Safire,
Nov. 17, 2009
Preparation for my boyfriend’s long-awaited visit to the Dominican Republic required more than just a pedicure and bikini wax. He was traveling with friends and there was no way I could sneak him into my host family’s home, so I had to find a place for us to reunite properly. This was the perfect opportunity to investigate the possibilities of the Dominican’s many clandestine sex cabañas.
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by Alisa Bowman,
Nov. 17, 2009
Was he no longer attracted to me? I’d gained some weight. I knew that. My clothes were tight on me. Only one pair of pants fit comfortably. Was it the fleece? Or was it the sex?
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by Elizabeth,
Nov. 16, 2009
When it comes to STDs, for many people, it’s much easier simply not to know.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Nov. 13, 2009
The ins and outs of sex on the go.
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by Rabbit White,
Nov. 11, 2009
Or, if you prefer, urolagnia. Okay, maybe you aren’t familiar with the word, but I’ll bet you’ve heard of the fetish more commonly known as “water sports” or “golden showers.” Since researching this practice, I’ve found urolagnia dripping into my own sexual fantasies.
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by KalCobalt,
Nov. 11, 2009
“The sweetest romantic comedy about S&M since, well...ever,” says Blackbook of the then-quirky, now-seminal film Secretary. Was it a massive step toward the mainstreaming of kinky culture or a lopsided portrayal that did more harm than good? Seven years later, people’s opinions remain sharply divided.
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by Mother May I?,
Nov. 09, 2009
Why is talking to our progeny about sex so awkward? Does it have to be?
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by Dr Dick,
Nov. 09, 2009
Let’s pick up where we left off last week, on the perils young people face as they navigate the expectations of virginity and sex, and begin to consider their first forays into partnered sex.
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by RalphieGuy,
Nov. 07, 2009
To paraphrase Andrew Vachss: A man who has a fetish will seek out women who he wouldn’t normally find attractive if those women agree to and provide that particular fetish. In fact, that man might even prefer these women to those more attractive to him-more his “type”—if the ‘less’-attractive women provide him with his fetish more than women he’s normally attracted to.
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by Rydell Johnson,
Nov. 05, 2009
Once the realm of just dudes, strip clubs are now increasingly the domain of frisky couples with a hankering for a bit of harmless naughtiness.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Nov. 04, 2009
Jack and Bob meet at a kinky party; they go off into a corner where Jack gets whipped for an hour by Bob, wielding a big leather flogger. Yet, somehow, Jack is smiling at the end of it—and the noises he is making sound less like a man being tortured, and more like a man having sex. But why is he enjoying it? What is it about kinky pain that makes it different from regular pain?
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by The Beautiful Kind,
Nov. 04, 2009
Vanilla. To the epicurious, it’s one of the world’s most prized spices. In the bedroom, however...well, nobody seems to know what it is. Except that they either are or aren’t vanilla. The Beautiful Kind takes a look at vanilla...and in the process, bakes a very special cake...
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by Newme,
Nov. 03, 2009
Or, to put it another way, someday they will leave...
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by Alisa Bowman,
Nov. 03, 2009
That’s what I’ve been telling myself...let’s see if I can make it happen.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Oct. 30, 2009
I’m not just a sex writer. I’m a horror movie enthusiast. Which I suppose makes me an exceptionally bad girl. So figure if this story were a slasher flick, I’d be dead about 750 words in.
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by KalCobalt,
Oct. 28, 2009
Corsetry isn’t just for Victoriana enthusiasts. The dramatic lines of a corseted figure is custom-made for the high-fashion fetishwear subset of BDSM culture, and the restrictive nature of the garment allows for all kinds of power-trippy fun. How did getting laced up into something restrictive and sexy get mixed up with kink? Read on for five lace-’em-ups about this deceptively beautiful fetish.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Oct. 28, 2009
Nobody just wakes up one day and decides “Gee, I think I’ll be kinky!” So, why do people go there? How many do? And darn it, is it better than straight sex, or is it all just propaganda?
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by GeekyLove,
Oct. 27, 2009
Gamers and sex. I know these two words aren’t often paired in popular lexicon. Nonetheless, I feel it is my duty to inform you that gamers are having sex, lots of sex. While there are many things to be learned from the Gamer Sutra, today I’d like to focus on cybersex.
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by G.L. Morrison,
Oct. 27, 2009
These days, not even poets are squeezing their hearts into love letters. We live in a fast-food world. And while love still isn’t something you can order from the drive-through, modern courtship is a reflection of the way we live: fast, easy, and a little out of control—like a quick email, an instant message—or a throng of twenty-first century Cyranos Twittering their love...in 140 characters.
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by Lady J,
Oct. 26, 2009
At 6:00 each morning, you are likely to find me out cold. My husband on the other hand, is most likely laying next to me, wide-awake, trying to cajole me into a daybreak quickie. At this time of day I am barely capable of keeping my eyes open, much less my legs, and he knows this. However, this doesn’t stop him from trying—and hasn’t stopped him from trying for the last six years.
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by Dr Dick,
Oct. 26, 2009
I’m receiving a startling number of correspondences lately from older men and their partners, highlighting the sexual difficulties of the aging process. It’s not surprising that these people are noticing the changes in their sexual response cycle as they age, but it is astonishing that they haven’t attributed the changes to andropause.
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by Sexis Editors,
Oct. 24, 2009
Crush, obsession, or the real deal? One woman’s journey to decipher the difference.
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by L. Jade,
Oct. 23, 2009
Or, for you Italo Calvino fans, if on a winter’s night a traveler...with a carry-on full of sex toys...
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by Elizabeth Black,
Oct. 22, 2009
News flash, folks: You may think you’re a powerhouse in bed who can get any partner off, but according to a University of Kansas study, of students they interviewed who were sexually active, 67 percent of women—and 30 percent of men—faked orgasms.
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by Rabbit White,
Oct. 21, 2009
Who doesn’t remember their first crush? I was four years old; she was my Sunday School teacher, tall with pale skin and long sandy brown hair nipping just above her waist. I remember feeling excited by her, romantic toward her. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with her but I had fantasies of grandly sweeping her away to do...something.
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by KalCobalt,
Oct. 21, 2009
Have you ever found yourself confronted with a piece of latex fetishwear and wondered what that familiar tingle was all about? Chances are, your brain recognized the basic scent of condoms—ooh la la! So what is it that entices some to take latex out of the realm of Trojans and into the realm of full-on bodywear? Read on for five fabulous finds on why lovers love latex.
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by Yvette Safire,
Oct. 20, 2009
It’s a tradition as old as the internet itself—the act of selling one’s own used undergarments online for a quick infusion of cash. Yvette Safire recently found herself in a bit of a financial bind, and thus began to contemplate the possibilities...
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by Elizabeth,
Oct. 20, 2009
Although in the United States, a woman’s ability to get wet is often valued as a sign of her sexual interest in her partner, appreciation for women’s self-lubricating potential (we are the original self-lubricating beings…) is not universal. In some cultures it is dry sex that is held up as the ideal, and women become smooth about avoiding becoming slick.
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by Newme,
Oct. 19, 2009
Infidelity in marriage is like a Ming vase that’s been shattered by the person you loved and trusted most. That’s what my life felt like the night I found out my husband was cheating on me. I shared that with someone who’d been through it as well, and she said she wanted to turn her broken pieces into a beautiful mosaic. I think—and hope—that is what my husband and I have finally done.
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by Dr Dick,
Oct. 19, 2009
No matter your experience level, no matter what you know (or think you know)—there is need for a little remedial sex-ed from time to time. The one and only Dr. Dick has a surprise or two for you this week, as he sets about a little sexual mythbusting of his own (sans handlebar moustache and/or beret).
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by Sexis Editors,
Oct. 17, 2009
Contrary to popular belief, the personal ad is not yet another invention of the internet. It’s been around for centuries, continuing to evolve with each generation’s needs, desires, and fetishistic frenzies—from the earnest days of ‘matrimony papers’ to today’s user-friendly searches on websites such as Craigslist.
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by Roland Hulme,
Oct. 13, 2009
What happens when rough sex scenarios and feminist sensibilities collide?
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by G.L. Morrison,
Oct. 13, 2009
Or, to lay it out for you in mathematical terms: Bad Science + Bad Sex = Good Marketing.
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by Dr Dick,
Oct. 12, 2009
I have just the thing for all you folks out there who are in a relationship. If you’re like every other couple I know, you have your share of tension. And let’s face it—tension leads to fighting. And fighting, if not done fairly, can lead to hurting your partner—even if that’s not your intention.
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by The Bloggess,
Oct. 08, 2009
The Bloggess interviews the Mominatrix, where they talk about tantric knitting, discount booksellers, and better sex for moms.
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by KalCobalt,
Oct. 07, 2009
If you’re looking for a way to try out kink that’s free, easy, and likely to have good results, this one’s for you. Spanking as sexual titillation goes a lot further than the trope of the 1950s secretary getting a slap on the rump from a leering boss; in the world of kink today, spanking is safe, fun, and a lot less complicated than sex. Let’s check out five rump-thumping tidbits about the spank.
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by Dr Dick,
Oct. 05, 2009
Dr. Dick weighs in with a little talk about sexual identify, just in time for National Coming Out Day.
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by Cassie,
Oct. 03, 2009
Men jack themselves off constantly. They can probably coax an orgasm out of themselves better than most women can because they know every nuance—the exact amount of pressure and stimulation needed—right? Well, no, actually.
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by Sexis Editors,
Oct. 02, 2009
Today on SexVoxing: What is in your bedside table drawer or toy basket?
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by Elizabeth Black,
Sep. 30, 2009
Elizabeth Black takes a look at different exercise techniques designed to improve your sex drive—and sexual gratification.
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by KalCobalt,
Sep. 30, 2009
It sounds pretty, but it feels mean. Bastinado is the practice of beating the soles of the feet. Why do it? You know the drill by now: if this is your sole exposure (sorry!) to bastinado, read on for five little piggies’ worth of knowledge.
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by L. Jade,
Sep. 29, 2009
L. Jade muses on the acts that put the ‘auto’ back into erotica.
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by KalCobalt,
Sep. 23, 2009
Why is that cutie on the bus wearing a dog collar? Why is that yuppie breathing heavy in the bridle aisle? Animal roleplay is a surprisingly popular form of kink, with puppies, kitties, and ponies the apparent favorites. What’s the deal with human pets? Here, we’ll take a look at five yips, whinnies, and meows about animal roleplay.
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by Rose Fox,
Sep. 17, 2009
You sprain your wrist playing basketball, or get carpal tunnel twinges from too much typing. Your partner is battling depression or post-traumatic stress. Sooner or later, the question is likely to come up: how do you make sex work when someone involved is temporarily or permanently disabled? Our goal here is to provide you with tools for finding solutions that work for you and your partners.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Sep. 16, 2009
Cheating on one’s spouse has become big business—just ask Ashley Madison.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Sep. 11, 2009
I get a lot of questions. Some are good, some are bad—some just get asked over and over and over. Let’s run down the top five...
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by The Bloggess,
Sep. 10, 2009
There’s no real nudity here but you’re still going to feel dirty and confused after reading this.
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by KalCobalt,
Sep. 09, 2009
Masochism is just about liking pain, right? Wrong. There’s a lot more to it. Here are five things your momma never told you about pain sluts.
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by Dr Dick,
Sep. 07, 2009
This week, Dr. Dick investigates acrotomophilia; or, in other words, the amputee fetish.
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by Elizabeth Black,
Sep. 03, 2009
Here’s a hint: handcuffs + sprinkler system = disaster.
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by KalCobalt,
Sep. 02, 2009
Is making someone hurt an act of cruelty or an act of love? If you said “either one, and sometimes both,” you get a gold star (and I’ll see you at the dungeon). If you didn’t, read on: Here come five points that might help explain why beating the shit out of someone can be the nicest thing anyone ever did.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Sep. 02, 2009
The last relationship I had before I met my husband was with a woman. Yes, I am a bi-sexual woman, although I am not a great fan of labels and can’t truly, with all honesty, say that I know that I fit the definition of that title to a tee. Nor do I really care.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Sep. 01, 2009
Lots of us do it. Some studies claim most of us do it. And if you believe what you see on cable news, it’s a prerequisite for a political career. Are we just a species that can’t say no?
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by Dr Dick,
Aug. 31, 2009
What if—you, a healthy, otherwise happy woman—had gone through your entire life...without having experienced the joys of an orgasm?
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by Elizabeth,
Aug. 20, 2009
Ah, college. It’s where teenagers go to learn—about themselves, about the world, how to do body shots, and pick up strangers in bars. For many young people, it’s the first time they’ve been away from parental authority. They are treated and are expected to act like adults, but for many the taste of freedom is embraced as license to explore the siren songs of sex, drugs, and rock ’n’ roll.
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by KalCobalt,
Aug. 19, 2009
Most people don’t think of needles as sexual or erotic, but even the shallowest consideration yields some obvious reasons for that association: needles penetrate the body and afford access to bodily fluids in a way few activities outside of sexuality do. Welcome to five incisive (sorry) tidbits about the art of erotic needleplay.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Aug. 19, 2009
Why has the once-cherished mom-bod become something to be looked upon with disgust and disdain, rather than revered as the happy result of something natural and beautiful?
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by Judy Cole,
Aug. 18, 2009
This week, in the final installment, Luxury Holmes gets a tour of the milieu of a professional domme: the playspace, the wardrobe, and the rigors of home economics.
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by Dr Dick,
Aug. 17, 2009
As promised, here’s Dr. Dick’s highly anticipated seminar on being a great ass-fuckin’ top. This is a companion piece to an earlier tutorial for you novice bottoms out there — Liberating the BOB Within. This tutorial is for anyone who is considering being a top, regardless of whether the meat injection is 100% prime, or a beef substitute (a strap-on dildo), these words of wisdom are for you.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Aug. 14, 2009
Playing with fire, sex, and shame.
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by KalCobalt,
Aug. 12, 2009
For some of us, tickling is an activity we remember from summer camps and evenings with the family, either fondly or agonizingly (or both). For others, the enforced abandonment of control and reflexive, hysterical convulsing relates so closely to orgasmic feelings that tickling becomes sexualized.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Aug. 12, 2009
It’s inevitable that all couples will go through it. And when you add needy children that expect to be fed, bathed and nurtured every day to the relationship cocktail, the chances that sex is going to take a backseat for certain periods of time is almost completely unavoidable. The question is, how long is too long?
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by Judy Cole,
Aug. 11, 2009
Now, in my line of work, I’ve met a ProDomme or two before. In the Big Apple, S&M is NBD. Dommes came in all shapes and sizes, from a near-seven-foot Valkyrie—replete with a trademark tomato-red PVC catsuit straight out of a comic book—to a raven-haired, petite coquette who could, with her five-inch killer spike heels, make a grown man cry a lot more than just “Uncle.”
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by Dr Dick,
Aug. 10, 2009
So—you’ve finally decided to become a B.O.B. (Big Ol’ Bottom)? Tired of missing out on all that ass-play everyone’s talking about? Been secretly tripping on the exploits of your favorite porn stars? (“Jeez, would ya get a load of that—his hole looks like the Victory Arch in Paris, for God’s sake.”) And now you want a piece of the action for yourself?
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by Sarah Sloane,
Aug. 10, 2009
Free testing clinics are fantastic—but they’re not infallible, and they’re not always the most informative places in the world to get your safer sex information. The old saying, “you get what you pay for”, is, sadly enough, usually true.
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by Hungry4more,
Aug. 07, 2009
Or, how to successfully combine parenting, fatherhood, and sex...
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by SaucySarah,
Aug. 05, 2009
How do you make a relationship work when the two principals have a significant age gap between them?
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Aug. 05, 2009
Momma’s got a brand new bag. And it’s full of paddles, floggers, and restraints. It’s time to get your kink on!
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by Judy Cole,
Aug. 04, 2009
When the average person thinks of Charlotte, North Carolina, what most often springs to mind is Bible Belt, Banking, NASCAR and the PTL debacle. Debauchery? Not so much—well, except for the PTL debacle, but BDSM? You might be surprised...
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by Dr Dick,
Aug. 03, 2009
So you’ve met the person of your dreams—only you haven’t got around to telling your new honey your dirty little secret...
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 29, 2009
Okay, moms—take your fingers out of your ears: it’s time to talk about buttsex!
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by Judy Cole,
Jul. 28, 2009
Parting thoughts: What comes around goes around, what goes around comes around...
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by Dr Dick,
Jul. 27, 2009
What’s up with the current lamentable state of cocksucking these days? Why, I can remember a time when the humble hummer was king. Now, sadly the basic blowjob is a lost art.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Jul. 24, 2009
It was going to be a simple story about lap-based Web browsing. That is, er…you know, relishing the hot dog. Jerkin’ the gherkin. Patting the Robertson. The next thing I knew, I was out back, behind the garage, you know...
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by The Bloggess,
Jul. 23, 2009
Last week there was a buzz on Twitter when everyone started sharing the thoughts they have most often during sex. It was bizarre and completely unsettling. And also very educational in that you should make your teenagers read it so they don’t get pregnant because honestly after reading this I’m not sure *I* ever want to have sex again.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 22, 2009
Necessity is the mother of invention. Why else would there be so many wonderful instruments of pleasure available today if someone somewhere didn’t find them to be just what suits their personal kink?
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by Dr Dick,
Jul. 20, 2009
I’m often asked about my work as a sex therapist. I’m surprised at how few people have any sense of what we actually do. While I can’t speak for all my fellow therapists, I can tell you a bit about my own practice.
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by Cherry Trifle,
Jul. 17, 2009
Girls do it, too. Oh, do they ever.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 15, 2009
Domestic goddess? Soccer mom? Suburban earth mother? Minivan mommy? This week, we demystify the mother archetype, and get right down to business—having more (and better) sex, that is.
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by Elizabeth,
Jul. 13, 2009
Understanding what makes a good sexual lubricant can be a slippery business. After all, unless you’re buying one of the few all natural, organic products that are available, the list of ingredients reads more like the supply catalog for a chemistry class than a recipe for a hot night.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 08, 2009
This week: an open letter to dads, husbands and/or partners, from the mothers who love them but want—or, rather, need—more foreplay).
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by KalCobalt,
Jul. 07, 2009
For as long as robots have been a concept in the human imagination, we have been plagued by questions: Is advanced artificial intelligence possible? Can machines devoid of emotion truly understand the human condition? And...how awesome would robots be in bed?
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jul. 01, 2009
When it comes to talking to your wee little ones about the birds and the bees (and specifically, why Mommy and Daddy are doing it), the truth often WILL set you free—and it just might get you laid more often.
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by Judy Cole,
Jun. 30, 2009
It’s the (tr)end of the world as we know it, and we feel fine...
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by SaucySarah,
Jun. 29, 2009
Just what is an open relationship, anyway? Let’s find out!
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by Sarah Sloane,
Jun. 29, 2009
What effects do our different methods of birth control have on the environment?
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by María,
Jun. 24, 2009
I’m a newly single mother with a ridiculous libido, a penchant for deep throating and the ability to grind a man into orgasmic hyperventilation. (Not to toot my own horn, but a girl must be confident in her talents even though I’m too chicken shit to try them out on anyone new.) I’ve left my comfort zone sexually, the place in which I was pretty happy and complacent: marriage.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jun. 24, 2009
One of life’s inevitabilities as a parent (besides tax credits) is the knowledge that at some point, your kids are going to catch you in delicto flagrante. So—do you cease all sexual activity until they’re 18, or do you invest heavily in Disney? Or...is there another option?
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by Judy Cole,
Jun. 23, 2009
The rise of the Internet, the fall of morality. Greed gets an overhaul. Grunge is good. Goth rules. BDSM goes mainstream—and a Presidential pop shot makes the ultimate fashion statement.
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by Hungry4more,
Jun. 22, 2009
Take a fish out of water—or, in this case, a fish away from his Buffy DVDs—and plop him straight into the most fantastical encounter imaginable. Or...send him to the local professional dominatrix.
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by Sexis Editors,
Jun. 19, 2009
Today on SexVoxing, we’re going to take a walk on the wild side of ‘what if’: What tip or technique do you wish your ex had known?
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by Cherry Trifle,
Jun. 17, 2009
Does a straying mind make you a stray dog? What are you freaks really thinking about in flagrante delicto? If your mind works anywhere close to normal, it’s going to wander—at least occasionally
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jun. 17, 2009
It’s time to enjoy a glimpse into the world of your typical suburban mom (played by me), and how sex fits (or more appropriately doesn’t fit) into it. It’s not pretty, it’s not glamorous and it certainly isn’t all that sexy. But here it is, stripped down to the bone. It might just look a little familiar…
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by Judy Cole,
Jun. 16, 2009
Hubris in Neon: SEXIS sits down for a one-on-one with the ’80s, and, as usual, “The Me Decade” speaks for itself, or in this case, himself…
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by Elizabeth,
Jun. 15, 2009
Yes, silicone may be great—but is it really green?
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by slavette,
Jun. 15, 2009
A Proposal from the President of Intercontinental Slaves Union Local 814...
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by Sarah Sloane,
Jun. 11, 2009
Some people are born kinky, some achieve kinkiness, and some have kinkiness thrust upon them. Then, there are those of us who really like to have our kinky tied up and acquiescent…if that’s you, then read on.
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by Miya,
Jun. 10, 2009
We were drunk the first time it happened. And maybe that’s always how it always goes. A handful of shots, a slow dance, red lipstick.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jun. 10, 2009
Body-image issues play a considerable role in our sex lives—but how do you confront them?
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by Judy Cole,
Jun. 09, 2009
The ’70s: The most odious decade ever. No kidding. It was beyond bad. I mean, Roger Moore as James Bond? Puh-lease! Well, at least everyone was fucking.
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by slavette,
Jun. 08, 2009
A journey with Slavette through the language of kink—with all due apologies to the late Edward Gorey.
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by L. Jade,
Jun. 05, 2009
One cold November night the year I turned fifteen, I kissed him for the very first time. Seven years and thirteen days later, we finally made love. What happened in between?
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by KalCobalt,
Jun. 04, 2009
From Facebook to Twitter to Myspace to AIM, YIM, and Skype, our love lives have transitioned seamlessly into the constantly evolving fabric of Web 2.0. But what do you, a savvy social networker, do when your love live goes awry? Kal Cobalt sorts through the tweets, status updates, and Skype logs to find out.
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by Elizabeth,
Jun. 03, 2009
From the early days of Usenet to the vivid pornscapes of today, sex and the internet have always been a union of perfect harmony. Today, Sexis traces back sex’s brief yet torrid affair with the internet.
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by Wise Young Mommy,
Jun. 03, 2009
Why? Because moms have sex...
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by Judy Cole,
Jun. 02, 2009
From white kid gloves to a roll in the mud, ladies and gentlemen, we bring you the rise and fall of the Madonna/whore decade!
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by Elizabeth Black,
Jun. 01, 2009
Or, how NOT to turn your man into a meat dildo...
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by slavette,
Jun. 01, 2009
A humorous glimpse inside the lives and minds of slaves
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by Judy Cole,
May. 26, 2009
The Fifties! The Pelvis. Poodle skirts. Pat Boone. Nat King Cole. Hugh Hefner. James Dean. Ozzie and Harriet. Is it Safe to Come Out of the Bomb Shelter Yet?
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by slavette,
May. 26, 2009
A Peek at Life Behind the Black Leather Curtain
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by Mrs Melee,
May. 19, 2009
Slash is more than a figure of grammar; it’s more than Guns n’ Roses ex-guitarist: it’s a whole ’nother thing entirely. It may be about the men...but it’s all for and by the women.
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by Judy Cole,
May. 19, 2009
Springtime for Hitler on the Paris Runways. Pin-Up Girls Pump More than Morale. Plus our 21-Gun Salute to Gender Bending in the Military.
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by slavette,
May. 18, 2009
Today, Slavette wades through the murky waters of relationship-negotiation within the confines of the master/slave dynamic, without litigation, butcher knives, or invoking a demon.
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by Cherry Trifle,
May. 13, 2009
There are few places better suited to prove and reprove the preposterousness of human sexuality than the annals of the online dating scene.
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by Judy Cole,
May. 12, 2009
Warning! Dangerous curves ahead. Blonde ambition conquers all…and we ain’t talkin’ Madonna.
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by slavette,
May. 11, 2009
An Introduction to the Author of The Slavette Diaries
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by The Bloggess,
May. 07, 2009
Warning—no clowns were penetrated, cajoled, or agitated in the making of this article. We will studiously deny any approval of it. We will not pay for your emotional trauma. Or a tongue-graft, so that you may regrow your sense of good taste. And thus, without further ado, we present...the Bloggess.
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by Matthew,
May. 05, 2009
Most men have one thing in common: they’d really like their penises to be bigger. And the world’s taken notice: ‘male enhancement’, as it’s so wistfully called, is a billion-dollar industry, hawking everything from herbs to pills to diet fads to pumps, with varying results. So what’s it like to have been kissed by the gods—what is life REALLY like with a BFD (Big Fucking Dick)?
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by Judy Cole,
May. 05, 2009
Does sex influence fashion, or does fashion influence sex?
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by Matthew,
May. 01, 2009
Taking the pulse of our cultural sex drive, one dirty, smelly brassiere at a time.
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by Cassie,
Apr. 30, 2009
Last night I slept with Christian, my ex-husband, for the first time since he became my ex-husband. In so doing, I knowingly exacerbated his feelings for me, opened my own heart back up to him…and betrayed both of our significant others.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Apr. 28, 2009
Are you a swinger, baby? Do you want to be? Swinging has come a long way since the 60s...explore the new swinger lifestyle and decide if it’s the place for you.
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by Matthew,
Apr. 24, 2009
Taking the pulse of our cultural sex drive, one Casual Encounter at a time.
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by Mrs Melee,
Apr. 22, 2009
It’s said that men like nothing more than to watch two women going at it. So what about the reverse: women getting off on watching two guys getting it on?
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by Cherry Trifle,
Apr. 21, 2009
On Craigslist, the user can find anything their heart (or other organ) desires. Is this a healthy thing - and who’s doing it? Cherry Trifle finds out.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Apr. 16, 2009
There’s a lot of talk going on these days about HPV, from hysteria to disinformation, to the occasionally sharp pang of truth. Sarah Sloane pulls back the blinds and takes a closer look.
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by K.Page Nolker,
Apr. 14, 2009
What DO women want, anyway? It’s all chemical, baby - and complicated. K. Page Nolker pokes about in the right side of the gray matter and tries to put all the pieces together.
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by K.Page Nolker,
Apr. 07, 2009
What DO women want, anyway? It’s all chemical, baby - and complicated. K. Page Nolker pokes about in the left side of the gray matter and sees what’s what.
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by Matthew,
Apr. 07, 2009
Cunnilingus isn’t nearly as hard as it’s made out to be. However, it helps to know what you’re doing down there – and, maybe even more importantly - what NOT to do down there.
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by Citi Kittie,
Apr. 03, 2009
Safewords are words or signals called out, usually during BDSM-related play, to either slow down or completely stop a scene. Citi Kittie gives us some deeper insight into the ins and outs of safewording – but take note: chances are that your boss will not respect your safeword when you use it to try and get out of that overdue spreadsheet.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Apr. 03, 2009
Want to know some great ways to mess up your relationship...or would you rather get some hints on how to prevent it?
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by Daniel W Kelly,
Mar. 31, 2009
The ins and outs (and ins!) of advanced prostate play - and yes, we’re breaking out the toys!
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by L. Jade,
Mar. 31, 2009
Keeping your sex life fresh and exciting is dependent on one crucial thing: communication. From negotiation to fantasy lists, ’as you wish’ to anti-fantasy lists, let’s take a look at a few of the options out there for better improving your sexual communication skills.
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by Puck,
Mar. 27, 2009
OUTERCOURSE (n): 1. Sexual activity that does not involve vaginal or anal penetration
2. a really good time
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by Judy Cole,
Mar. 24, 2009
Touch. Sight. Taste. Smell. Sound. Each one plays an important role in sexual arousal, whether you realize it or not...
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by Lindsay Lewis,
Mar. 24, 2009
In the spirit of the ‘25 things’ meme so popular on Facebook, Lindsay offers up for you her ’Top 25 Things Not to Do When Between a Woman’s Legs’, in no particular order of offense…
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by Citi Kittie,
Mar. 24, 2009
It’s not easy for a guy to question his sexuality, but it’s something almost all guys do at some point. Exploring your sexuality is a human right - and it can even be a lot of fun!
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by L. Jade,
Mar. 19, 2009
Every technological advance mankind has made in all of history has been driven by the desire for more and better sex. Well, maybe not all of them, but chances are you’ve heard that before, and there’s a reason why. In fact, many technologies were created to enhance our sex lives, and the ideas behind them are way older than you’d think.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Mar. 11, 2009
Just like bodies, all harnesses aren’t created equally. Read this before you try to strap one on, and make sure you get the ride of a lifetime!
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by Matthew,
Mar. 11, 2009
Sex IS...everything you want it to be, and more.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Mar. 11, 2009
Whether it’s your fortieth or your very first, there are many factors to keep in mind when choosing a new vibrator. We’ll lay it all out for you. We might even test-drive a few.
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by Sarah Sloane,
Mar. 10, 2009
So you say you’re ready to get your Frodo on and try your very first cock ring? First, you’ll want to know the ins and outs of getting it in and out, from safety to texture, and ultimately to decking out your member in style.
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by Kay Crosby,
Mar. 10, 2009
Where we shine the warm, wet light of truthiness on that newly-hallowed squirt of feminine splendor: female ejaculation. So come – and be christened!
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by Sarah Sloane,
Mar. 09, 2009
There are some things in life which demand that you throw caution to the wind and just jump in cold...but who wants something cold in their butt? Check out our guide to picking out the perfect pucker-toy.
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by Matthew,
Mar. 08, 2009
It’s a buzz-term, it’s an ever-present harbinger of doom, it’s somebody else’s problem: what is safer sex, and why is it all about YOU?
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by SaucySarah,
Mar. 07, 2009
So, you’re pregnant! Don’t let your mother-in-law tell you that you can’t have sex during the next nine months—chances are that not only can you have sex, it might just be the best sex of your life.
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by Tiffany Loves Sextoys,
Mar. 07, 2009
So you think you know what an orgasm is (and isn’t)? Think again!
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by SaucySarah,
Mar. 07, 2009
You’re a woman. You have a boyfriend, but you just can’t stop fantasizing about your best female friend’s mouth and how good it’d feel on your skin. Are you bisexual or what?
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by Matthew,
Mar. 07, 2009
Bangers, chestnuts, clangers, danglers - no matter what you call ’em, your testicles play an important role in your sex life.
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by Judy Cole,
Mar. 07, 2009
Some would have you believe that sex is the exclusive domain of twentysomethings – or, if you’re being strictly procreative about it, thirtysomethings as well. The swollen, glistening truth of the matter is that you can keep on having great sex for as long as you want to.
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by Daniel W Kelly,
Mar. 07, 2009
Contrary to some small minded, popular beliefs, being gay isn’t based on sweaty bar hookups and showtunes. Get real, and get a grip – being gay is as individual as your social security number.
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by Sacramento Sam,
Mar. 07, 2009
Listen up – sometimes the best way to your lover’s loins is through their ears.
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by L. Jade,
Mar. 07, 2009
You like sex toys. Your partner likes sex toys. So how can you enjoy them together?
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by Dreamlivelove,
Mar. 07, 2009
The vagina, while being the one-stop destination of choice for millions of people the world over, also bears the unfortunate distinction of being one of the most misunderstood areas of the human body, from makeup to function.
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by SaucySarah,
Mar. 07, 2009
The fervent focal point of a woman’s sexuality – but what do you really know about it?
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by Judy Cole,
Mar. 07, 2009
News flash: women are masturbators as prodigious as their male counterparts, if not perhaps a bit more so. It didn’t happen overnight, either. In fact, women have been using sex toys for as long as there’s been sex.
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by Judy Cole,
Mar. 07, 2009
How do you condense the history of female sexuality into 1500-ish words? With dignity, aplomb, and an occasional dig at the Victorians.
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by Matthew,
Mar. 07, 2009
Whether you’re a ‘two-minute brother’ or an anorgasmic amorist, there’s one thing everybody should be able to agree on: foreplay, if played properly to your partner’s tune, can be just as good as the inevitable main event. In fact, it can be so good that it might end up being the main event all by itself.
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by Matthew,
Mar. 07, 2009
It’s commonly assumed that male masturbation consists of three simple steps: whip it out, get a death-grip on it, and start a-yanking. Well, there’s actually a bit more to it than that. In fact, there’s a LOT more to the art of Jerkology.
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by Matthew,
Mar. 07, 2009
Men like to jerk off. In fact, they’re really kind of good at it – when it comes to masturbation, men are inventive, thorough, and relentless. Which should come as no surprise to anyone – after all, they’ve only been doing it for the entirety of forever.
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by Matthew,
Mar. 06, 2009
Guys – are you getting the maximum oomph out of your sex life? If not,
you may be missing out on the joys of a hidden part of your anatomy -
your p-spot.
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by Matthew,
Mar. 06, 2009
Cunnilingus isn’t nearly as hard as it’s made out to be. However, it helps to know what you’re doing down there – and, more importantly, why.
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by SaucySarah,
Mar. 06, 2009
Old, young, gay, straight, bi, or political pundit; if there’s one thing you can count on, it’s that guys love blowjobs.
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