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  • VlogBrothers: Human Sexuality is Complicated

    With Valentine coming we ask ourselves all these questions about love. And because internet is huge it is possible to find some answers to your questions. That's why in this channel we are posting some useful, funny, explanatory information about love that we stumbled upon. We hope you will enjoy it!

  • Vice: Love in Japan

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them

  • Helen Fisher: Why we love, why we cheat

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them.

  • Floggers

    So you want to buy a flogger....It can be pretty intimidating with all the different types out there! Hopefully this guide will clear up any concerns

  • The Married Mom’s Guide to Toy Hiding

    Running out of places to hide your toys? You children, roommate, or pet find them no matter where you put them? Don't fret! Here is a list of possible places to hide your precious toys.

  • It's My Body... and I Finally Love Everything About It!

    Media images are constantly thrown at us about how to look, how to dress, and what we should look like to be lusted after… I defy all of those media stereotypes day after day. Every day, you see newsstand articles that read “Lose 20 lbs in 20 weeks!” and articles on how to do the latest superstar workout or Hollywood diet trend. Who needs it? I sure don’t!

  • Jess C Scott: On Sex and Writing

    Author/artist/non-conformist Jess C Scott talks about sex, writing, and writing about sex.

  • Erotica at jessINK

    An article on jessINK—the publishing company of author/artist/non-conformist, Jess C Scott.

  • Interview with Jamie Maclean at Erotic Review

    Interview with Jamie Maclean, editor and founder of Erotic Review: a website committed to giving sex a good name.

  • Review: The Art of Erotic Writing

    A review of contemporary author Jess C Scott's "Art of Erotic Writing" eBook.

  • Fan Fiction: As Good as Porn?

    While fan fiction is widely accepted as being something that only geeks do, writing themselves into elaborate sci-fi scenarios, or something that twelve year old girls write (badly) about their favorite male characters kissing, some people would rank it above live action porn as far as masturbation material goes. Why?

  • Pole Dancing: Not just for the club anymore!

    "Pole-dancing" is a phrase that used to incite images of scantily-clad strippers swinging around a pole with wads of cash sticking out of their underwear. Maybe for some people it still does, but pole-dancing has been growing in popularity among women seeking to get in shape, be sexy, and pick up a cool new skill all at once.

  • Bikinis after Babies

    Summer is fast approaching. Time for beaches, the sun, and swimsuits. But if you're like me, then you don't feel comfortable in a swim suit.

  • Define this: CBT

    CBT? Cat Bondage Time? Cool Body Temp? Cock and Ball Torture is more than high heels and winched faces. Power play and love go hand in hand.

  • Seeking Help as a Survivor of Sexual Violence

    Rape, abuse, and sexual assault are crimes that overwhelmingly target women, so I will be speaking primarily about women who have survived these things, and from my own experiences as a woman who has been assaulted. Through this series of articles, I hope to provide survivors and their supporters with resources, wisdom, and understanding, using myself as an example.

  • Confessions of a Friend-Zoner

    You know how it goes. Man meets woman, man befriends woman, man expects that friendship to blossom into something sexual, and when it doesn't, man complains that he's been friend-zoned. This scenario can play out between any two people, regardless of gender...but it seems that man versus woman is most common, and in each situation, it seems to be the same complaint: "I was so nice to her. She led me on." But how often do we really hear her side of the story?

  • Positive Versus Prohibitive: Why Sex Positive Spaces are Beginning to Experience Backlash

    The notion of "Sex Positivity" is one that we are all familiar with: it encourages an accepting, celebratory attitude toward sex and sexuality. There are times, however, when sex positive spaces can turn sour for their participants. Some feel pressured, while others feel ignored, and with these mounting concerns going largely unaddressed, there is a real need to band together, combat this "elephant in the room" and keep our spaces and ideals safe and welcoming for all.

  • Medicalizing Queer Identities

    How does the medicalized discourse surrounding queer identities shape the way that queer people are represented? Is this better or worse for the individual experience? Medicalizing a cultural notion, such a sexual identity, a construct that exists in only certain socio-political arenas, works to harm individuals more than empower them. Rather than embrace sexuality and trans*gender expression, our society's language is framing queerness as similar to a disease.

  • Anal Sex: How To Get Started

    Okay, so let’s say you and your husband are into anal play, and you want to take it a step further. You are both comfortable with the idea of anal sex, but you feel like you need some pointers to help you get started.

  • Turn Your Thinking Off: Running a Thought-mile During Sexual Activities

    What am I going to cook for dinner? Did I leave the stove on? Why did Harold say that thing about my wife? Will they ever cum?

    We all know that during sexual play time, there are those days (far many than few) where we cannot turn our minds to completing the fun at hand, to enjoy our sexual experiences fully. Is it possible to turn your thinking off? Can you quiet your mind? Is it even a realistic thought?

  • Confessions of a Reluctant Rope Top: Part 2

    Just thinking about new things (or even old things in new ways) can completely rewire how you think about sex. Seriously, just give it a go.

  • What appealing DADT didn't do

    What we forgot when President Obama repealed Don't Ask Don't Tell.

  • "Sex Addiction" is a Real Thing

    You may jokingly say “Yea, I’m addicted to her, the sex is just so great!” but for some people it is a real problem. It’s called “Hypersexual Disorder” and it is tearing apart people’s lives as you read this.

  • Happy MILF Day?

    So, with Mother’s Day behind us (that would be the second Sunday of May) but the month in which it falls still with us, perhaps we need to roll out a MILF Day? Or make plans for one beginning next year? I mean, we have special days for just about everything now, including “Talk Like a Pirate Day,” so why isn’t there a MILF Day? Or am I just slacking on my online searching game this month?

  • Myth Busters: "Females will always know when they are having an orgasm"

    In movies and magazines and on tv and websites, I've heard this idea of orgasms being the most obvious thing in the world. Sometimes they are so mind blowing that they are impossible to miss: my body seizes, pleasure surges through me blinding and deafening. Afterwards, I am so high off of oxytocin and endorphins that I am giddy and giggle, slightly drowsy. Then it is the most obvious thing in the world, but not all orgasms are alike, not for me and certainly not from one person to another.

  • How to Shave Everywhere

    For some, there is nothing sexier than rubbing against a lover’s smooth skin. Yet for some of us shaving can be a pain. Without the promise of some sexual favor to come, it can be hassle not worth undergoing. So how do we give our lover the smoothest skin possible and still make it worth our time and effort? That’s simple, combine the two. Here’s how...

  • It's a Myth! The Fallacy of the Sexual Peak

    It's common knowledge that women and men have their sexual peaks at very different times, but is this idea heavy on the common and light on the knowledge?

  • My Body, My Image Part 1: Fostering a Healthy Body Image in Children

    Children suffer from body image problems just as much as adults. Body changes, puberty and an ongoing culture of thinness adds to a time of anxiety that can last into adulthood. How can we help children to accept and love their bodies?

  • Sex Signals

    Stop relying on horoscopes, bio-rhythms, or Facebook to figure out if someone likes you. Instead, turn to science!

  • Is your body bikini ready? Does it really matter?

    Summer is officially here, but is your body ready for summer? How to handle the expectations of summer swimsuits and clothing.

  • The Virginity Paradox

    The term "virgin" is thrown around with a lot of confusion and legalism. What, technically speaking, constitutes a virgin? Does it matter?

  • Your "Flaws" are not Flaws

    You know we've reached a very low-point once companies begin making products that make our armpits fit to wear sleeveless shirts. Our armpits? Seriously? We live in such a bizarre era. We've grown up to be ashamed of the hair on our legs, the wrinkles under our eyes, and the cellulite on our legs. We've been taught to be ashamed of our natural body. But really, is there anything actually wrong?

  • Poisoning to Be Pretty

    While the act of putting on your makeup in the morning may not seem to be of significance, studies have shown that it can have a grave impact on your health.

  • Courage in Kansas

    Wichita has been without abortion services since the horrible murder of Dr. Tiller. But now, nearly four years later, Julie Burkhart and others step forward to fight the protesters to reopen the doors of the clinic and once again provide the constitutionally protected service.

  • The Feminist Submissive

    All too often on forums, social networking, and blogs, I hear the same question over and over again. "How can I be a feminist if I am a submissive?" Feminism and being a submissive are nor mutually exclusive. I am quite happily both things.

  • Accepting The Skin I'm In

    Summer is the season of baring skin, and for a girl who never tans but always burns, it's a time in which you can feel extremely self-conscious about being that "pasty girl."

  • He can beat me, but I'm not a masochist.

    Roles, we are all assigned them. Even when we are playing with kink and fantasy, it still seems that we end up in roles that are assigned to us. I love my kink, and I love my dynamic. I let my Dom beat me until I am black and blue. I am not a masochist.

  • Something I Wish I’d Known: A Woman’s First Penetrative Sex Shouldn’t Be Painful

    I’m annoyed that I didn’t know about this before I had sex for the first time. I had no reason to be afraid.

  • OM On My Way!

    A total transformation is needed, a thorough cleansing of the body and soul. Unfortunately there is no "For Dummies" way to do this, so I am setting out to find my way to health and happiness.

  • Giving more the you receive. A man's perspective.

    So here I sit, the middle of the night after a long walk on a cold breezey night. Just a little too chilly to be out there in a pair of shorts with no shoes. I know right now many of you are asking yourselves why I would do this and why it is of importance. I assure you it is but we will get to that part shortly after I set the scene a bit more, but let me start a few hours before the walk.

  • How to handle conversations of sexuality: A Guide for the not so open girl

    Have you ever met someone that is SO comfortable with his/her sexuality that YOU feel uncomfortable? I have and I'd like to share my experience with you.

  • Life as a cam girl

    If any one ever had asked me if I thought I would ever be doing anything in life having to do with the sex industry I would have thought they were absurd. I was actually once a fairly shy person, however the lure of easy money can certainly help someone to overcome that. When I started talking and caming with people for money it was just a hobby. When I received my first bank deposit and realized how much I had received in spoils from my 'hobby,' that is when the game changed.

  • My first experiences at nudist resorts

    I've been to several different places that allowed nudity and it always ends up being sad to have to go back to wearing clothing after a while.

  • Summer Bodies of All Sizes

    The media bombards us with images of "the perfect body" every day; it even seems to become more rampant once the summer weather comes in. We are constantly told that "thin is beautiful," but I am here to tell you something. That something? YOU are beautiful just the way you are.

  • Masturbation doesn't have to be alone

    For me, I find masturbating with someone else, whether it be in-person or in the virtual world, to be a much more fulfilling experience than being solo. There is a thrill and shared intimacy in sharing the build-up and climax of an orgasm with another person.

  • "Is She Wearing A DOG Collar?" (How To Maintain Some Of Your Kink In A Vanilla Setting, Without Scaring People, Part One)

    Wouldn't life be grand if all the kinksters of the world could run around in latex catsuits and spiked leather corsets, flogging each other and kneeling at their Master's feet under the table at McDonalds without worry? Unfortunately, the world is not quite ready for that; however, it IS possible to keep some of the kink alive, even when your local church group may be watching. Here are some tips to "vanilla-ize" your kinky relationship when necessary.

  • Abercrombie & Fitch's Body-Neagative Attitude Lands Them in Hot Water with Consumers

    Abercrombie's CEO Mike Jeffries made it very clear that only cool, beautiful, popular, skinny people should be shopping in his stores. Not part of the cool crowd? He'd prefer you stay out.

  • Summer Time = Sexy Time?

    Summer seems to be an invitation to be sexier: we've all got an excuse to wear less clothing and suddenly it's okay (and maybe even expected) to be flashing more skin than we'd find acceptable any other time of the year. String bikinis, crop tops, short shorts, and see-through layers all become popular during the summer. The only problem is, we're not all comfortable baring that much skin, or, when we are, we realize we don't quite live up to the tanned, sexy goddesses of the media.

  • Move Over Big Brother, Big Business Is Here

    One of the largest internet credit card processors in the world has recently announced a policy of zero tolerance regarding the use of certain words on sites it represents. How long will it be before all the others follow?

  • 3 Steps to Beautiful

    Keeping a positive self image is difficult in this age of beach blonde Barbies and thin as rail models, but my 3 steps to beautiful help me see that my beauty is unique to me. In living by these steps, I've learned to see myself as beautiful without comparing myself to others.

  • 10 ways to celebrate your sexiness

    We all deserve to feel sexy. But sometimes that can be tough in today's world. Here are 10 ways for you to keep yourself feeling sexy!

  • The Cuddle-Sutra: 7 Common Sleeping Styles

    Have a partner who takes up all the bed space? Or steals all the blankets? What about whacking you (by accident) in your sleep? Here are 7 common sleeping styles you or your partner may have and how to handle them.

  • I'm Never Going to be White Girl Skinny, and I'm okay with That

    There are some battles you're going to win, and some you're going to lose. Learning to pick your battles and accept what you can change about yourself really is a key to happiness.

  • Five Common, Strange Facts About Women & The Truth

    A list of "Weird, Funny Facts About Women." The same exact ones that keep showing up around the internet. It's been featured on sites like India Times and others. Despite the list's attempts at humor, I felt compelled to add more womanly experience to these common factoids.

  • Making A Meal Of It

    How safe, or otherwise, is the average man's ejaculate?

  • Enjoying The Joy Of Sex

    One of the most influential books ever published celebrated its fortieth birthday last year - and its sequel hits the same age in 2013. A personal celebration of Alex Comfort's "The Joy of Sex."

  • Another How-To Guide for the Aspiring Deep Throater

    Lesson one: Throw away the how-to guides.

  • Our Path to a Plethora of Porn

    Porn has been with us a long time. Not as long as sex and masturbation, of course, because humans discovered that long before they got the hang of cave art. But once they started finding cozy homes in caves and stuff to draw with, we got our first collections of pornos and/or sex education manuals.

  • Losing Faith In Words

    How what we say and the way we say it can make all the difference in the world.

  • Sexual Education: Who is the teacher?

    Saying who is responsible for educating the youth about sex is not as simple as it seems. There isn't one right or wrong answer, but I feel the best course of action is a united front between the home and school.

  • You Always Remember The First Time

    There's a first time for everything, and it may not be the greatest. But it's always the time you remember the best....

  • Sex Education: Science, not BS, please.

    No matter what individual beliefs may be regarding sexual education, it is a public matter. Access should be easily available and the literature should be accurate.

  • It's All In The Mind

    Many of us love to fantasize about our favorite celebrities while making love with our real life partner. But is it okay if we remember past lovers in the same way?

  • Define This: The Frenulum Delta

    Finding the sweet spot that is a penis' neatest secret.

  • Blowjobs Aren't Sex, and I'm a Monkey's Auntie

    A fact of life or a cheater's charter? Some thoughts on an argument that I just don't understand.

  • The Joy of Journaling

    Have you ever thought of sitting down and recording your most intimate moments on paper? You should - you might be surprised at how much you discover.

  • Making Friends With Your Fancy-Man's Fleshlight

    Many guys enjoy watching their partner playing with her favorite toys. One woman reports on watching her partner playing with his.

  • The Rise of Modern Sextremism

    Although it has minimal presence in the US and the UK, FEMEN is one of the fastest growing feminist activist groups in the world. One whose activities, although even many feminists disagree with them, have raised the international movement’s profile to staggering new heights.

  • Tell me what brought you here? Therapeutic ink and the stories that get them there.

    Being a tattoo artist I hear the life story of so many people. It touches me deep to my soul, and sometimes even scares me. I can now say I can see why memoirs are written, and may even write one of my own some day. Sometimes it is a pain junkie, sometimes a person with a heart wrenching story. The list goes on and on.

  • Road Head!

    A lighthearted guide to how not to do something you should never contemplate doing.

  • Penis Appreciation Day

    Our taxes are filed and spring is in the air. Let's make today a special day - for everyone.

  • Define This: In Praise of Pre-Cum

    Yeah, that clear, sticky stuff that slimes up the sheets when you're messing around. But there's a lot more to it than that.

  • Why I Was Wrong About the Patriarchy (and Why It Doesn’t Matter)

    Nearly 3 years ago, I wrote a blog post asking: “Does the patriarchy really exist?” and enjoyed the spirited debate it generated. But recently, I’ve realized that I was absolutely wrong about the issue.

    I’ve come to realize now that of course “the patriarchy exists” – just not in the way it had ever been “sold” to me as a concept.

  • Marriage Equality

    Gay Marriage; it's such a hot topic today. However, have we forgotten the rights written in our own Constitution? have we forgotten that "all men are created equal," and the fact that we all have the right for our own pursuit of happiness?

  • Boy, Girl, or Both?...Part 2

    In my last article, the topic of intersexuality was broached with a brief description of the term and its various conditions. In this article, I will explore the issues intersexuals are facing today, along with the strides they have made in the past century. I will be exploring one man’s experiences growing up as intersexual, along with our medical, cultural, and religious views on the topic. Read on for more.

  • Healing Depression Through Sex

    Depression is a widespread mental illness that is often treated with chemical supplements such as antidepressants. What if medications don't work? What are you supposed to do when the depression just won't go away? Let me tell you how I found healing through love and sex.

  • Define This: Oral Compulsion

    Oral Compulsion is defined as the habitual insertion of foreign objects into the mouth for reasons other than feeding. Thumbs, toys, fingernails...and yes, other things as well. But let's look at the wider picture first, and if you ever bit the head off your Ken doll, then you'll probably know what I mean.

  • The Ups and Downs of Camming

    Being in the camming game isn't always the easiest. While I have great fans and good times, I have also have experiences that are less than desirable. In the honor of cliches, lets look at the good, bad and ugly.

  • Take your Sex Toys to Work Day

    It often has been the case that my non-vanilla-ness has lead to people looking at me in another light, and not in a good way. I thought this would be the case every time I brought it up in conversation, and had almost resigned myself to be considered a pervert every time. As luck would have it, though, things changed quite dramatically a few weeks back, when an unexpected conversation lead to my sex toys taking an unexpected trip to my workplace.

  • Early Labels Have Lasting Effects

    A comment to a young girl, whether a well-placed compliment or a spiteful insult, can have lasting effects on future personality and sexuality.

  • Boy, Girl, or Both?

    You're sitting in your ob-gyn's office holding your partner's hand. Your womb is full with your unborn child, and you're happy to finally get to see your baby on a monitor. It's your ultrasound, your doctor smiles and begins rubbing that cold sticky gel onto your stomach. Then they of course ask, "Are you hoping for a boy or a girl?" Like any good parent you reply, "So long as it's healthy." But is this really the truth? 1 in 1,500 people is born intersexual.

  • I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

    Just a few short decades ago, women had no choice but to depend on others, but as the years go by, more and more women are breaking the mold of the past and standing on their own two feet. Independence is important for us all, especially since there won't always be someone there to provide for us.

  • Size Only Matters If He's Too Damned Big

    It wasn’t the angle, it wasn’t the mood, it wasn’t any of the things we normally blame. The fact is, he was just too huge. Some thoughts on why you shouldn’t click the Penis Enlargement links on that website.

  • The Years of Living Dangerously

    We all did things in our youths that we are now slightly alarmed by (or, at least, I hope we all did!) And now, in adulthood, maybe we'd like to again. A look back at the years of "I just wasn't thinking," and how not thinking again could be the best thing you've done.

  • Share and Share Alike

    Or: if you're so convinced that I should swallow your cum, let's see you have a taste of it too.

  • Social media meets sexual misconduct and leaves chaos in its wake

    Most people will deal with sexual misconduct at some point in their lives. Some will even run into it in the work place, but one woman's way of handling it didn't turn out as quite as she planned... or did it?

  • Beautify Your Body: Nipple Piercings Q&A

    Ever wanted to be that bad and sexy girl or boy? Do you want to vamp up your style and become a more confidant you? Maybe you just want to add some extra excitement in bed or surprise your partner with something new? No matter your motivation, nipple piercing is for you. Here I answer some of the most common questions about these piercings to help you gain the confidence to take the jump.

  • When a Mommy and a Daddy Love Each Other Very Much...

    The talk. Birds and the bees. We've all heard of it one way or another. It once was the sole responsibility of a child's parents to educate their son or daughter on sex, and eventually schools picked it up into the curriculum. There have, however, been some recent protests by parents and schools alike on sex ed. So, here's the question: Who should be educating our kids on sex?

  • Define This: Capnolagnia

    Sex and cigarettes - the history and mystery of the smoking fetish.

  • The Loneliness of the Long Distance Sex Writer

    A lot of us here have written something that other people disagree with. All of us have read things that make us see red. Some thoughts on the nature of criticism, and why sex writers make such a popular target.

  • What is Sexual Healing?

    Sexual healing encompasses three
    broad, interrelated categories of work.

  • To Whom Does The Responsibility Of Sexual Education Fall To?

    In this day and age, who should be responsible for sex ed? What should a sexual education program teach?

  • The Nice Girl's Guide to the One Night Stand - Part Three: He Gets It Up

    In the final part of the nice girl’s guide to getting laid by a stranger, we pick up at that magic moment where you’ve just let him know that you’re not a nun. Now, the fun really begins.

  • Erectile Dysfunction and the Infidelity Cure

    The pills don't work, nor does the therapy, or the lifestyle changes. He even gave up smoking. But, a quick kiss and cuddle with a comparative stranger.... What would you do next?

  • The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part Two: The Hook-up

    We left our lovers on the dance floor, on the verge of their very first kiss. You’ve decided to go through with it... actually, you decided before the first dance even started, but now it’s time to let him know. Read on!

  • Margaret Thatcher dies at 87

    Britain’s first and only female Prime Minister, Margaret Thatcher, passed away today. What legacy did she leave for women in politics?

  • Great Expectations (part four)

    The final part of our look at the pros and cons of giving head.

  • Great Expectations (part three)

    In the third part of our series, we look at some of the reasons a nice girl might say "no."

  • Great Expectations (part two)

    In part one, we looked at how expectations about blowjobs differ between male and female participants, and who expects what from the experience. This time we look at the experience itself, and the preconceptions that naturally arise.

  • Great Expectations (part one)

    “The problem I have with blowjobs,” a friend once confided, “is that guys expect to get them.” But do they really? Or are girls just conditioned to expect them to expect them? This is the first of four articles looking at the role of fellatio in the modern relationship, from a variety of viewpoints... pro and con.

  • Clitoridectomy -- a Form of Female Genital Mutilation

    In this article, I discuss a form of female genital mutilation -- one that is still practiced today around the world -- clitoridectomy. I wanted to share things I learned while doing research, and what led me to learning about clitoridectomies. The details are horrific, but I keep it light here. After learning what I have about FGM and clitoridectomies, I felt strongly about bringing the topic up in order to share, and perhaps raise more awareness.

  • The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part One: The Pick-up

    There’s a lot of literature out there telling guys how to pick up girls. In the first half of a two-part article, we talk about what the girl needs to do to while he’s actually doing the picking.

  • The Thoughtless Kind

    It is surprisingly easy to go through life without ever realizing that something is seriously out of alignment and relationships often top the bill. A cautionary tale for everyone who assumes that things are just perfect.

  • Why Would You Want To Do That?

    There are a lot of surveys out there asking for our thoughts and feelings about giving head. But what sort of answers do our interrogators expect?

  • The First Lie

    What is the first lie a guy ever tells his girlfriend? “I promise I won’t cum in your mouth."

    And what is the first lie she tells him? "Good”.

  • Unexpected Stalkers

    Stalkers, is a dangerous and frightening word. Instantly one pictures a man or woman in their mid-twenties to thirties, standing outside in the bushes late at night. In this picture the stalker is usually unkempt in appearance, with baggy clothes, and unwashed hair. They have some secret creepy shrine of their victims and a dangerous obsession. The frightening truth is that almost anyone you meet can become your stalker. At twenty-four, I learned this the hard way.

  • Learning to Be Dependent

    While being independent in certainly important, the ability to allow ourselves to depend on others is also just as vital.

  • The Face of Kink

    This is a view into the world of kinky women. We're not fetish models; we're real, and we have the stretch marks to prove it.

  • How “Teaching Men Not to Rape” Won't Prevent Another Steubenville

    Last week, Trent Mays and Ma’Lik Richmond were sentenced for the rape of 16-year-old “Jane Doe” at an alcohol-fueled party in Steubenville, Ohio. In the aftermath of this horrific crime, pundits are calling on the country to “teach men not to rape” to prevent a repeat of this obscenity – but that message is utterly ridiculous.

  • Influential Women: Charlotte Moorman

    How a classically-trained cellist, and Yoko Ono's former roomie, challenged and changed one writer's world

  • Busting Yourself Out of the Restraints

    One of the earliest pieces of advice we get in life—whether from our parents, teachers, books or even a sappy sitcom or crappily animated cartoon show—is that “you should be yourself.” It’s an excellent piece of self-affirmation. It’s true. It’s powerful…it’s also often bullcrap.

  • How Gidget's Lesson Is A Thing Of the Past

    For me, independence isn't something I ever thought about. It was a natural consequence of being surrounded by independent women, who taught me the importance of doing things oneself and to take pride in being able to take care of myself.

  • Influential Women - Marilyn Monroe

    Though mostly known for her sexy and charming persona, Monroe actually sought to be a fully rounded individual.

  • Battle of the 'Bators: Fleshlight vs. Tenga!

    When discussing male masturbators, two names consistently rise to the top: Tenga and Fleshlight. As both products can be expensive, one really needs to understand the pros and cons of each to make an educated purchase. This battle royale will hopefully help you in deciding which of these two fine products will make it to the top of your "Desert Island Masturbator" list!

  • My Mikvah Tale

    I don’t live in a Jewish community, I only lived in a community once in my life. I wasn't raised Jewish. I didn't even know I was Jewish until my daughter was born. Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for grandchildren of Jewish immigrants to not know their heritage. After years of persecution and then the concentration camps, many Jewish families changed their names and their identities. My family was one of these. Finding out our history was a shock, to say the least; but it saved my life.

  • Independence- Finding the Ever-Elusive Balance

    In the dichotic world we live in, it can be difficult to find the middle ground. Independence is no different.

  • Influential Women - Jenny Lawson / The Bloggess

    In honor of International Women's Day I'd like to share two women who have had a profound influence on me. I first wrote about Amanda Palmer. The second, yet equal in influence, is Jenny Lawson/The Bloggess. Her battle with depression and anxiety while being courageously true to herself has greatly influenced me.

  • Influential Women - Amanda Palmer

    In honor of International Women's Day I'd like to share two women who have had a profound influence on me. The first is Amanda Palmer whose blogs, tweets, music and overall philosophy have changed the way I look at myself in a profound way.

  • What the Bible Says About Contraceptives: From My Point of View

    There's a lot of confusion surrounding the use of contraceptives and whether or not it's a sin. In this article, I discuss, as a Christian female, my own understanding of what the bible says about the use of contraceptives. I've focused on the popular beliefs about birth control, and brought up a few points or "arguments" of my own.

  • BDSM 101 -- What is it?

    Many couples are looking to add something new to their sex lives and with the recent advent of BDSM becoming more mainstream, many look towards it as an activity, but are unsure where to start or what it is. Or you may have an interested partner, but do not really know what BDSM is about. So, in the following articles, I want to explain what it is, why someone would like that, and how to safely do it. Today's articles just understanding what it is.

  • Influential Women: Beth Ditto

    Do you know how fabulous Beth Ditto is? If not read on. If you do read it anyway!

  • Independence or Death… or plan B.

    The world is ever changing and everyone has different approaches to life. However, no matter what you think, it’s paramount to be able to rely one number one. Here’s why:

  • Anne Bonny: A Bloody, Badass Pirate Tale

    We take our role models from many sources. Whether they be a celebrity, a historical figure, a friend, or family member, we choose them because they inspire us to be a better person in some way. And yes, even a pillaging, feared pirate CAN be a role model.

  • Watson and Crick? Bah! It’s all about Franklin, Rosalind Franklin.

    You may or my not have heard of Rosalind Franklin. As we celebrate Women’s History, here’s a chance to look at a marvelous, intelligent woman of science.

  • Steubenville – the aftermath

    The Steubenville rapists, Trent Mays and Ma’Lik Richmond, were sentenced yesterday for violating an unconscious teenager at an alcohol-fueled party. But while the cycle of justice is over; many are asking if justice has really been done.

  • The Last Dirty Little Secret

    The Man Who Won't Eat Pussy - Fact or Fiction?

  • Solo Sexuality

    When most people think of the term "Solo Sexuality", it probably has a negative connotation to them. I, on the other hand, have always found it fun, interesting, and often an exciting alternative to engaging in sex with someone else. Masturbation has always been one of my favorite pastimes.

  • Shame Free Sex and Spicing Things Up

    Introduce a little whimsy into your sexual encounters,and find out where your true passions lie. Come in, leave your worries and your cares. Exploring your sexuality is natural and healthy, so let's find out what suits you, from toys to partners. Be yourself; I won't judge...

  • To the Anti-Porn Brigade; it's Always 1984

    The specter of porn legislation has raised its head again in Europe, and this time they mean it

  • A Tale of Many Mikva’ot

    For thousands of years this ritual act of Judaism has been passed down from mother to daughter. However, if you dare to ask a Jewish wife about her mikvah experience, she will often walk away. These moments are very private and never shared openly. Therefore, for the purpose of this article, names and some places have been changed to protect those I spoke to about their experience.

  • Eden Lit Is "March"ing On and Getting Things Started

    New lessons and a clearer focus about just where Eden Lit is going in the future were just a few things that happened on the day of our meeting this month. Exciting stuff!

  • Forget Taste and Texture... Forget the Guy as well. Swallowing Cum is FUN FUN FUN

    Sex is not a duty, it should not be task. And a blowjob should not be hard work. Some thoughts on getting the most out of giving head, and getting even more from his orgasm.

  • Dear Daughter: Live Without Limits

    In a few days, I’m having another baby. In recognition of International Women’s Day, here’s what I’d like to tell her about life, if she’s a girl.

  • Sex and Babies: Can the two co-exist?

    Oh. My. God. Right there, that's the spot, keep going, keep going...oh god, I'm going to - OLD MACDONALD HAD A FARM, E-I-E-I-O

  • Take a Walk on the Wild Side

    Bored with your toy collection and tired of seeing the same designs again and again? If you think you’ve tried every kind of toy available, you may be surprised to learn there is a whole niche of truly wild sex toys out on the market available for anyone who dares to take a wild leap into some truly amazing experimentation.

  • Girls v. Grown Women

    Many people say that girls are less mature than grown women and that grown women have better relationships. But who defines maturity here? Is maturity the only factor in a relationship's success/failure?

  • Conventions may be the right dating spot for you!

    Let’s face it: getting into the dating game sucks, and sometimes you just don’t feel like letting people set you up. Sometimes you’re looking for a more meaningful connection, but dating websites don’t appeal to you, and you don’t quite feel desperate enough to post to the personals section. What can you do? Well, you may have not considered it, but if you enjoy going to anime and comic book conventions, you might be surprised to learn that they are great places to meet new people!

  • Independence Can Be Empowering; But It Does Have A Price....

    Just like any other hard-fought battle, there can be casualties. Most of them are worth it, but some of them... well, that is for you to decide.

  • One Generation to Another: Interviewing Mom

    My mother is a 58 year old woman, who grew up in a very different time. Views on women, on life, and love have changed a lot since she was my age. So how does a woman who’s been married twice, had three children, and lived such a full life view womanhood? I interviewed her recently to find out just what she thinks about women, motherhood, love, marriage, and even sex.

  • Exploring Hentai

    There is so much porn, both on and off the internet. Why would anyone choose to look at drawings over real people? With a guilt free conscience, knowing that there are no reluctantly recruited actors, and no awkward feelings about watching strangers get down and dirty, many people choose hentai as an alternative. Plus, kinks and fetishes have no restrictions in hentai!

  • Fat Girls in Real Life

    As a young BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) sexuality, self esteem, and romance aren't quite the same as they are for the average Jane.

  • Feminists Don't Deserve Chivalry?

    In this article, I want to briefly discuss this particular idea that feminists don't deserve, or should not receive, chivalry from a male spouse or boyfriend. Many people have this idea, which basically originates from a few misconceptions about feminism and chivalry.

  • Fantasy and Reality

    Many of us fantasize about a certain person, sexual activity or anything that makes us get turned on. But is fantasy the same as reality?

  • So You Booked a Professional Boudoir Session: Tips from a Fellow Beginner

    Boudoir photos are a unique, sexy gift to give to your partner for a special occasion or for no occasion at all. Here are some tips for the boudoir beginner from a fellow novice on how to have a successful session.

  • Transitioning to Male (Naturally), and the Adventures Along the Way.

    Have you ever wondered why some transguys "pass" so much better than others? Well, here are my tips for how you can confidently walk into any place and be seen as male, all before starting hormones.

  • Should prostitution be legal?

    While I would never turn to prostitution as a profession, I do think it should be legalized.

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet O-Z

    The last of The Wild Kink Alphabet series, covering the letters O (for oviposition) through Z (for Zentai)! Have you ever heard of Zentai suits? Transformation? Vore? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • Becoming Well-Known on Eden

    Your friend just told you about this cool new site where you can get free sex toys in exchange for genuine reviews.

  • Economy Stimulation with Prostitution

    Just my humble opinion on legalizing prostitution.

  • Q & A with a Transman

    After much research and nagging of people, I have created a Q & A of all the questions you may have for a transgender person, and my personal answers. Although I think these answers won’t apply for many other transguys, I do hope they settle any niggling curiosities and annoying thoughts.

  • Sexuality and Christianity: My journey to finding peace and reconciliation.

    This article is an account of my experience with my journey through sexuality and the church.

  • The Oldest Profession For A Reason

    Prostitution isn't going anywhere. Rather than being naive, as a country we need to work to regulate it.

  • Valentine's Day Can't Beat Spontaneity

    Valentine’s Day is just never as good as any other day my partner and I spend together, which is part of the reason I have never celebrated it. Each of my partners over the years have asked me, “So what do you want to do for Valentine’s Day?” and I’ve never known what to say. I ask them what they want to do, to turn it on them. If they seem really excited about it, I’ll go forth with whatever they want to do. I personally don’t care about Valentine’s Day unless my partner does.

  • Valentine's thoughts

    Valentine's Day: Love it or hate it? Read on to see how my opinion has changed over time!

  • How To Take Good Boudoir Photos of Yourself

    This is a general suggestion for ways to take quality photos of yourself or your partner without getting into too many specifics. You can always look up some of the technical terms and find tutorials online, but I thought I would write this as an introduction to those who have considered it, but thought they couldn't do it themselves.

  • Shining A Light Into Darkness, Illuminating The Sex Trade

    Should prostitution be legal? A healthy national attitude about sex not only makes things pleasurable for its citizens, but also makes great financial sense.

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet G-N

    The second section in The Wild Kink Alphabet series, covering the letters G (for guro) though N (for necrophilia)! Have you ever heard of macros? Guro? Hypers? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • Eden Lit Discusses Writer's Block

    So many things going on at the Eden Lit Club House! We are talking about serious topics that should interest everyone from the avid reader to the professional writer. This month we discussed writer's block, the bane of all creative people.

  • Sexy Piercings! Part 2: The Vertical Clitoral Hood

    A lot of people get this piercing confused with piercing of the actual clitoris. I assure you, piercing the hood and piercing the clitoris itself are two very different things. Piercing the clitoris itself is actually difficult and dangerous and not often done or recommended. The hood on the other hand, which is the layer of tissue above the clitoris, is safer and has a lot of benefits for your sex life.

  • Confessions of a Wishful Prostitute

    Is trading your body for money immoral? I don’t think so. In fact, I find the whole concept to be kind of hot! Let me tell you why.

  • Don't Rape Not "Don't Get Raped"!!

    Women are told to avoid walking back home alone after dark, to avoid dressing provocatively, and to avoid getting too drunk in order to avoid getting raped. But is this the solution?

  • Valentine's Day: Not Just One Day

    Valentine's Day should not be the only day we show our loved ones we care because our love should be expressed daily.

  • NAMBLA: Working the First Amendment

    The North American Man/Boy Love Association (NAMBLA) is a pedophile and pederasty advocacy organization in the United States that works to abolish age of consent laws criminalizing adult sexual involvement with minors, and for the release of all men who have been jailed for sexual contacts with minors that did not involve coercion.

  • Define This: Underwear Fetishism

    Enjoying the scent of a woman’s underwear – this is frequently portrayed as creepy or strange. But is it?

  • Let’s Not Make a Big Deal About This, OK?

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained. For big rewards, you have to be willing to take big risks. No one got ahead by playing it safe…

  • War on Abortion Opens New Front Line in North Dakota

    In North Dakota, Senate bill 2303 recognizes fertilized eggs as having full legal rights.

  • Benefits to being sexy: Pole dancing is good for your health.

    Pole dancing goes beyond sexy. It is good for your mind and body. On top of that it make you feel sexier than ever!

  • I am a Sister Wife

    I am a sister wife, and here is the why and how!

  • Menstruation: “Red Days” - A Jewish Perspective

    Although, it is a natural process of the body, the topic of a woman’s period is often off limits. In this day and age, with sex education in school, sexuality in virtually all television programs, all the progress in women’s rights, why are women still plagued by the old age stigma of being “unclean” or “dirty” during their ?time of the month'?

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet A-F

    The first section of The Wild Kink Alphabet, covering the letters A (for age play) through F (for furry)! Have you ever heard of erotic asphyxiation? What about cum inflation? Furry? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • What His Condom Choice Says About Him

    More accurate than a horoscope, more judgmental than US Magazine, and more wrapped in rubber than a set of rubber band balls, this is an easy to access guide to what you can learn about a partner when they pull a condom out.

  • Johns, Tricks, and Cold Hard Cash

    Opinions are free to give out, but how much will you actually DO?

  • Should prostitution be legal in your country?

    Yes, I think it should be legal for a variety of reasons. Read on if you want to find out why.

  • I Can Sell Everything...But The ONE Thing That Is Mine??!!

    For Sale: 1994 Oldsmobile, Jeans, Diamond Ring, Puppies, Dishes, Couch, Bed, Used Lelo Vibrator, Porn DVDs, Erotic Tales, Phone Sex, Used Underwear, Business Plan, Inventions, Intellectual Property...Everything but my body...

    Why can we sell everything we own, even our thoughts and ideas, but not our body? What would the ability to sell our own body do for our rights and lifestyles? Why is it we can sell everything but the one thing we have ultimate control over?

  • Domestic Violence the same for the LGB community.

    A new report shows domestic violence occurs at the same rate for those in the LGB community in their lifetime as they do for heterosexuals.

  • Define This: Female Copulatory Vocalizations

    Is there more to your moans and groans than you thought? Let's see what the science says about sounds and sex.

  • Morally Grey: Biological Children

    When does the desire for children turn grey? Is it okay if you know you will give your child a disease? Is there a line? And where is it?

  • Is Porn Ruining Men’s Sex Lives?

    Some people are starting to wonder if the instant gratification of high-speed, online pornography is warping men’s sexuality.

  • Top 25 Most Popular SexIs Articles in 2012

    The year 2012 was a year fraught with change for SexIs. We added a lot of new faces, and touched on a lot of new topics. We had articles all over the spectrum from people all over the world. And these are the most read, most popular, most commented...dare we say most loved? Catch up on what you missed!

  • The “Traditional” Family? Anything but.

    The argument for "One Man. One Woman." Is anything but traditional. Looking back at human history, you'll be surprised that that so-called "traditional" family is the farthest thing from traditional.

  • Will Gay Marriage Become a Reality in the UK?

    Marriage Equality advocates in Britain are finally looking to make gay marriage legal – but will they succeed?

  • Preschool Closes Amidst Sex Scandal Between Students

    A California Lutheran preschool is in hot water due to allegations of sex between its young students. Unanswered questions still exist about where students learned of these sexual acts in the first place and what the long-term consequences will be.

  • Not All Our Women Are in Refrigerators: Sex Positivism in American Comics

    Comics have undergone a revolution in the last ten years. A new era of creativity is flourishing and with it, new ideas are flowing. Not only are all sorts of issues being tackled in refreshing ways, sexism and caricatured ideas about sex are being challenged.

  • Prostitution? Yes please!

    Prostitution is known as "the world's oldest profession." If it has been around for centuries, then why is it illegal? Shouldn't everyone have a right to do what they please with their body?

  • My Coming Out

    Coming out of the figurative closet tends to be a difficult path for many people. It’s not just working up the will to tell everyone else, but admitting it to yourself.

  • Rape Isn't A Consequence

    Growing up, I was warned by many folks that there are situations we put ourselves in that can get us raped. I didn't question this until I experienced several instances at work that brought out the fear. I learned how ugly the fear is, and how the warnings seemed to endorse that rape was a consequence for making bad decisions.

  • Visually Enhanced Psychosexual Therapy (VEST)

    Everyone knows about sexual dysfunction, and those who have experienced it may have tried a score of medical “solutions” with less than fruitful results. For those who have found other “non-medicinal” interventions that have worked, perhaps this article may not be news for you so much as proof that getting reacquainted with your own body, and that of your loved one, can do more for you than any medicine can.

  • A Cultivation of Sexual Myths

    We've all heard our share of sex myths. The "you can't get pregnant the first time" myth, the "douching with Coke a Cola" myth, and the classic "you won't get pregnant with the girl on top" myth. But what about myths that go further? Myths that make you wonder if you're a bad person? Or if you really had sex? Myths that have been so pervasive in our cultures that they have lasted for literally centuries?

  • Erotic Fiction: A Sexual Evolution

    Erotic fiction, whether in literature or art, has been around since the dawn of time. Men and women have always had fantasies pertaining to their sexual exploits, and have always enjoyed sharing them with others. In every culture, there are numerous examples of this in many different forms. So how did we go from crude cave paintings of large 'phallused' men and big breasted women, to the 'Fifty Shades of Grey' and modern porn era of today?

  • Clutter vs Convenience: Books in the bedroom?

    From the ubiquitous 70's offering of The Joy of Sex through Madonna's 'Sex' tome and almost every issue of Cosmopolitan, there was always a certain appeal in having 'coffee table' books & magazines that not only showed our open-mindedness to select friends, but also meant we could just grab a title and take it off to bed with us. But do we still need books for that, or can we get the same reading enjoyment out of our Kindles & Tablets?

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles in December 2012

    Naughty Christmas gifts, coming out kinky, and sexy fantasies were the topics of discussion in December on SexIs Social. Sadly, despite all the warmth and love, it was also a month of reflection and disgust when a bad situation surrounding one Ohio high school spun wildly out of control. Bundle up next to the heater vent and read the most read and shared stories on SexIs in December 2012.

  • The Forbidden Fruit

    Anal sex is one of those things that are considered a "taboo", but that is what makes it so interesting.

  • Shame & Masturbation

    Most of you would agree that masturbation is A-Okay! But did you have to overcome a self-imposed reluctance? Or worse, an idea of societal shame? This article looks at how two people, a male (Kenneth) and female (Michele), dealt with their insecurities (and those of others) and eventually became (mostly) comfortable with their self-lovin’.

  • Control Yourself During Sex

    Many guys suffer from premature ejaculation. Here are a few tips and tricks I've picked up from my personal experiences with my boyfriend.

  • My Story: Recognizing and Preventing Rape

    This a bit heavy for a first article, but as someone who has been a victim, rape is a serious issue that men and women need to stay informed about. I admire the magazine Cosmopolitan for making a monthly article about the issue of campus rape and actually doing something to raise awareness of the problem. In this article you will learn about my experience and ways to be aware and safe.

  • Old-Fashioned Dating Etiquette for Modern Times

    Some say that chivalry is dead, but perhaps its rules have just evolved so that we can use them easily in today's world. Old-fashion dating etiquette can still hold up in modern times, even though our lifestyles and culture have changed.

  • A New Year For Eden Lit

    Changes are the order of the day for 2013! Eden Lit is embracing the new year with passion and we are having a great time. We are 3 years old this year and it seems like time to make a few changes to the way we do things.

  • DINKs: Double Income, No Kids

    "First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes The Baby In The Baby Carriage." Many of us have sung this little song as children and come to accept this as just basic common sense of how life is supposed to be. But is it really? Isn't having children a choice? Is having children really a choice if it's expected of you? That doesn't seem like a fair description of the word choice.

  • Naughty Teacher Nixed Over Pornographic Past Will Not Be Allowed To Teach Anymore

    A 32 year old female teacher was fired for performing in porn, during a lull in her career and due to financial hardship. Learn more about the ordeal here.

  • Healing through Masturbation

    Life is full of ironies. This is how to have better sex with others by having sex with yourself.

  • Why Are Some Forms of Attraction Deemed "Sexualities," while Others Are Philias?

    Pedophilia, necrophilia, zoophilia. What do all of these words have in common, and why do they often evoke a reaction of "ugh?" As someone whose biggest fetish is pregnancy and who fits much of the criteria of maiesiophilia, the terms "philia" and "paraphilia" interest me. Why are some forms of attraction deemed "sexualities" (such as homosexuality, demisexuality, pomosexuality), while others are philias?

  • Whose rights are it anyway?

    Is there a simple answer to the question of who has the right to make a decision on abortion? Of course not! In such a horrible situation, who gets the final say?

  • College Vending Machine Supplies Plan B

    A small school in Pennsylvania has stirred up a big controversy by allowing students access to the controversial Plan B contraceptive through a vending machine on campus.

  • A Gentlemen Always Lets The Lady Cum First.

    Call it common courtesy. Call it being a gentlemen. Call it whatever you like. If you're allowing your lady to cum first, you, my friend, are a prime example of the refined, exquisite gentlemen of sex etiquette. Alas, many men out there refuse their lady this fine privilege. Hell, some don't even know if their partner has cum. This, my readers, can not go on any longer. Not in the year 2013!!! We outlived the Mayans for Christ sakes! Surely this too shall pass. I hope...

  • Your Cheatin’ Heart … Or Is It?

    Life is lived almost exclusively in the gray zone. Things are rarely completely black or white, right or wrong, good or bad. Yet despite the very obvious fact that almost nothing is absolute and “morality” is often very much in the eye of the beholder, there is a very strong tradition of looking askance at “extracurricular” sex by married folks or other heavily committed couples.

    Monogamy is considered the rule. The gold standard. The “right” way to go.

  • Our child, whose choice?

    Generally, I am absolutely pro-life. I am on the side of the baby, not either of the parents.

  • Illinois Court Hands Down Ruling On Plan B

    After a 2005 mandate requiring all pharmacies supply the controversial contraceptive and a 2011 challenge to the law, an Illinois appellate court has made a ruling about the drug's distribution.

  • You don't have to be gay to enjoy anal play.

    This article is less of a "how-to" and more of a demonstration that the enjoyment of anal penetration or stimulation has no bearing on one's sexuality. It is a common misconception by many hetero females and males alike that any man who likes his ass penetrated is "gay" or at a minimum, bisexual. That is simply untrue.

  • In Defense of Monogamy: It's Not Selfish

    In modern society, many people think monogamy is outdated, restrictive, and most of all, selfish. But is it really?

  • Israeli Ban of Ultra Skinny/Unrealistic Models

    Learn more about the Israeli ban on models and image editing encouraging unhealthy ideals.

  • It Takes Two

    Abortion is such a hot topic, but it's often considered as a "woman's choice" problem. Who gets say over what happens to her body? But ultimately, it isn't just her body in question.

  • What About Him?

    It takes two to make a baby, but it only takes one person to decide if that embryo is born or not. Should the man have any say in what happens?

  • Equal rights across all planes!

    In a country that has fought so long for equal rights, it seems to me that a key area has been disregarded: father's rights to an unborn child. No man can legally force a woman to abort her baby, so why should a woman be able to abort a baby that has a parent who wants to raise it?

  • The Fine Line Between "Wanna F@ck?" and "F@CK ME!!!"

    I make it no secret that I have had many sexual encounters in my lifetime. Some of them were more memorable then others. This is largely due to the things that were said during coitus. I wish I could tell you that it was all hot, sexy and really got my motor running, but alas, I can not. Nine times out of ten it was pure rubbish. I'm here to tell you now that talking dirty is an art form.

  • What Rights?

    Many people bring up the idea of requesting a father's signature before a woman can get an abortion. These people do not think of the consequences of such actions. These measures are not only undue burdens, illegal under Roe v. Wade, but also horribly oppressive measures that would force women to give birth against their will.

  • Define This: Looning

    It comes in many colors. It's smooth and fun to play with. If you put your mouth on it and blow, it'll get big. What is it?

  • Pregnancy and Trans People

    When you say, "Should the father have a say in the pregnancy?" what do you mean by "father" and do you mean it cis-sexistly? What about trans* people?

  • Asexuality

    In a world full of sex (this site!), an unrecognized portion of the population identifies as asexual. In all ways, they are normal, well-adjusted people, yet profess no interest in sexual acts. All they want is to be understood.

  • Define This: Fat Admirer

    Finding fat people sexually attractive is more complicated than it seems and far more than it should be. Sometimes it has to be hidden; it's not always believed and makes dating difficult. Still, it's just a preference and shouldn't risk widespread ridicule or ostracism.

  • Racing Against the Clock

    In today's feminist-oriented girl power culture, women are encouraged to pursue a career and find themselves before settling down. But too often now, women are finding that they've waited to long and their fertile years are long behind them.

  • The Tale of the Survivor

    Survivors of sexual assault are people made sensitive by not only the attack but also by the treatment they receive from society.

  • It Takes a Village

    While it's tempting for single mothers to view their contribution as the only one that really matters, it's important to acknowledge the role of father to a child.

  • It’s here – the era of incurable Gonorrhea

    Antibiotics are no longer effective against a super-strain of the sexually transmitted disease.

  • Old-Fashioned Guide for Modern Lovers

    Is there a place for the quaint rules of old-fashioned courtship in the hook-up generation?

  • Rights Given or Taken?

    We as a society mostly agree that once a child is born, the father has some sort of parental rights and responsibilities, barring any sort of extenuating circumstances. But what about before birth? Does he have any sort of say? Should he?

  • SexIs Subjective: Gentleman's Choice?

    Should men be included in the decision making choice for abortion?

  • Pro-Choice, but Whose Choice?

    When it takes two people to make something, who gets more of a say when choosing to unmake it? Normally, the clear answer is both parties, but what if that something affects one party way more than another? Such is the dilemma of abortion. Doesn't he have a say in whether the child should live?

  • Anonymous attacks Steubenville students accused of rape – but do their facts add up?

    Hackers affiliating themselves with the Anonymous movement have turned their attention to the Steubenville rape allegations – but their version of events doesn’t always match the facts.

  • Define This: Formicophilia

    One of the strangest "philias" out there, which just proves that humans can find pretty much anything erotic.

  • The Tale of a Lesbian Lolita

    Being a Lolita is tricky enough. Combining an alternate sexuality with that can sometimes make your peers give you some pretty odd looks!

  • Cis People, Read This If You Plan on Dating Someone Who Is Trans* or Queer

    Are you cis and dating or considering dating a person who is trans* or queer and you're not sure how to handle the relationship? Even if you don't feel very sure, being in a relationship with someone who's trans* or queer can be a pretty complicated thing, because they may actively question things you otherwise don't. So read on, even if you're feeling confident that you can handle the relationship, because trust me, even if you think you know it all, you don't!

  • "Thinking-Off" (The Thought Induced Orgasm)

    Since the 1970s, the connection between thought and orgasms has been a hot topic (Masters & Johnson)...Mental orgasms, Energy Orgasms, Thinking Off, Thought-gasms, Thought-induced orgasms. I am sure many of you have seen the show “Strange Sex” on TLC, specifically the episode about Thinking Off, but has anyone really thought about it? In this article I highlight my own experiences with thought-gasms, that they are in fact real, and what exactly you might want to know about them.

  • The boys' club and porn culture

    The verbal-visual porn dichotomy demystified. Or: do women like porn?

  • Abortion. Rights of the Father?

    Being pregnant is already a difficult thing. However in life, nothing is simple and abortion is possible. Abortion complicates things enough in itself, but the right to choose exacerbates debates and blurs lines. What about the rights of the father? I posit that his rights only extend so far, but as usual the answer is not entirely clean cut as the one I suggest.

  • Porn For the Rest of Us: Top 5 Reasons to Read Fanfiction

    The phrase “porn for women” is thrown around a lot these days, sometimes mockingly accompanied by a photo of a man doing the dishes, but you might be surprised to learn that there is a massive community of porn – real, explicit, kinky, delicious porn – created by women, for women. I'm talking about fanfiction.

  • California Courts Rule Rape is Only Rape if You’re Married

    Normally it is members of the Republican party who make asinine comments about Rape, but yesterday, the California appeals court decided to get in on the act.

  • Donated Sperm? Now Donate Your Paycheck.

    A Kansas man who donated his sperm to a childless lesbian couple has now been sued – successfully – for child support.

  • Bustin’ My Balls: Or How A Vasectomy Hits A Man Where it Hurts

    When I had my vasectomy, it wasn’t merely physical discomfort I had to deal with.

  • Lolita Anti-Sexuality

    In the minds of some girls, Lolitas should never have so much as a sexual thought. It's a common happening in the communities to even begin to think like this. Why? Are they right? Hell no!

  • SexIs Subjective: Gifting Pleasure

    Sex toys are a great way to show someone you care about their pleasure, but it is necessary to use personal judgment and respect others’ boundaries before gifting a sex toy.

  • Who has the right to decide?

    Being adult means we are responsible for our actions and their consequences. We have the ability to create and destroy lives – but such power comes with huge responsibility. Who can make such decisions? Who can shoulder such responsibility? Who can have a say over a life created by two people that would belong to two?

  • He With the Clean Internet Profile May Cast the First Stone.

    Sexting, package shots, World of Warcraft??? As politicians get blamed for more of their online activities, what happens to regular people who enjoy the same activities?

  • The Hardships of Coming Out as Non-Vanilla

    Most people seem to associate coming out as an exclusively gay thing. Yet experience has shown me that there are several other aspects of our sexuality that most people keep to themselves, even when being open about almost everything else, not because what we do is a bad thing, but actually because we face countless hostilities whenever people find out. I’m talking about letting people know that we’re not vanilla, in or out of the bedroom.

  • Shopping Guide: How to Get the Best Underwear for Your Body Type

    Too many times have we all bought underwear that looked great on a model or in our hands but when we wear it, it looks bad or not as expected. I am a firm believer that women should and can wear whatever underwear we like, and this is not a guide to what you should or should not wear. Rather, think of it as we all have a color best for us, and we all have an underwear cut that is best for us.

  • SexIs Subjective: Equal Rights?

    Normally when you see the words "equal rights" you think of race and sexual equality; but there is another topic on my mind at the moment, one that's hard to address without offending at least a few people - Do men have the right to decide whether or not the person they impregnated gets an abortion?

  • Letters to myself

    When I was still a teen, I think around 14 or 15, I red a book series where the main character girl would write letters to her older self, to be opened and red ten years later. I liked the idea and decided to follow her suit and started writing for myself. Here I would like to share same excerpts with you that have any relevance to sexuality.

  • Feminish: Sex Pozzies

    Think feminists don't like sex? Think again. One feminist's discovery of sex positivism.

  • SexIs Subjective: Careful Who You Give To! (And Have Fun!)

    Be careful how you gift people with sexy gifts. Overall, though: Do it! Gift your partner with something sexy! You BE that sexy Santa!

  • SexIs Subjective: ‘Tis a gift...and ‘tis the person

    Think twice before you wrap that Fleshlight! Reasons you might want to reconsider giving someone that particular gift.

  • When Our Breasts Sag

    Some of us have a bit of give in the boob area. Considerations on achieving a pair of firm breasts should not jump first to surgery. There are some things we can do to prevent a sagging pair and maintain our chest puppies. As always, hard work is involved.

  • Lolita Fashion and Sexuality

    There are too many misconceptions about the Lolita subculture. "They're ageplayers," you'll see. Here's why they're wrong.

  • Everyone Is, In Fact, Sexy

    Social media tries to tell us how to define what is sexy, but of course, most of us do not conform. Each and every one of us has our own preferences on who we think is sexy. Each and every one of us has our own kink. Kinking it up is just one of our ways we rebel against sexual conformity. Everyone is sexy.

  • The Toy War

    Regan and I were up late, when he asked the question. I never though that my answer would begin this...

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles on SexIs November 2012

    Needing a break from all the hustle and bustle of holiday shopping? We’ve got another amazing edition of the SexIs Top 25!

  • Sanford and (ex) Spouse

    Remember that governor who disappeared, claimed he was hiking the Appalachian Trail and was really in Argentina with his mistress? He wants another chance at being your latex salesman.

  • SexIs Subjective: Toys for Private, Sweaters for Family

    The holidays are about love and family, and family is all about respect.

  • Sex in Triplicate

    Threesomes can be a controversial subject among couples, despite it being a very common fantasy. It’s not hard to see why bringing another person in could cause some serious friction in a relationship; after all, the point of many modern pairings is avoiding cheating or temptation to cheat on a partner. But is jealousy the only reason that the idea of a threesome can rub a couple the wrong way? Could there be some sort of disparity between what SORT of threesome the partners are looking for?

  • Kink vs. Fetish

    You say “toe-may-toe,” maybe I say “toe-mah-toe.”

  • Teen Rape Goes Viral; Town Protects Football Team

    Instagram and Twitter feeds incriminate students in a sexual assault case the authorities can’t brush under the carpet.

  • Sex Workers Speak Out: A day to be observed, December 17, 2012

    Every group in society has a leader. A person that everyone in the community looks to for empowerment and/or answers. When you look back in history, there are hundreds of people who have made a name for themselves for speaking out for what they believe in. For standing up for their beliefs and others who believe. For making others understand, even if they do not agree or believe that they need to live and let live.

  • Sexy piercings part 1: Nipples!

    Usually when the phrase "pierced nipples" comes up, it inspires cringing and thoughts of intense pain, and then loss of sensation. Well, I'm here to say that's not necessarily true. Nipple barbells can be aesthetically pleasing when placed correctly by a skilled piercer and will heal nicely with proper after care. Getting my own nipples pierced was one of the best piercing decisions I've ever made, for both looks and my sex life.

  • Pushing Sexual Boundaries: When the Lines get Blurred

    If there is one thing that has been blurred for me, it would have to be boundaries. When does something stop being itself, and transform into something completely opposite? In my love life, sex has become one of those things.

  • Define This: Monogamish

    Sounds related to monogamous, and it is - but it's not the same thing.

  • SexIs Subjective: Stockings For The Naughty List, A Lump Of Coal Or...

    You do not want to be on the naughty list at Christmas...or do you? This can be a good time of year for:
    ~Lovely, sensual surprises!
    ~A fun, sexy and practical way to introduce a few toys to your partner!
    ~Starting a new tradition!

  • Erotic Capital: Owning Our Sexuality

    The signs are unmistakable. Women are owning sexuality in powerful and disquieting ways. Is the world ready for the future of femininity and feminism?

  • Why Real Lesbians Can Love Sex Toys

    Let's get one thing straight: I'm not. In fact, I've never even slept with someone of the opposite sex. However, I love getting pounded when my girlfriend wears a strap-on. Does that mean that I'm not a real lesbian?

  • Sexis Subjective: An Old-Fashioned Christmas.

    Toys are a great gift... just not for Christmas.

  • Sexis Subjective: The Season of Giving... Orgasms

    What's Buzzing Underneath the Tree?

  • Define This: Watersports

    What's this piss about pissing? Learn about watersports, including the clinical term and definition!

  • The story of my first vibrator or why I shop online

    A little funny and a little embarrassing story of the first piece of my toy collection.

  • It’s official: Homosexuality Isn’t Genetic, But It’s not a “Choice” Either

    “Gay gene” or external cues during gestation? Either way, it’s looking like Lady Gaga’s right, after all.

  • Not So Progressive – Britain to Make Gay Marriage Illegal

    Advocates for same-sex marriage in America scored some major victories in the fight for marriage equality this election – but their supporters across the pond didn’t fare so well.

  • America Should Vouch for Gay Marriage.

    Gay marriage won't be legal in all 50 states until 2024 at the earliest. What if there was a way for gay people to get married in any state, while keeping it convoluted and maintaining gays as second class citizens? That's what marriage vouchers can do!

  • Holiday Connection - Half of Them Come in Camouflage, Anyway

    An interesting swing on how no sex can bring a couple closer together.

  • Define This: Pansexual

    It may not be what you think. Learn more here.

  • Alien Fuck Fantasies

    Some fantasies are based in reality but others, like having sex with aliens, aren't based in reality at all. I decided that I wanted to bring up some possible problems with the concept of having sex with an alien life form.

  • SexIs Subjective: My Sister-In-Law wants to give my Mother a vibrator.

    My sister-in-law wants to give my mother a vibrator. I don't think this is a good idea. I swear her doctor's got her on goofballs.

  • Have You Been Naughty?

    Are you dreaming of a naughty Christmas? You are not alone. Thanks to the "50 Shades of Grey" trilogy, 2012 has officially become the year of kink. Moreover, women seem to be the driving force behind this sexual explosion. LELO, a leading designer of personal pleasure objects, recently released their yearlong global survey. With 19,000 women respondents from 8 countries, the results may surprise you, unless you already have your grey silk tie.

  • Is your Christmas gift Inappropriate?

    Why are sex toys viewed as taboo? Why would it be embarrassing to unwrap a sex toy in front of the family? After all gifts should be something that is useful. What could be more useful than a gift that is good for your health, gives you contentment, and faithfulness to oneself?

  • Daddy's Home!

    Call me daddy. Ooh yeah, that's the way I like it!

  • Kinky University - College Campus BDSM Clubs

    With "50 Shades of Grey," the once hidden world of kink, fetish, and BDSM has stepped out of the dark shadows of society and is now front and center in the limelight. Not only in book stores, but also on many university campuses across America, the world of BDSM is coming out of the closet and its practitioners are finding acceptance.

  • How crabs saved my life. Well...sort of.

    The best thing about being young and sexually active is that sooner or later you might just stumble across an STD or two. If you're lucky, you may escape some of the very major ones we all know are out there, so please play it safe. With that said, even if you do get an STD, sometimes, and very rarely now...they can help fix the path you're on.

  • Euphoric Over Dysphoria

    The APA has decided that being transgendered should no longer be considered a disorder.

  • SexIs Subjective: The Season of Giving

    I love my toys, so why not share the joy?

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles in October 2012

    What else would be on our minds besides Halloween and Breast Cancer Awareness in October? Sex work, body positivity, and – of course – the election.

  • How to have safe (and yes enjoyable) anal sex.

    This isn't your average "Go after it!!!" mission my friend. If you're going to explore places unknown, then both of you need to be informed. Otherwise it could be messy. No pun intended.

  • A Hairy Situation

    Every November, men allow their facial hair to run wild for cancer. So why exactly is the idea of women doing the same "just gross"?

  • Statistics or Homophobia: Debating the Ban on Gay Blood Donations

    One could argue the ban on gay and bisexual men donating blood isn’t a matter of homophobia – it’s statistics. But why, then, are other equally at-risk groups not excluded from donating?

  • SexIs Subjective: Would you buy a sex toy for your Mad Aunty Mabel?

    Are sex toys appropriate gifts? Does it depend on who the receiver is?

    Many people are comfortable buying sex toys either with or for our sexual partner(s). But what about friends or, (gasp, shock, horror) a relative?

  • The nail that sticks out

    The absolute extreme - being average. That's right - the most extreme thing is being average. I do not mean belonging to the mass of people who are similar in a way. No, I mean being halfway between groups of people.

  • Merry Freaking Christmas! An Irreverent Guide to All Your Holiday Problems

    Holiday stress got you down? Here are six easy solutions to your yuletide woes.

  • Some of the best places and ways to hide your sex toys

    If you have a surplus of toys, this can mean one thing for sure. You may have few places to hide them. Never fear, I'm here to help any way I can.

  • Seventeen Magazine and Body Image

    Recently, Seventeen magazine posted a BMI calculator on its website. The BMI levels, when compared with the Center For Disease Control's levels, are extremely low. BMI is a very controversial subject, with disagreement about whether it's valid or not. But Seventeen has been blasted for basically telling underweight girls that they are normal, and normal girls that they are fat. And I think we can all agree that's not a healthy message.

  • Why Most Men Are Afraid of Sex Toys.

    Even in today’s day and age, most men still shy away from sex toys. They see them as a threat to their manhood, or even worse, a replacement for their god given penis. I'm here to tell all men to shut the funk up! Sex toys are not a dangerous thing that will destroy your relationship with your partner. Sex toys will enhance your love life tenfold. As long as you learn to stop worrying and fall in love with the joy that is a sex toy filled love life.

  • SexIs subjective: Toy presents??

    Are they accepted? or not...

  • It's hard out there for a sex toy lover, especially if you're straight.

    Why on God's green earth is it hard for people to grasp that straight men can love sex toys too? Or why do they think you must be gay?

  • Kinky Sex Club

    Harvard College approves a kinky sex club as a new student organization.

  • Sex Feed: Debunking Myths

    New research puts to bed myths about female porn stars

  • Five Things Bisexual Women are Tired of Hearing

    Okay, you’ve come out as bisexual. You’re definitely in love with cocks, and you’re definitely in love with vaginas. Sculpted chests and soft breasts are both appealing. So why should you have to choose? You can love both, because isn’t the LGBT*QIA movement all about loving who you want?

  • Internet Safety Should Be For Everyone

    There is no doubt that technology definitely has come a very, very long way since the internet's humble beginnings and the silly, almost cartoon-like sounds of dial-up connections. The internet is something that can be used for seemingly millions of things and should be enjoyed safely, no matter your age, gender, or sexuality.

  • Coming out as a Cam girl

    When you just can't lie about such a big part of your life anymore...

  • Sex workers speak out ~ The Words of a Stolen Life

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • Sex Feed: New Proposed Law to Ban Bestiality in Germany

    Animal brothels tied to the decision to ban the practice.

  • The gender equality in sex

    Merely a hundred years ago, women were suppressed and they weren’t supposed to know about sex or enjoy it much. The world since then has come a long way. The age of sexual freedom changed a lot of things, and feminists today are fighting for our equal treatment. Should they? Should they not? What about male rights?

  • Natural Pregnancy Prevention Methods

    Most of us are familiar with the standard, everyday birth control methods such as the pill, Depo Provera injection, condoms, IUDs and more. However, did you ever find yourself wondering what people used before these methods were widely available, or what the people who have religious or other reasons not to use the doctor-administrated methods use? If so, you may find these natural birth control methods pretty interesting.

  • Sex - the absolute and relative availability of information

    Today we live in the age of sexual freedom as well as the age of information and the internet. Anything you might want to learn or know about is pretty much a click away. But is it, really?

  • Happy Holidays From Eden Lit!

    The holiday season is upon us once again and we at Eden Lit are feeling very festive. We are dropping Eden Lit Lessons and just about everything we normally do and we're gonna party. We're gonna play games and write happy, hot or maybe even healing stories. Join us for an earlier meeting on Tuesday December 4, 2012 at 3 pm on our forum for a writing party!

  • Idea for the porn industry thanks to Prop B

    Laws can be a benefit. But sometimes they are just stupid and at those times I don't mind suggesting ways to exploit them, as long as you take the time to check on things to make sure it will work first.

  • Sex & Religion: The Beautiful and the Damned

    People have touched upon Sex & Religion in a variety of ways. However, I think there is more talk about "don't feel guilty" and less about why people feel guilty despite all "logic." This article is partly personal in nature, but for those who still feel guilty despite all the sermons and debunking, perhaps the answer is that most of us cannot quite put our finger on where the guilt is coming from – and it might be a whole lot more than just religion in the water.

  • Introducing porn into a relationship!

    Are you trying to get your partner to watch porn but don't know how? Well read my article. I'm here to help you.

  • Sexism in Science Still Lingers

    Women have made amazing progress from where we once were. We run the family and bring home the bacon. We are now the majority of college students. However, there is one area in which women are still horribly behind: science.

  • E.T. Probe Home

    People's fantasies are getting more and more wild every day leading to the exploration of things beyond even this planet.

  • Dealing With My Kink

    How does a person figure out that they like sex differently from what is thought of as "typical"? The stories are as unique as the people who enjoy BDSM. Each person takes their own path. Some paths are scarred with abuse. Surviving an abusive relationship leaves many wounds. All too often, it affects many areas of life for years to come. One area that was difficult for me after leaving my ex, was intimacy. For me, it has taken years to accept my own kink; to let go and let myself enjoy it.

  • Balancing sex and family...Or how my mother-in-law came to hate me.

    This is the story of the girl who traveled four hours to stay at her boyfriend’s parents’ house after dating him for just around a month and how after two weeks of nonstop sex, succeeded in making the aforementioned parents despise her. So if you’re looking for tips on how to ensure you leave your significant other’s house with more than a little condemnation, you’re in the right place!

  • SexFeed: Elmo Actor Resigns Due to Sex Scandal

    A long-time Sesame Street actor has resigned as his role on the children's TV show as Elmo amidst a still emerging and thus far unverified sex scandal involving teenage boys.

  • Homosexuality: The Nature vs Nurture Debate

    We've all heard of this debate. Were you born gay? Or did your environment nurture you to be gay? My answer to those who ask me is, "I chose to be gay the moment you chose to be straight." I've always known. The only choice I had was if or when I chose to "come out of the closet." This article is about sexual orientation and my opinion on whether or not sexual orientation is based on nature, nurture, or both.

  • Coming Out, Letting Out

    There are reasons to put things in bottles. Really, there are. But usually, we're talking about something to drink, or a message to send out on the waves and tides, or multicolored layers of sand to make a pretty decoration for a child's room.

  • The Shaky Bridge Experiment and How It Relates to Your Life

    If you've ever wondered "What did I ever see in him/her?" this might be the answer.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual Freedom, It's not just for young people anymore!

    It's 8 pm, do you know where your grandmother is?

  • Breast Cancer: It's not *just* about the breasts!

    Breast cancer awareness is all well and good, but in order to do the most for awareness, the focus needs to be more on the women affected by it, and not just the isolated body parts associated with it.

  • Not Gay, Not Straight

    As a queer person who is not strictly lesbian, it can be difficult to fit into a gay community, and impossible to fit into a straight one.

  • Yes, 'Good Girls' DO Have Sex (and we like it, too)!

    When the time came for 'The Talk,' my mother decided to inform me about the differences between 'good girls' and 'those girls.' Let's just say, the thought of being one of 'those girls,' not to mention the effort to avoid becoming one, was... inhibiting.

  • Sex workers speak out ~ Interview with a Pimp.

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual freedom starts with us

    Although society puts pressure on us to confirm to the "norm" sexually, we can not expect change until we are willing to set aside our own inhibitions and embrace all safe, sane, and consensual sex. Only then can true sexual freedom be achieved.

  • Is Purity Hurting Girls?

    What happens to a girl when she isn't "pure" anymore? She's a whore, she's a slut, and guys toss her around like a dirty rag doll.

  • Defeating Succorbenoth- The Demon Of Jealousy

    We agonize over it, we hide from it, we even build walls and defenses against it, but the only time we ever defeat this bastard emotion is when we turn and face it. You cannot fight what you refuse to see.

  • Confessions of a Stripper: The Champagne Room Unveiled - Part 3 - The rest of the story.

    Day after day and year after year, I went to work. Each night, I ran the same hustle on a different man. For years, I was their play toy and took their money; it all began to grow old. There was no big light bulb that went off in my head. However, there was one night when my thinking began to shift; when I found myself standing at a cross road. This was the night that I was slapped in the face with the reality of what my actions had caused. That night will be burned in my mind forever.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual freedom--It is found in the last place you would ever look.

    Sexual freedom. Two words that, when paired together, mean many things to people. Once I realized what sexual freedom honestly meant to me, I felt liberated and truly free. Sexual freedom has nothing to do with legal issues, moral battles or input from other people. Sexual freedom comes from within. It is an important and overlooked truth about who you are as a person and how honest you are with yourself.

  • Communicating about sex

    Do you think it's good to talk during sex or even about sex? Most people are too embarrassed to talk during sex. It helps you get to know what each other likes better, and can even help you in the long run.

  • An Open Letter To My Mommy Friends

    You have kids. I don't. I accept your choice -- so why can't you accept mine?

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual Freedom and The Lack of It

    At our current time, we are fortunate that we are allowed to be who we want to be and have our own sexual preferences.Yet, at the same time, there are Jamaican citizens who are being beaten, or even killed, because they are gay or suspected to be gay. The Jamaican government isn't taking action against these vigilante mobs.

  • Why So Squeamish About Sex Ed?

    We have the freedom in America to choose how we educate our children, but many schools and parents avoid educating children about sex. Of course, we have to teach kids about sex in an age appropriate fashion, but why are we so squeamish about sex? Why ignore the fact that schools are saying "abstinence only" and getting away with it? We're choosing to stay in the dark in a nation where we have the freedom to learn, and quite frankly, it's unacceptable.

  • Out of Lies, Truth

    Is it possible that out of all the lies I told to pursue an extramarital affair, truth was revealed?

  • SexIs Subjective: Jesus Loves You, Unless You Have Butt Sex

    Society has come a long way in terms of sexual freedom, but as a part of the Catholic Church, I find myself shaking my head at all of the sexual ignorance harbored within my own faith. Some Catholics say everyone should have sex the same way or you're straying off of God's path. But sex is part of our identity! How we do it makes us unique! Sexual experimentation is not against natural law; what is unnatural is the obsession with only having sex one way, exactly the same way as everyone else.

  • Don't Get Into A Fight With A Penis Pump...

    We have all had that moment, the deal breaker... but what do you do when the moment lingers? Well, just ask me. I seem to have, well, weird luck. Not good luck or bad luck; just weird luck. So, how does a penis pump enter into this? Keep on reading...

  • Inspiration on a Personal Note: Why to Love Your Vagina

    As women, our vagina's can sometimes be a source of confusion, anger, or shame. The way we feel about our vagina's strongly suggests how we feel about ourselves as a whole. I would like to share some of the things that have helped me through my journey. These are things that have helped me love my vagina and therefore, love myself.

  • Thanksgiving Aphrodisiacs

    I am a foodie, a self-declared lover of languid meals cooked with intention and loads of flavor. An intuitive eater, I have for the most part chosen real, sometimes raw, mostly colorful cuisine, a testament to my European upbringing and preference for Mediterranean delicacies regardless of food fashion.

  • SexIs Subjective: Why is Everyone Obsessed with Policing My Sex Life?

    As a kinky lesbian poly woman, it seems like everyone wants a say in how I get it on. From the federal government to religious groups to well-meaning friends, apparently I'm just not doing it "right." Why does anyone even care?

  • Someone Stole My Vibrator And It Wasn't The Dog

    Teenagers are horrible. I have two that I'd like to exchange, but they are extremely expensive and in this economy, I haven't had any takers - especially for the badly behaved ones. I know that teens go through a roller coaster of emotions, but I want mine to be able to come and talk to me about their sexuality, not just take money from my purse.

  • Sexual Freedom and Old Man Smith

    Just when you think you've gotten your own sexuality figured out, you run into your nosy next door neighbor and come to the conclusion that not only is your own sexuality something that you could never share publicly, but God help anyone who is any different from him. Gossip and closed mindedness are the two worst killers of everything good. Despite how good his lawn looks, he can still be a total idiot.

  • Maine Backs Same-Sex Marriage

    On November 6th, 2012, Maine voters agreed that the state should issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples. This is a huge win for the LGBT community and Maine as a whole. But not everybody thinks so.

  • Sex workers speak out ~ The Beginning of Becki LeBeau

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • Sharing is Caring

    You talk to your friends about a lot of things, is sex one of the topics? And how much of your sex life do you discuss with them? I'm still trying to figure out how much to talk about with my friends, but I want to figure it out.

  • Nice Guys Finish Last: A Young Man's Perspective

    Here I will take a humorous outlook on this myth, what I've seen it do, and why it sucks.

  • Questions and Curiosity: Things NOT to ask transwomen and transmen!

    Many people have a lot of questions for transpeople. It's an interesting subject that doesn't come up too often in most people's lives. What questions are ok and what questions are offensive? It's fine to be curious, just don't be rude!

  • Intimacy - You Can't Fake it

    Bombarded by imagery of sex and death, politics and disaster, life - like the movies - sometimes feels like it's lost all grip on what matters. Some ruminations on the meaning of intimacy, seen through the lens of a forty-five year old subtitled Swedish movie.

  • Confessions of a Stripper – The Champagne Room Unveiled: Part 2

    With an open credit card at the bar, the game begins. If she can skirt around his obvious desires while stringing him along, she can make a lot of money tonight. This game is not a one man show. It takes a team to pull off a successful champagne party. From the waitress, to the bartender, and even including another dancer, each is vital for a party to continue all night long.

  • Sex Feed: The Allure of Restrictive Corset Wearing

    A quick look at the lives of two restrictive corset wearers.

  • I Am A Feminist, and I Shave My Legs

    As a feminist who shaves my legs, I have frequently had to defend shaving my legs, much more than I expected to do within a group of people that supposedly advocates free choice.

  • Voters Support Gay Marriage in 4 States

    This election was a winning streak for same-sex marriage.

  • Body Mods Down Below: Male Edition

    What’s the deal with dick piercings? Do people really split their penises? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that males can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

  • Passing under the Trans*-Dar: a definition of "Passing" and how it relates to those in the trans* community

    Passing is great for those trans* people who do, but for those who can't manage to look how society expects, people using the term "passing" can leave them feeling like Pinocchio-- wooden and fake and without a fairy to make them *real*.

  • SexIs Subjective: Free to be Me

    What is the point of having sexual freedoms when the choices we make and the things we do are still so taboo? No one should feel condemned for what they do in the privacy of their own home.

  • Eden Lit Club: Gearing Up For The Holidays

    November starts the whole holiday tread mill. For most of us it's an intense time bringing up many feelings, not all of them good. Eden Lit is a perfect place to share those feelings and get some positive feedback. It's always good to know you are not alone!

  • So Barack Obama Won The Election: What Does That Mean for Sex-Positivity?

    Now that Barack Obama has secured a second term, what does that mean for the issues that affect us most?

  • SexIs Subjective: Freedom at Home & in Public

    It's hard to nail down the point at which someone ceases being sexually free and instead becomes disruptive or offensive. However, it's even harder to tell how justified that offense is! I don't think that we as a society are completely where we need to be in terms of open-mindedness, but I do think that we are on the way there.

  • Knock Knock. Who’s There? Herpes.

    At 21, I was diagnosed with an STD. Though I have happily found someone who accepts me and doesn't judge me for my past, society still says it's OK to make jokes about diseases that are killing people. You wouldn't make a joke about cancer, so why is it OK to joke about syphilis?

  • SexIs Subjective: Open About Sex

    Nowadays people are allowed to be somewhat open about their sexual preference but not completely open. I think that should change and people should have more freedom about their sexual preferences.

  • I want you in the worst kind of way.

    At some point in everyone’s life, they have decided to try something new in the bedroom. These stories prove that some people should just stick to missionary.

  • SexIs Subjective: Freedom to be You

    One of the reasons the United States of America was founded was so that people would be free from tyranny. One thing that is absolutely needed is sexual freedom. I'm glad that I have the freedom to express myself in all ways, even if people don't agree with it.

  • Sex workers speak out ~ Fun with Steff (js250)

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • Accepting My Kink

    How can submitting to a spanking possibly build confidence?

  • Sex Feed: Teenage abstinence might be related to happiness

    If you lost your virginity later in life, you may have a better shot at a successful relationship.

  • Confessions of a Stripper – The Champagne Room Unveiled Part 1

    Long before VIP rooms were added to virtually every adult club across America, the champagne flowed in the French Quarter and the ladies were hot and thirsty. What really happened in the dark corners of those clubs? Why did so many men try to pay for lunch and find that their credit card was maxed out? After years of keeping the stories from my days as a stripper on Bourbon Street a guarded secret, I’m sharing what really went on back then. Join me as I tear the veil back on the Champagne Room.

  • More Than Boys and Girls: C-boys, Dickgirls, Traps, Transvestites, and Transfolk

    You've heard terms like "dickgirl" and "trap" throughout the internet when referring to specialty porn, but who and what are these people, and what's the difference between them all? There's more than just the man-woman/boy-girl binary!

  • Daddy Doms: They're Not What You Think

    When you hear the words Daddy Dom, you probably internally (maybe even externally) cringe and think "Ew gross." What you probably don't know is that a Daddy Dom has nothing to do with incest or pedophilia. It has to do with wanting to take care of your partner like a Daddy does.

  • When the Vibe Went Missing

    A tale of woe from the Emergency Department Nurse's perspective.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexually Caged

    A person's sexuality should be as simple as a person preferring the color blue to pink. We all have preferences, we all have our likes and dislikes. Society doesn't mock me because I would rather drink water than juice; so how is it fair to ridicule someone that is drawn to the same gender they are? Or someone who's turned on by whips and gags? Who are we to look down on someone for any preference they have?

  • Sex Feed: $1,000 Shot Promises Better Sex for Months

    The hottest new trend on the coast is the G-Shot, a $1,000 shot that promises longer and more intense orgasms for up to 4 months. With plenty of rave reviews, the real question is--Is this $1,000 "G-spot Shot" worth it?

  • Perfection is Overrated

    Real women come in all sorts: fat and thin, healthy and unhealthy, old and young, cis and trans, and all of us with different outlooks on life. But the one thing we all have in common is that none of us can possibly live up to the idea of "perfection" that is shoved down our throats!

  • Romney vs. Obama vs. Your Uterus

    You've considered your political candidates' views on taxes, deficit, and their four year plans. Have you considered their views on your reproductive rights? Here is the skinny!

  • Twincestual Discrimination

    Sure, you hear often of discrimination against people who are not given their rightful marriage privileges, but are those you hear about the most often the only ones denied?

  • You were jealous!

    My boyfriend thought I was obsessed with a sex site until he saw the benefits that EdenFantasys brought into our bedroom. I had to reel him in with lingerie before I introduced a sex toy. The toy of my dreams became his nightmare. At first, he liked it, but then he decided that I was addicted to it! It was a shock to me that not all men enjoy the idea of having an extra tool in the bedroom.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual Freedom and You

    Even just a few short years ago, a simple mention of the word "sex" made people cringe and quickly change the subject to something else. Times change and now we stand up proudly for our sexual freedoms.

  • Sex workers speak out ~ The Ivy Jones Saga

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • Attention Skinny Women Bashers: You're Not Helping Self-Esteem Either

    There is a lot of pressure in America to be skinny when you're a woman, but lately there have been campaigns that bash skinny women in a way that are just as unhelpful to women's self-esteem as calling larger women unattractive. This is a healthy skinny woman's response to internet campaigns to end the bashing of curvy women that in turn call skinny women unattractive and perpetuate the very beauty standards they seek to abolish.

  • Strange Sex?

    I know you're going to look at the title for this and wonder what the hell I'm going to be writing about. But this isn't about things I've done or seen people do. It's about a TV show called Strange Sex.

  • Talking About The First Time

    I think we all remember the first blowjob we ever gave. But do we remember why we gave it?

  • Fang-tasy: Vampire, Werewolf, and Supernatural Play!

    Are you Team Fangs or Team Claws? Either way, spook-tacular fantasy play has been everywhere from Renaissance Faires, Cons, and now most recently, the bedroom! Here will be some tips to let your claws out during intimate moments.

  • It's raining men

    The third in a series of interviews with some of the sex industry’s lesser-known and occasionally least understood practitioners.

    Bukkake is one of those sex acts that most of us discovered on the internet and, the occasional fleeting fantasy aside, we're content to leave it there. But what if it had a different name? Or if it didn't have a name at all?

    Note: I've chosen to present this strictly in the words of the interviewee, removing my own questions and prompts.

  • Female Genital Mutilation

    Imagine being held down by women you know. They remove your clothing, pry your legs apart, and without sterilization or anesthesia begin to cut into your genitals. All the while your mother sits beside you, telling you what an honor this is, and how it makes you clean and marriageable. Impossible, right? Not hardly. 140 million girls and women worldwide have endured this and thousands more are subjected every single day.

  • The “O” Isn’t Always All

    I’m a huge fan of orgasms. Huge. Hell, I’m a damn groupie. I’ll pursue orgasms like deadheads used to follow the Grateful Dead—and then Phish after Jerry Garcia died. You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who likes the “big O” more than me (though admittedly, you’ll find plenty of people who like them just as much as me).

  • We Are Not Part of a Circus Freak Show

    You see that I am different and you want to stop and stare? Have you no respect? Is it your goal to be as blunt and as rude as possible? I am not your personal side show. I am not something you can just gawk at, stare at and belittle. I am a person just like you: I have feelings, a heart, and a family. I may be different. I am a transman.

  • The weighing game

    Struggling with body issues is no laughing matter and can be a serious problem for many, but I may be able to help someone with overcoming the obstacle that is weight in the bedroom.

  • SexIs Subjective: I put a spell on you and now you're mine...

    Is the appeal of Halloween just a spell? What makes Halloween so attractive and sexy and mysteriously spooky? It's a day of masquerade, a day you can live out your fantasies without the world judging you. Sometimes the real you is just dying to shine, yet there is a little inner part of you that is afraid to let her out, but on Halloween, you can set her free and live in the moment.

  • Women United

    I can't believe she wore that! Look at her, she is too fat! She is too thin! Blah! Blah! Blah!

  • Sex workers speak out ~ Shayanne's Story

    There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

  • My hero

    My best friend knew he was gay at the age of 12. What he went through was horrible but today he is one of the most amazing people that I have ever met.

  • Why I Don’t Care About Gay Marriage (And Why You Shouldn’t Either)

    Gay marriage is a huge political issue now, with states overturning DOMA and the institution of gay marriage in several states in the last few years. Don't get me wrong--that's great. But we queers need to get our priorities straight.

  • Porn stars protest condom-only porn measure

    They appreciate safe sex, just not in their industry.

  • Beyond the Dungeon - the "other" secret life of a Dominatrix

    The second in a series of interviews with some of the sex industry’s lesser-known and occasionally least understood practitioners.

    Immortalized in fiction, fetishized in art, and lionized in some of the internet’s most fascinating corners, we probably think we know everything about the life of a Dominatrix. In which case, we are in for a few surprises.

    Note: I've chosen to present this strictly in the words of the interviewee, removing my own questions and prompts.

  • Define This: Femme

    As a gay teenager I owned a t-shirt that boldly stated, "Nobody knows I'm a lesbian." Ten years later, the sentiment of that shirt couldn't be more true. Femme identity often fits neither into the expectations from heterosexual society nor queer communities. As I'm finally settling comfortably into my own skin, I've come to realize the importance of femme visibility.

  • Being Who You Are (The Lesbian In You)

    Being a "First timer" is harder that you would think. These are my thoughts and experiences in being who I am.

  • Body Mods Down Below: Female Edition

    What’s the deal with clit piercings? Do people really get their nipples removed? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that females can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

  • The Invasion of the Body Snatchers

    Close your eyes and imagine this: you are standing in front of the mirror expecting to see this perfect figure, but instead you see this strange figure standing in front of you. This person is the opposite of how you imagined yourself to look. Now if you open your eyes you see yourself. It must be nice to be the person you knew in your mind you were all along. Note that 3% of the world’s population is not that lucky.

  • Sex After Having Kids

    Well if you’re anything like me you start to forget what sex is. I have two kids under 5 and I use these steps to make it easier for me to get to have sex.

  • Sex Feed: Virginity for Sale

    And the winner is...

  • Sex Feed: Shameful sexual abuse in schools

    Two tales of abuse that will get your blood boiling

  • Sex Feed: Detroit's police department left without a leader due to inappropriate relationship

    Detroit police chief's sex scandal revealed

  • Extremely Conservative Judge Backs Gay Equality

    Advocates of gay rights gained an unlikely ally today, as conservative Chief Judge Dennis Jacobs ruled against the discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) in the federal appeals court.

  • SexFeed: Ban on Ex-Gay Therapy For Minors already under attack

    Ban on Ex-Gay therapy for minors is already under attack by two religious groups that plan on suing in federal court before it can go into effect on Jan 1.

  • My Boobs: Equal Parts Utilitarian and Sensual

    I love my boobs. I didn’t always feel that way.

  • SexIs Subjective: Let Your Fantasies Run Wild

    Maid? Nurse? Cop? Anything is possible on Halloween.

  • SexIs Subjective: Trick or Treat and Time Travel

    Reflecting on what has happened to my Halloween experience over these last few years.

  • Sleeping With Transboys: A brief how-to on sex with transboys

    So you've got this new boyfriend, and he's a transman! Or maybe you've just always wanted to hook up with one? What do you do when it comes to sex without offending him? What's going on in his pants? Check this out before you jump in bed!

  • The Social Lover: Your Guide To Having More Communicative Sex

    Your partner spanked you for the first time the other night and you loved it, but now they ask you how far you want to take things— You struggle with your response.

  • Sexis Subjective: Sexy Costume Or... Sexy Costume.

    "Sexy" costumes have become the only option for Halloween, leaving the more demure as a thing of the past.

  • SexIs Subjective: Why can't I be a Wookie, too?

    What if men went out dressed in themed boxer-briefs and capes for Halloween and it was women that wore scary and silly costumes? Why isn't it like that to begin with? After all, isn't the adult portion of Halloween about having fun more than anything else?

  • Define This: Fag Hag.

    What is the first thing that comes to mind when the term "Fag Hag" is used? No matter what comes to mind, the connotations are usually negative. Let's take a moment to explore this relationship and what it means.

  • Three Is Company

    Polysexuality is an alternative to polyamory. Instead of having emotional and romantic feelings for many partners (polyamory), you have just a sexual relationship with more than one partner.

  • Isn't That You On The Screen?

    You can find anything on the Internet. Including, apparently, footage of your friends having sex.

  • SexIs Subjective: On A Sexy Halloween

    Halloween can be a time to embrace that sexy part of you that you keep hidden the rest of the year. It allows you to become some one new and do things that only they would do.

  • The Condom Broke, Now What?….Plan B

    Plan B is the emergency contraceptive pill that can be taken up to 72 hours after unprotected sex or in the case of failed birth control such as the condom breaking. There is important information you need to know.

  • The Girl Behind The Glory Hole

    It’s been said that sex workers are among the most misunderstood professionals in the world. But they are also among the most dedicated.

    In the first of several interviews with different "specialists," conducted over a period of six months, a woman filling what some people might describe as the most demeaning of all her trade’s many roles talks about the demands of her job, her motivations and the rewards.

  • Sex Feed: Former Bengals cheerleader turned teacher pleads guilty to sex with student

    She left court holding the young student’s hand.

  • SexIs Subjective: I Never was a Halloween Hottie.

    Sexy Halloween costumes: Are they a trick or a treat?

  • Response to “Enjoying Porn: It's for Ladies Too”

    Ladies how do you like your porn?

  • God Loves Sex Too

    We've basically been told sex is wrong all our lives. A lot of us have grown up under the impression that God views all sex -- even between a married couple -- as dirty. Despite the need to re-inform, we shouldn't be spending our love-making time feeling guilt because in our hearts it feels like we're sinning. Guess what? God loves sex too! The idea that God is opposed to sex is false, and I'm here to tell you how I happen to come to this conclusion.

  • Sex Feed: Bars and sex

    New female masturbation bar; a bar that sexualized Remembrance Day; Bar Refaeli wants to make a sex tape

  • SexIs Subjective: Sex Sells on Halloween

    Halloween as a sexual holiday for adults can be a good thing but not everybody wants to participate.

  • Sex On The Brain

    Being a teen-aged male, sex is constantly on my mind. Being a teenage male virgin, however, does not go well with this, and has turned me into a masturbation expert.

  • Judge Not: Church Slut-Shames Inspirational Fitness Model

    A fitness model who is inspirational to many is shamed and disgraced by a Church who “disapproved” of her early modeling career.

  • SexIs Subjective: Halloween...the sexuality is relative to the individual.

    Are costumes demeaning to women? What about demeaning towards men? Is there too much sexuality or not enough? Do you celebrate the holiday or not?

  • Sex in someone else's house

    In a moment of passion, would you have sex while in your family's house?

  • Being Yourself, From Behind a Mask

    We all have masks that we wear in our life. They may not be physical masks, but they are there nonetheless. But these masks allow us to be who we really are, just presented differently.

  • Enjoying Porn: It's for Ladies Too

    Watching sexy scenes on a bright screen isn't just for the boys' club anymore.

  • Sex Feed: Former pageant princess who appeared on Wife Swap arrested

    It’s her third time dealing with the law, but the first time she’s arrested.

  • Sex Feed: Vancouver Sex Trade Workers Can Challenge Prostitution Laws

    It took five long years, but The Supreme Court of Canada finally decided that prostitutes can argue their case in court.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexy Halloween

    What's with the current trend of barely there costumes and is it affecting our kids?

  • Sandusky, Savile and worse – Why do we tolerate sexual predators?

    Out loud, we all claim to despise sexual predators. So why do we tolerate so many of them?

  • Sexis Subjective: Halloween is for everyone!

    While yes, Halloween is a holiday that almost all children love, it is not only a time for children!

  • SexIs Subjective: Costume Play

    Halloween has always been a favorite holiday among youth: dressing up, getting candy, pulling pranks. So what is it about the holiday that has so many adults deciding that they should join in the fun? And is that even acceptable?

  • Sex Feed: One small step for transgender students in Toronto schools

    The Toronto District School Board has created new guidelines accommodating transgender students

  • Sex Feed: Nova Scotian teenager held against his will

    The 16-year-old boy was chained and sexually assaulted for up to two weeks.

  • Sex Feed: Canadian HIV carriers absolved from having to legally inform their sexual partners about their condition.

    To disclose or not to disclose HIV, it just got a little more complicated.

  • Growing up Sexual: Puberty in the Internet Age

    The internet allows people of any age, gender, or sexuality in any location to connect instantly. The information highway is limitless and utterly incredible. But in a world where teenagers must be digitally connected to be "cool" and anonymity is key, what changes can we expect to see in our children? What can we do to help and better understand our children in this unpredictable and challenging cyber universe?

  • SexIs Subjective: Halloween Is Not Just For Kids

    In my opinion Halloween is not just for kids, we grow up doing it every year. Why do some people think just because we grow up we should stop doing it? We have just as much fun doing things for Halloween as kids; ours is just more age appropriate.

  • Experimentation vs. Appropriation

    My lifestyle and business have become a fad. One would think that I should be jumping for joy, but I am not. I feel disgust and shame. I don't want to be a Halloween costume. It's not a pleasant feeling.

  • Swallow

    A word to make guys go weak at the knees... and some girls to go weak in the stomach. A look at the cultural and societal background to the power of seven little letters.

  • Before You Spread the Rumor, Learn the Facts

    October is also Domestic Violence Awareness month, and while domestic violence is a horrible thing, I want to share my story of why you should always know ALL the facts before reporting anything. This isn't the same for every case, but it's something I had to deal with, and I'd like to share my story.

  • Sexis Subjective: Halloween

    The weather is changing, the leaves are starting to fall off of the trees, and Halloween is right around the corner. What is it about Halloween that has adults and children loving this holiday?

  • Friendship is Magic, or This Brony thing, is a sex thing isn't it?

    I make custom BDSM, toys for a living, and My Little Pony ones are some of my highest requested items, True Story. I, like most people, assumed the whole Brony Culture was a sex thing, and my experiences pretty much prove me right. However, I've been on this whole internet deal a long time now so I know, maybe I'm just seeing the worst side of things, as is known to happen. Follow me on a journey as I discover how to be a Brony.

  • Eden Lit Club: October Story Starts and All Things Fall!

    The air is crisp, colors are exploding all over, and school is well into its first semester. We're all gathering up and settling down for the winter. The Eden Lit Club is also settling in and harvesting all the creative energy.

  • #SexIs Subjective: A Sexy Halloween

    Somewhere along the way, Halloween became the sexiest holiday this side of Valentine's Day. This happened somewhere along the way, and I for one am glad it has happened.

  • In Landmark Lesbian Custody Battle, Court Rules: “Best Interests of the Child are Paramount.”

    In the lead up to the election, it often seems like equality is in the firing lines. But in the midst of an anti-gay agenda by militant Republicans, it looks like one small victory has been won in New York City.

  • Make Me Want It

    I am never impressed by sheer brutality in BDSM. I AM impressed when someone can evoke a DESIRE for sheer brutality in BDSM.

  • SexIs Subjective: Are We Too Old for Halloween?

    This is the time of year that many look forward too. New scary movies are flooding into theaters, pumpkin flavored foods are popping up on menus everywhere, and this year's costume ideas are on everyone's mind. Are we going too far? Is Halloween just for kids?

  • Take a Dance With Chance

    Sometimes taking a leap of faith and just allowing things to happen can be a scary thing. Let's face it, the unknown is scary, but we live every day facing the endless possibilities. So why are we so afraid to knowingly take a dance with chance?

  • 3 Scary (Deadly) Trends in our Youth

    They do what?! And put it where?! The youth of today are very creative, but sometimes the desire to get the quickest buzz or latest gadget can turn deadly. Here are some of the dangerous trends occurring in younger people.

  • Women = Vaginas. Men = Pigs.

    What limited sexual education communicates to our children.

  • Sometimes Adam, Sometimes Eve

    I'm married to a man...and a woman. No, I'm not a member of a religion that believes in multiple marriages. Nor am I in a polyamorous relationship. My spouse is bigender, both male and female in one body.

  • Furry: The Fuzzier Side of Kink

    Maybe you've seen that creepy CSI episode about fursuiting...Maybe you've had a friend that seemed to like to make animal noises just a little too much--or maybe you've just seen it around the internet. The furry fandom is growing by the day, but no one ever seems able to clearly define it or give a straight answer to any question about it. It really makes you wonder...What exactly IS a furry?

  • Continuing education – The benefits of classes and conferences.

    Expanding your knowledge about relationships and sexuality.

  • CatalystCon: More than just a sex education conference

    An overview of CatalystCon, a sex education and sexuality conference.

  • I will never be you. -Or- I don't understand white people.

    I was recently stuck in a situation with a bunch of members of the normal, which are the most important vote for any presidential candidate: white, upper class, Christian males. As I sat surrounded by these people with my mohawk and hole-filled jeans, I couldn't get over the fact I hated them, I hated every word that spilled from their mouths. Let me share my story about my time at a bachelor party, for my metamour.

  • Incest fantasy porn and legalities

    I think this is an odd thing to be able to find on the internet and I do not understand why I like to search for it, especially when most of the people in these videos repulse me.

  • Why Not Let Everyone Be Happy?

    I’m going to talk about the equality in the marriage field. I only have one question, Why not let everyone be happy? Nobody runs to a happily married straight family and says, “Hey please don’t kiss in front of me or my kids, it makes me uncomfortable.” So why do we feel the right to tell homosexual couples this exact sentence? I don’t think that is right in my opinion.

  • Out Of The Ashes May Rise A Phoenix

    There is nothing more beautiful or more awe inspiring than the power and conviction of a naked woman.

  • Breaking Out Of The Box IS Hard!

    After over seven years of dealing with blood sucking lawyers, it's over now and I am left with nothing. Who is to pay for what has happened? Getting out of this box is getting harder and harder. I just want to go back.

  • BDSM Or Just Curious?

    So you read 50 Shades of Grey and now you're looking for a dom? Think again!

  • The Spirituality of Sex

    Do you like sex? Do you like ambiance? If there's one thing we learned from ice-cream sandwiches, it's that good things are always better combined. (Or, well, usually, at any rate. We received quite a different message from jalapeno jelly beans.)

  • Do Men Fake It Too?

    When I think of faking orgasms I think of Meg Ryan in "When Harry Met Sally," not a man faking it.

  • Confessions of a Stripper: Why Men Are Drawn to Strip Clubs

    After work, Joe and his friends decided to hit a local Gentlemen’s Club for a beer before heading home. Joe and Ernie call their wives to say they will be late. They don’t dare reveal the truth, with a white lie they hang up and its high fives all around.

  • How to court a poly person

    Pursuing a poly person is different from pursuing a single monogamous individual. There are more people involved than just the two of you that are going to impact whether you are successful or not. Here are some pointers about how to approach things.

  • Shrinking The Gender Gap One Taboo At A Time

    You’ve probably all seen it by now, the remarkable study that reveals how the more sexually aroused a woman becomes, the more willing she is to swallow her scruples. Well, in case no one had noticed, men are no different.

  • A society’s binary lens on bisexuality

    American, and more generally western, culture is a binary one, but certain people fall outside the binary. There are all types on non-binary people in human sexuality, but for this article let's discuss bisexuality and how it really isn't binary despite pop culture.

  • Look Ma! I'm Pansexual!

    Life, Love, and Pansexuality. What happens when you come out to your family? Will they accept you, or will they toss you out into the street?

  • My Dear Kira

    Back when I was in high school I got to a point where I said, "Screw boys, I'm batting for the other team!" That's when I met Kira, an absolutely gorgeous 18 year old girl who was into girls. Kira was the girl that got me to see other girls in a whole different way.

  • Advice you should NOT take from your mother!

    When it comes to dating, many people take their parent's advice into consideration. I was not one of them, because my mother's advice was horrible.

  • SexIs Subjective: The Separation of Church and State...When it suits us.

    At 14 years old, I thought the government was never going to let me marry another woman...At 21, I'm fighting a battle to allow myself, my friends, and my family to marry who they want--a battle of human rights that shouldn't even be an issue.

  • Why Do They Call It The "Dirty Deed"?

    This is one of the many random things on my brain that I'd love to share because it's something we don't really think about although we use it every day.

  • The sex talk from above?

    This is my piece of knowledge I'd like to drop on ya'll and my opinion with it.

  • A beginner's guide to Sexting

    Panic-stricken social commentators tell us it's the latest evil craze to be turning our children into sex-mad monsters. But not only has sexting always been with us, it doesn't care how old you are, either. So, a noobie's guide to getting it on in three or four characters, tops.

  • Kink: Convenient and Cost-Effective

    So we talked about household items that can stand in for kink toys. But what about the festishes you can't replace with a ping pong paddle?

  • Dealing with your childhood

    We do stuff as adults and say "Oh my god, I am just like my mom or dad." This can be good or bad. Dealing with these feeling can be overwhelming. How do we deal with the bad feelings?

  • Study Suggests “Horny” Trumps “Ick” in Most Women

    What can your arousal make you forget today?

  • Submissive Journals: A How To Guide

    As promised, this is part 2 of my previous post on submissive journals. In this section, I will focus on how to start and maintain your own Sub journal. As well as a starting guide, I will include helpful tips and tricks for writing and formatting your journal, things to consider when choosing a site, important posts to include in your journal, writing prompts, suggestions, and ideas to help you get started.

  • Why is it more acceptable to look at real porn than animated porn?

    This article is mostly my experience with animated porn and a point of view from my side outward.

  • Submissive Journals: The Benefits Of Having Your Sub Keep A Daily Journal

    In one of my previous articles, I briefly talked about having a sub journal. I've decided to expand on the subject a bit more, since I received some questions. This is part one of a two part series. In this section, I will focus on why journals are important and also address some common ways they are used. Part two will be a how to guide on writing, and some helpful tips and tricks I've learned.

  • Getting Comfortable With My Sexuality

    Finding out that you’re gay, bisexual or lesbian isn’t always easy. Finding your way to yourself takes a lot of going out the box and your comfort zone. I have been through it. Here's my story.

  • How Far is Too Far?

    A recent French movie shattered mainstream cinematic expectations by incorporating scenes of real sex in place of the usual simulation. And a lot of people got very upset. Were you one of them? A few thoughts on a theme of the movie world’s final frontier.

  • You know your boyfriend's been watching porn when...

    Kicking the cliche out of blowjobs

  • Top 8 Movie Sex Scenes of 2011

    What were the sexiest flicks in 2011? Find out here.

  • Life of a Virtual stripper: Get a real job

    We all love dancing around and being sexy, but is it hard to believe you can have your cake and eat it too?

  • Beginner's BDSM: What It Means To Be Submissive

    You love sex, particularly kinky sex. But how do you know if you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, and become truly submissive?

  • Kink From Afar: Dealing With Long Distance In A BDSM Relationship.

    We all know that long distance relationships are hard, but what if you add BDSM into the mix? Both BDSM and long distance relationships require a lot of work to maintain just by themselves. If you happen to combine the two, you're in for a wild ride! How to keep the kink alive when you're apart.

  • Stepping Out Of Our Boxes To Live a Life Without Regret

    After a very rocky childhood with a mother that told me I was not pretty and that I wrecked her life, one controlling marriage, two marriages total, two kids, jobs, and oh wait, did I mention I almost died? A diagnosis that stopped it all, a life changing job, and one murder.

  • SexIs Subjective: Marriage Inequality

    Partners cannot be afforded the same rights as married couples in Health Care.

  • Sexbot and Robots, or Coin-Operated Hookers.

    I was recently asked (or the question was referred to me) if I thought sex robots were a thing I would see in my life time. I replied simply, "I already have." Granted these are not the robot nymphomaniacs of current movie magic, more like the clunky things you might expect, but they are getting better. However what does that mean, for humanity, and are these for men only? How close to the cool ones? These answers will surprise you.

  • Past, Present and Future: The Shifting Legality of Abortion

    What do we learn from our past and how do we implement those lessons in the future? America needs to take a look at statistics from our shared past before voting.

  • My Inner Bitch’s Bout with Sex Negative Education

    An eye-opening event this summer has me thinking: It’s time for grownups to grow up about sex education. It starts too late and ends too early. I came to this realization this summer when I got a dreaded call from my son’s camp director one Friday afternoon.

  • Why Can't We Be Friends?

    Breakups are hard, there's no doubt about that. But when you end it with someone or they end it with you, then why can't a friendship blossom from the ashes?

  • Cuffs, Paddles and Safewords, Oh My! Or Beginner BDSM!

    BDSM seems to be on everyone's lips these days since a certain book became so popular. It seems that even some of the most quiet of people I have spoken with seem infatuated with giving it a try. So I thought why not impart some of the basics that everyone should know.

  • SexIs Subjective: Equal Rights For All!

    I believe if one group of people has a certain right, everyone else should too. It’s only fair.

  • Variety is the Spice of Life

    Sex is a huge part of any relationship, whether you're sexually active all the time or tend to be the kind of couple that only gets it on every so often, sex is important. While the cuddly, cute, "let's make love" kind of sex is enjoyable, spicing things up can be just as much fun if not more. I've recently decided to take my sexual relationship and turn up the volume a few notches, and DAMN is it making a lot of noise.

  • I'm Not Easy, I'm a Slut

    Discussing a few implications, and why I strongly prefer one word to the other. Hint, a yellow balloon with the words: It's a Slut!

  • SexIs Subjective: Marriage Equality

    As a married woman, I find marriage to be about commitment and willingness to work together, regardless of how "traditional" your relationship is.

  • Common Myths About Sex Toys

    There I was standing in front of the glass case of beautiful toys for the first time. The lingerie we originally came there for was forgotten. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. They looked more like works of art than sex toys. Could my negative opinions about them have been wrong? I was in heaven, and determined to test my theories.

  • SexIs Subjective: On Marriage Equality

    Marriage equality is a sensitive subject. Should marriage stay true to the tradition many are trying to uphold? If you ask me, I think that some traditions should be broken so a new one can take its place.

  • Out of the Bi Label, Into the Pan Fire

    I always bristle at the word “confused,” used to describe a sexual orientation that’s not straight, not lesbian and not gay. I’m sexually attracted to men, and I’m sexually attracted to women. I know this from a rich variety of sexual experiences that were and are pleasurable, memorable, endearing, funny and occasionally tragic, but never confusing.

  • @%#*ing Zombies, or Stress Relief in the Zombie Apocalypse.

    It seems like these days more people have more Zombie Survival plans than they have pairs of socks. I fully support this activity but everyone always seems to forget something really important, sex during the end times.

  • How Young Is Too Young?

    Following up on my last article I wanted to make a point that I do not believe that every raging hormone, sex crazed, young teenager should be having sex. The people I preached for were that of ages 20 or higher. But here is now an interesting point: how young is too young for teens to be sexually active?

  • SexIs Subjective: Marriage Equality

    Marriage equality is a big issue and I wonder, why wouldn't we allow people to get married, and why would it affect my marriage?

  • Should “Creep Shaming” be a thing?

    The Men’s Rights Activists of Reddit believe that “creep shaming” is insidious and anti-equality. But does creep shaming really exist? And if so, why shouldn’t it?

  • The Differences Between Men & Women

    Everyone knows that men and women are different but not many people have thought it through all of the way.

  • Eden Lit Club: What's going on in September?

    Everyone writes poetry. This was our premise in August and it was a rousing success! It turns out our community does, indeed, write poetry. As we continue to reorganize and redefine our club as an entity, we learn more about our unique skills and not a small amount about ourselves as individuals.

  • The Young and The Sexless

    Nowadays there are a lot of young and generally attractive men who have virtually little to no sex lives. What's the reason for this? Is it their looks, personalities, or is it both? For those who are labeled as unattractive or seemingly unworthy of a sex life, how do we change the perspective of billions who believe that tall, tan, and physically fit is the ideal looks of someone who is attractive?

  • 20 Fun Sex Facts

    We all enjoy sex but it's always nice to hear the fun facts about it.

  • On Dominance and Drudgery

    When we think of words like “slavery” and “submission,” the immediate connotations are so often unpleasant. As a Black American, descended from human beings who were enslaved, bought and sold and dehumanized for generations, it took me years to come to terms with my own desire for submission, with my own capacity to eroticize submission to the will of another.

  • Why I Prefer Masturbation

    On most days given the option between masturbating and having sex, even with a previous partner that I've had lovely times with, I would pick masturbation.

  • All That’s Wickedly at Stake with Jessica Drake

    What does Jessica Drake do on her birthday? Why does she do what she does? How does she feel about her fans? Dave Gammon asks all that and more in this interview with “the wickedest girl” in porn.

  • 50 Shades of Singapore

    Recently Singapore banned Fifty Shades of Grey from their libraries, which started up sort of an amazing collection of erotica as if censored by the government. It was awesome and I have to share:

  • Why I Like Anime Porn

    Alright. So, anime porn. I know this might not be a very popular subject but I'm not sure anything else I do is, so I will just smack the 'Remember, this is just what's in my head' sticker on the article and send it to market.

    Are you sitting comfortably? Well then let us begin.

  • To Make a (NSFW) Music Video

    I have made various music videos, and all from porn clips.

  • Gays Can Breathe Easy - Porn is the New Threat to Marriage

    Patrick Trueman, President of Morality in Media, claims that watching porn can re-map the brain of young males, causing them to be sexually dysfunctional later in life. And he aims to prevent that. What's worse? He's got the GOP on his side.

  • AAP ignores appeals from “Intactavists.” Declare with circumcision “benefits outweigh risks.”

    For months, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has been planning their latest official statement regarding the controversial practice of infant circumcision – and has been the subject of intense lobbying by groups that both support and oppose the procedure.

  • Vocalizing Pleasure: Is louder better?

    He was still a peachy-cheeked, lanky-limbed, soprano-voiced child who happened to be getting on the same elevator with us. Nothing about his appearance would have grabbed my attention except for the message on his shirt: ‘Sexual Expert, First Lesson Free.’

  • The T in LGBT

    What do transgender and transsexual mean? What are appropriate terms to use when talking to someone who identifies as trans?

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: When worlds collide

    The lighting is set, the camera is ready to go live. You are dressed and everything is ready to go...And then your child wakes from a nightmare and is crying for you.

  • Real Men Eat Pussy—and Kiss Ass

    I don't believe that all things must be equal in a sexual relationship—few things in life in general, much less in any kind of human relationship, are truly equal. We all have ways in which we intentionally or unintentionally get over on someone else or receive more than another person in the course of human dynamics.

  • Summer's here! What to do?

    I always get insecure when summer hits. The fat that I’ve been building up over the winter has to go.

  • What's In A Name?

    You are what you eat - reclaiming the word "cocksucker" for the people who really deserve it.

  • Sexy to the Undead

    As odd as this concept might be. I have actually seen some sexy looking zombies. One was in Return Of The Living Dead. This one girl with a punk hair coloring job got turned into a zombie and in one scene is walking fast through some fog and then attacks a homeless guy.

    Did I mention she is pretty much naked?

  • Thank You, EdenFantasys

    How has EdenFantasys changed my life? I would love to say that I have always been sex positive, open, free and knowledgeable but the truth is the person I am today is a direct result of the community at EdenFantasys.

  • Understanding Desire and Love in the Brain

    In Egyptian mythology, ib or heart portion of the soul was placed on a scale balanced against the Feather of Ma'at. The feather a symbolizing truth, in the judgment of the dead. All of our deeds, sins and contributes laid in the weight of the heart and if heavier then the feather the heart was gobbled by Ammit.

  • Age Play: the basics

    A brief and basic description of the fetish and lifestyle of age play including definitions of terms and a few educational resources.

  • A cliff notes guide to LGBT terms

    Confused by terms like polyamory or genderqueer? Have no fear an easy guide to those terms and more is here!

  • Fantasy Land

    As the parent of a toddler, the greatest place on Earth right now for him seems to be the Magic Kingdom. While researching a trip to the so called “Happiest place on Earth” I started thinking about the name for one part within the theme park, Fantasy Land.

  • GOP abandoning Todd Akin – but is it too little, too late?

    Apparently, even the right wing has limits when it comes to women’s reproductive rights.

  • Bisexuality in My Own Words

    Why should it be that someone like me can have no fear when calling myself a lesbian, but upon discovering I like both women and men, be so hesitant to call myself bisexual? I hesitate because of all the popular misconceptions and negative connotations that are associated with the word.

  • The infamous “men-only” Augusta National Golf Club accepts two female members

    For the first time in eight decades, women can now tee-off at the famous Georgia golf establishment.

  • Female or Male ? That is the question.

    Haven't you ever wondered how it would be if you was in your spouse’s shoes, and you changed sex? Well I'm Jaylin and I was born a female but ever since I was younger, I always wondered how it would be if I was a male instead of a female. Don't get me wrong I love being a female but I just think men got it easier than females.

  • Free the Boobies: The Joys of Going Braless

    I have no problem with bras, but sometimes it just feels good to get it off.

  • To wait, or not to wait, that is the question.

    The coverage of Olympic athletes and virginity makes me wonder about an important aspect of sex education. How do I advise my daughter when making the choice to lose her virginity?

  • Purr-fection: Why I Love Catwoman

    While the infamous Catwoman is no doubt a sex symbol, there's more to love about the femme fatale than just her sex appeal.

  • The Poly Male, or Rational Polyamory

    How do two men share a woman without killing each other? It's much more about respect, and love, and less about animalistic furry and marking of territory. I want to explain how my friend and I share a woman without murdering each other.

  • Submission in a few of its forms.

    There are as many ways to submit as there are people in the world submitting, but there are a few different ways that these get lumped together.

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: The Unveiling

    So you want to know what a successful cam girl looks like? You wanna see just what I am made of? This is the line of questioning I have been getting lately, So, Why not. Ok then, Lets get down to the glitter and glam of... ME.

  • In Praise of Uncut Cocks

    One girl, one fetish, and her quest for enlightenment. Am I alone in my love of uncircumcised penises?

  • SexIs Subjective: How Thin is Too Thin?

    Are words of affirmation always positive? What happens when they're used to perpetuate unhealthy lifestyles?

  • SexIs Subjective: How to make sense of fitness and self acceptance as a curvy girl.

    As a size 18-20, how do you both strive for fitness but love the body you are in?

  • What's the Content of your Intent?

    When I speak about BDSM practices, one of my core assertions about the difference between consensual kink and abuse is intent. The person who verbally humiliates their partner to gain control and erode the self-esteem of the other, or the spouse who beats and harms their significant other, using violence as a means to destroy, is different from the kinkster, pervert or Leatherperson in one central, pivotal way. And that is intent.

  • Strip Club Etiquette

    A visit to the strip club can be a thrilling, exciting, eye opening experience. As both a sometimes stripper and strip club client, I would like to share with readers how to make the best of your trip to the nudie bar...and how not to make a fool of yourself!

  • Avoiding the Fire

    Oftentimes people will refer to their love or sex life as being “on fire”. I’ve used this same saying when describing an out of control fight.

  • A Peak Behind the Female Dominated Future or, My Time as a Man in the Eden Forums.

    For the first time in recorded history, women out number men. Roughly about 51 to 49 percent. Current trends suggest this number will actually continue to grow over time expecting to reach about 60/40 in 2060. As an amateur sociologist I'm curious to study the land scape of the future and the Eden Forums seem to have let me do that. These are my journeys.

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Sex Sells

    If you have read my other articles, you got the details in a perky, upbeat, sometimes sarcastic way. Tonight, it is coming from the other side of me, the depressed single mother that feels like things will never change. This will prove that being a cam girl, or a mom, is not all glam and glitter.

  • Confessions of a Stripper: How it all began.

    With the days of the Red Light District long gone, the back bone of the sexual atmosphere in the French Quarter is the Exotic Dancers who fill its numerous clubs. Over a hundred Ladies of all ages and back grounds work every night year around to entertain the tourists.

  • Why fetishes are a good thing

    In today's society, fetishes have a very negative connotation. On a very special episode of "rants by Mine Fujiko," we discuss why fetishes can actually benefit people.

  • Intro to Rough Sex

    Ever wonder why the phrase "fuck me like you hate me" is so popular? Recently, rough sex and bondage have been explored by many couples and for good reasons.

  • Trampire

    How the backlash against the Kristen Stewart and Rob Sanders cheating scandal highlights the still present double standards in America.

  • United Airlines “loses” unaccompanied minor on connecting flight. Doesn’t care.

    On Monday we wrote about how many airlines have a sexist policy of moving male passengers to prevent them sitting next to unaccompanied minors – something a Sydney law professor argues “effectively places all men in the category of potential offender.”

    But it gets worse.

  • A New Awakening: The introduction & acceptance of porn in my relationship.

    Have you ever had an epitome? One that has changed your outlook on a very minor area of your life and then turned it into a major part of your relationship? A realization so profound that it changed your sexual relationship with your partner?

  • How to pick and clean your toys!

    Whether you're an expert or a novice, you always want to make an informed decision before buying a product. Keeping your toys clean is always recommended, but there's a lot more to it.

  • What exactly is Hentai?

    If you've spent a decent amount of time on the internet, you've probably heard this word thrown around a bit, along with "AIYEE" and "Onii-chan." What does it all mean though? The answer lies within the heart of the cards.

  • What has EdenFantasys done for me?

    Okay so a little history.... I was the type of kid that knew she liked males AND females from a very young age.  At 5, I ran around my neighbourhood with a condom, explaining to everyone, child or adult, what a condom was for and how to use it.   I was obsessed with sex years before I ever experienced it.   Burying my nose in penthouse forum and literally drooling over the stories as  I read them.

  • Spicing Up Our Sex Life

    July 19th 2012 is my husband and I ninth wedding anniversary and thirteenth year we have been together. In this time we have experienced many different things together. We have found jobs and quit them to do something different, had two children, went back to school, I became a stay at home parent, lost family members, but through it all we have stuck by each other and helped each other through whatever we may be experiencing at the time.

  • Feeling Beautiful After Hate

    Have you ever had something happen to make you feel lesser? Many things can lead to this: rape, an abusive relationship, or even just a friend who likes to put you down. Feeling beautiful after that can be a long hard road; it was for me.

  • In Praise of Lingerie

    It seems for most men that what they want most is to see a woman fully nude and ready to do all sorts of unspeakable to them. I'm a bit different. I want a woman to do those unspeakable things to me and with me, but I want her wearing something more than her birthday suit.

  • Forget “All Men Are Potential Rapists.” How about “Child Molesters?”

    Qantas, consistent with many airlines, has a standing policy to move any male passengers to prevent them sitting next to unaccompanied minors. But what message does this send?

  • There’s Nothing Plain About Vanilla

    The first time I heard sex described as vanilla, condemnation dripping from the tongue, I might have felt my private life was wanting were it not for my sense of play. My inner child has always loved vanilla, especially the rich, creamy French version. Mystifyingly delicious in every food or beverage and heady as a scent, there was nothing plain about it.

  • Guide to Sex Toys for Men

    This is a really basic article covering how to get started using male masturbators. It's all based off personal experience however I feel it will be accurate information for all.

  • Anal For Beginners

    Feel like experimenting with anal, but not exactly sure where to start? It's not as complicated as it may seem, check it out!

  • An Understanding and Introduction to Porn

    Porn is very hit-or-miss for a lot of people. If you'd like to find out some ways you could engage in it more (and like reading rants), read on!

  • No Porn for Minors

    A point of view of one who remembers "breaking the rules" to look up pornography, and the negative side this presents.

  • Eden Lit Club

    The Eden Lit Club is cleaning out and redecorating its clubhouse! It's an exciting time for the club as we are changing, rearranging and redefining who and what we are.

  • My story about my first love affair.

    Ever fall in love with both a female and a male? Well Julissa did and now she doesn't know what to do.

  • Own Your Body—All of It

    These days, a great number of people will probably say it takes a huge fool of a man to tell women what to do with their bodies. Ladies, I'm going to be just that kind of fool right now.

  • 50 Shades of a Cam Whore in love with a Vampire?!?!?

    Warning : This is more of a rant opposed to a stimulating article!

  • Community Commentary: Wait...there are still "The Rules"?

    Love, relationships and romance can be difficult and confusing enough, but take a trip to your local bookstore and you might wind up even more topsy-turvy than when you entered.

  • Define This: Burlesque

    It is a common misconception that Burlesque performance is the same as stripping or exotic dancing. While they have many similar elements, they are not the same thing.

  • Stay Cool, Man

    Who doesn’t love summer? When you were a kid you got out of school and had nothing to worry about except when the pool opened and whether or not the girl down the street thought you were cute. Now that we’re adults there are a few more things on your mind during the day, but summer is still awesome.

  • Embracing Kink

    How do you find a partner who's into kinky sex? You may already have the answer!

  • It's Getting Harder to Tell the Girls from the Women...

    The shorts are getting shorter, the tops getting lower. Boobs and butts are rounder and bigger. Heels and mascara and lip gloss abound. Nope, not talking about your girlfriend's girlfriend. I'm talking about the pre-teen next door!

  • How Not to Win Friends and Influence People. Or Get a Date Via the Internet.

    Everyone's had them: rude, ignorant, or downright offensive emails. Usually, I just ignore them. This time, I got mad.

  • And They Called Me Whore

    Waking up the next morning, grabbing my panties off of the floor and pulling my clothes together, I realized what had happened. I bow my head, make my way to my friends car, and silently wait for what I know is coming. Laughing, they tell me how wild I got last night, and then I disappeared.

  • The Game of Life: An unexpected teaching moment

    A new game night selection prompts an unexpected discussion about marriage equality and freedom of choice.

  • Exploring our Sexual Vocabulary: Today’s Word Starts with ‘C’

    The words we use to describe the things we do in bed can say a lot about us, and the society we live in. When we talk sex we usually are talking about something “dirty” or “nasty” or if it drips with raw animal desire, it might even be “filthy.” Why is that?

  • Cyber Sex Part Two

    Do your fingers freeze up at the keyboard trying to figure out what to say during cybersex? Can you think of anything besides mmmmmmmm....or oh yeah baby. Unable to find anything on the internet I have gathered some examples that I would like to share with you.

  • 'Fun'damentals of BDSM

    Topping and Domming, submitting and bottoming. All four terms are closely related in the BDSM world, but what on earth do they all mean, and what exactly is the difference? What is a Top? What is a Dominant? And what are sub- and Dom-space?

  • How To Have Amazing Sex

    I was fortunate enough to attend a course that was in part taught by leading sex therapist and sex researcher, Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz. One of the things she discussed was a study her and her fellow colleagues conducted to learn about what components tend to be involved in reaching “optimal” sexuality.

  • Food and Sex: Sexy, Yummy, Edible Stuff

    Food? In the bedroom? Really?

    Really. PuddlePuppy's here to tell you all about it.

  • To See Justice for the Raped, First they Must Be Seen.

    Despite rape's prevalence in society, the unwillingness to even discuss it has prevented major progress and left innocent people feeling helpless. Instead of waiting for the politicians to discover the willingness to address the prevalence of rape, it's time to stand up, be counted and demand change.

  • Why does Gender matter?

    A three part examination of Gender Identity in the 21st Century. Or as I like to think of it, I'm going to take your concept of normal and toss it out the window.

  • Why I Hate the Term BBW

    For me, the term BBW is offensive and I'd rather it not be used. There are better ways to talk about ourselves!

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl : It's all in the Attitude.

    Whether we are talking about Mothers, Cam Whores, or sexual fetishes; it all comes down to attitude. And as much as people believe, attitude is everything. I am here to tell you, you are full of shit. Attitude means nothing if you can't back it up with the rest of you.

  • Sexy dysfunctions that can destroy your life: Part One -- Sexsomnia

    Sexual conditions that sound sexy but could destroy your life.

  • Equality in Competition: Should We End “Male” and “Female” Categories in Sports?

    Last week, one female Olympic athlete outperformed the men – so perhaps it’s time to ask the ultimate sex-positive sporting question: If we seek a world in which men and women are treated equally, why do we still segregate their sporting competitions?

  • When Those Boots Come On: Part Two

    So far this has been one of the most enlightening summers of my life. Not only have I spent more time exploring myself as the Domme I am, but my life has literally changed drastically in the last few months. I went on vacation to spend time with my friends. However, that vacation left me with more than I could ever imagine. I've learned who I am. I have grown spiritually and I have become the proud Mistress of one of the most exquisite slaves I have ever seen.

  • Erotica in The Mainstream (Or how "50 Shades of Grey" Has Helped Loosen Us Up)

    "50 Shades of Grey" is everywhere. No matter what you think of the writing, the books have brought erotica out from the shadows in the publishing world. With the way erotica is being viewed currently and the advent of E-readers, there has never been a better time to love erotica.

  • From Another Perspective

    Living through sexual abuse is extremely difficult, but what if you're not abused in the way others would think? What happens if that person lives with you and is close to you?

  • My First Days as a Dom

    I thought I would be rough and tough. But instead, I ended up being a weepy mess, afraid that I was breaking my husband.

  • Sexis Subjective: My Body, Not Myself.

    In a effort to not offend, are we making it acceptable to live with an unhealthy lifestyle?

  • BDSM Training Schools Online

    School is in session for Dominants and Submissives alike with several online institutions to choose from offering everything from the basics of BDSM to the intricacies of specific fetishes, relationships and even legal matters.

  • Playing with (Human) Dolls - Dollification

    "Will you let me dress you up and play with you?" she asked. It was a question that no one had ever asked me before, but which started my exploration into the world of human dolls, a fetish known as "dollification." Playing with dolls isn't just Ken and Barbie anymore.

  • Blossoming Through EdenFantasys.

    My experience with EdenFantasys has boosted my confidence in many areas of my life and has helped me blossom as an individual.

  • Playing with Fire

    Submissives are just as culpable when it comes to repairing a dynamic after a scene doesn't work right. By relinquishing that responsibility one denies their own power as a person and adult.

  • Everybody Kinks

    Whether you like it bent over the bed and spanked or missionary with the lights out, everyone has something that gets them going. Just remember, at the end of the day we are all doing it to get off.

  • SexIs Subjective: Fit is the New...

    How someone looks is a big deal in society. Different phrases and trends in body perception can play a large role in someone's life. Why one phrase is finally getting it right.

  • A Chicken Sandwich Vs. Marriage

    I'm sure you've heard about the recent furor over the comments made by the president of Chick-Fil-A regarding gay marriage. I think his comments may be wrong, but it's not going to stop me from enjoying their chicken sandwiches.

  • The First Time

    No one's first time is what everyone imagines it will be. We as a society put so much emphasis on the first time that it is nearly impossible to meet the expectations that accompany your first sexual experience.

  • A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Mood Based Pricing

    How can I tell you who I am in the cam world, if you don't know who I am for real. I want to show you everything involved in being a Cam Girl. And by everything, I mean who I am, what I do, and who (and what) I deal with. So from now on, I am going to be doing 3 part articles. I hope you enjoy!

  • On Collars & Closure & Why Submission Is Not a Gift

    I don’t mind tropes. Sometimes, phrases that are often used are that way because they withstand the test of time. I don’t even have to finish the following sentences and you know the balance…

  • Beyond the Bedroom: The Submissive Lifestyle

    Many have toyed with the idea of becoming a submissive, but have put it off because the general stereotype of a submissive is taking as much pain as your master can deal. Dominant and submissive relationships can, and do, go beyond the bedroom.

  • Kid games for adult purposes

    There are plenty of games generally played by kids that have been adapted to adult games. I discuss a few games like this, give one I started using and wonder what would have to be done to others to make them work as adult only games.

  • Going From Prude To Edenite

    This is my story of how I changed from a Southern-raised Catholic-Baptist prude to a sex toy loving mature woman, mostly thanks to Edenfantasys.

  • You wanna do what?!?

    Years ago, before I was serious about anything in my life, I was involved in a relationship that was purely focused on carnal needs. We certainly didn't imply catching a movie when we said, “Hey, you wanna hang out tonight?” The agenda was sex. What's funny to me isthat it isn't the sex that I remember. It's something so insanely simple he said so long ago that dug in and made a home in my mind.

  • The Making of a Kinkster

    I remember walking into the local toy store when I was freshly 18. I was with a couple of my friends, and we were giggling the whole time. We were there to buy a gag gift for a friend.

  • Confessions of a Stripper

    When you see her on the stage, she appears to be a sexual animal. She is the nameless face that you desire to make all your dreams come true. She knows how it is done and you are ready for her to teach you. Or can she? Do the girls who make their living by teasing men, making them believe they have all the sexual answers, really know what they like in the bed?

  • How to Come Into Yourself

    I discovered EdenFantasys just about a year ago. I was reading a blog that I follow and someone had posted a link to where they purchased their latest sex toy. I clicked on the link, and I won’t say that my life was transformed from that moment on, but my sex life has definitely never been the same. Between the selection of toys, the ways I interact in the community and the writing that I do here on SexIs I’ve been able to really come into my own sexually.

  • Guys, Gays, and Dildos (Not as gay as it sounds)

    For about as long as sex toys have existed, there's always been the assumption (by the ignorant majority) that straight guys can't own a toy, specifically a dildo. If you're in the mood to read a rant, read on!

  • A brief history and cultural lessons of sex in China... a Woman's point of view

    Ever wonder what how the "traditional" Chinese woman views sex? Ever wonder what her family and friends and school, and society and government view sexuality from a woman's point of view? Well, now's your chance. And outsiders view looking into the world of traditional China.

  • The 5 Hallmarks of Feminist Porn

    For decades, pornography has been the domain of men - it was made by and for horny guys, with no regard for what women might like and what might be upsetting to them. But in recent years, there has been a surge of new feminist porn, created by female pornographers for women's enjoyment. It's a very diverse genre, but there are some defining features that most feminist porn films possess.

  • Cyber Me Sexy

    Where, how, and why would you want to have cybersex? Where do you find someone with similar needs and what should you expect?

  • A follow up on Summer Skin

    Skin protection is important throughout the year but especially in the summer. Are you doing it right? Have you taken all the precautions? How do you know if you're doing it right?

  • SexIs Subjective: When Words Are Not Enough

    When I first read the suggested topic for this month, I thought that I wouldn't have anything to say about the subject. The slogans and phrases mentioned do not really apply to me. However, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that although the phrases did not exactly apply to me, they did make me feel something.

    They made me feel angry.

  • Feeling Off Balance

    As we women grow older we face certain milestones: Childhood, Menarche, Motherhood, Menopause, Cronehood. Sometimes we have the luxury of just waiting and watching it all happen and sometimes we have to take matters into our own hands. There is often a feeling of excitement about the change in our lives and sometimes there is a touch of sadness about moving on.

  • A Paranoid Geek's Guide to Sneaky Sex Toy Ordering

    Do you secretly lust after sex toys, but fear ordering any lest your parents discover your secret and kick you out of their basement to fend for yourself in the cruel, cruel world? Fear not, for there are plenty of clever ways to sneak sex toys into your geek cave and hide them once they've arrived. Read on.

  • The Rules of Safety: D/s Relationships

    Recently BDSM has been ushered into the mainstream. Let's take a look at the basic rules you should know about before engaging in play.

  • The Plastic Vagina

    Vaginal cosmetic surgery is on the rise in both the US and the UK. Why? What is so wrong with a woman's vagina that she needs to go under the knife to change it? What is normal?

  • Loving the Broken: Three Women Coping with Marriage to a Military Man with PTSD

    What would you do if the man you loved was taken away from you? For many military wives, post-traumatic stress disorder can effectively steal away a beloved husband.

  • SexIs Subjective: It'd Be Easier To Love Our Bodies If It Weren't For Other People.

    Everyone wants to love their body, it's just that everyone has a different method. Some accept their body as is, rejecting society's perception of beauty. Others work tirelessly to conform, and still more find a different path. What nearly everyone is saying, through all their work, is that people should stop judging based solely on appearance.

  • I'm Not Fat! I'm P.H.A.T! (Pancreas Hurts All the Time!)

    People come up with all sorts of slogans to make themselves feel accepted within our chaotic society. Does any of this have any negative effects on a bed-ridden 24-year old woman? Hell no it doesn't!

  • Good Pain versus Bad Pain: BDSM and Chronic Pain

    So, should I start with BDSM or my chronic pain? They are both so intertwined into my being that I don't know how to unknot them from each other.

  • The Relationship Between Sexual Desire and Romantic Love

    Sexual desire and romantic love have often been mistaken for two separate, opposing entities. While reading articles written by great philosophers such as Sartre, Blackburn, and Fromm, I noticed that they all use the two terms as if their meanings were like day and night. This article will explore the interconnecting relationship between desire and love, and consider the fact that Fromm’s writings may not be as accurate as his readers may have presumed.

  • Makeup-Breakup-Repeat: Facebook Style

    We all know at least one couple that sticks to the pattern of breaking up, making up, and repeating. Heck, I’ve even had a relationship (or two) in the past that followed this pattern. It was pretty ridiculous and pointless. Now that we’ve got social media websites like Facebook, it seems that these couples are making their personal dramas public for all to see. Seriously, I’m like, “what the eff?”

  • “Nanny Bloomberg”, Mayor of New York City, Launches Controversial Breastfeeding Initiative

    Mayor Bloomberg, who recently earned the nickname “Nanny Bloomberg” after banning large sodas and trans fats from New York City, has now turned his overprotective eye towards the unlikeliest of targets – brand new mothers.

  • Keeping it Fresh in a Long-Distance Relationship

    As the summer nights grow hotter, many people bristle at the added body heat of their partner, but for many college students, among other people, it’s the absence of their heat that stings far worse. This is the season for long distance relationships, as couples leave college and return to their respective homes for the summer. Months apart can be daunting. To survive this time apart there are many “Dos and Don’ts” each person should consider.

  • The Giving Pirates

    A few months back, while on a road trip with a very dear friend, we started to talk about starting up a pirate performance troupe. It was an excuse to dress up, do some fun shows and...well, be entertaining pirates.

  • SexIs Subjective: It's YOUR Body.

    Controversial movements like ‘fat acceptance’ or ‘pro-ana’ leave me feeling confused. How can they ask for acceptance of their bodies while at the same time bringing others down because of theirs?

  • You're Into WHAT?!

    Foot fetishes, golden showers, rimming, pony play, slave and master, role playing, faeces play, whipping, spanking, pegging, needle play, asphyxiation, and oh so much more! You don't have to practice or even like the idea of these activities but many people thoroughly enjoy them. Just because they may seem different doesn't make them wrong.

  • Sexual Freedom's Fifty Shades Of Grey

    What defines ethical sex? Consent and age are the usual definitions, but what happens when dangerous sex gets dangerous, but consent seems clear? That's where questions get tough and answers become murky.

  • Is Porn Cheating? And Who Gets to Decide?

    There’s this idea going around sex-positive circles that watching porn isn’t cheating. Someone, usually a woman, will say she’s uncomfortable with her boyfriend’s porn consumption, and feels that he is cheating on her. And she gets smacked down, told in every reply that she needs to get over her insecurities and let her man be a man.

  • That 8-Year-Old should NOT be wearing those Daisy Dukes!

    Now, I’m not a parent, but this needs some correction! I was walking in the mall the other day and I saw a little girl, no more than 8 years old, in some daisy dukes.

  • Dare to Be Seduced by Your Senses

    That we are universally skin-hungry and primal in our basic urges bears out in our private conversations, our media obsessions with other people’s sex lives, our ferocious reading of erotic, how-to sex books, even the collective gasp at Fifty Shades of Grey. Harlequin-esque BDSM may be the gateway drug to fetishized sex in vanilla bedrooms. It could be the wake up call that women’s erotica is a literary genre worth taking a private peek at, or it could be a sign of the times.

  • The Jealousy Demon

    We've all heard advice that sounds good on the surface. But if your partner really doesn't like something you do for yourself, like masturbation, is it vital to the marriage that you respect his/her comfort level and sacrifice the behavior for the benefit of your marriage? Does this really help your partner? Or could it be that this sort of self denial actually causes more problems in the long run?

  • 5 Ways to Control a Man

    So you've heard the phrase "It's a man's world." While this may seem true to some women, it's not to me and I'm here to show you why. You have the power. Don't be afraid to use it.

  • Am I a Freak? (A Formal Introduction)

    Nobody can tell you better if your turn-ons make you a freak, than the expert on taboo... Tessa Taboo.

  • So, You Read ‘Fifty Shades’, and Now You Want to be a Sub…

    Yes, I get it. You read all three of the ‘Fifty Shades’ books in one weekend, you’ve looked up some stuff on the Internet about BDSM, and now, you’re DYING to be a sub, right? You even typed up a contract just like the one in the book, went and bought a pair of handcuffs, and put a wanted ad in the craigslist personals looking for a Dom. Right?

  • When Those Boots Come On

    The world of the Dom/Domme/sub is a very intriguing world, whether you are into the lifestyle, or simply curious about it. It is a completely different world from the one that we live in, or the vanilla world that most accept. So, through this article, come with me on my journey into the BDSM world, and peer into the life that I've begun.

  • A day in the life of a Cam Girl: Welcome to my world!

    Hello, My name is Lillie. How can I serve your credit card today?

  • Respect for the Small Soldier

    I am asking you today to give a respectful salute to a soldier who has gone on many a mission, sometimes grueling and even dangerous ones, to bring pleasure to couples, threesomes and moresomes in whatever rooms we may choose to rut and copulate. He’s lean and helmeted, often with a functional but flimsy hood over his helmet, but he has a tough job sometimes. Also, he makes mistakes. But let us treat him with dignity, and allow me to help you understand him a bit better.

  • From Raped And Repressed, To Rabbit Aficionado: A Tale Of Redemption Through EdenFantasys.

    It took me twelve years to mentally and emotionally recover my sexual health after being raped the first time I had sex. It took another six years for me to find a trustworthy man with whom I could explore my newfound sexuality. And the healing all started with an ad in the back of Cosmopolitan magazine and a vibrator from EdenFantasys.

  • My Transformation Into A Super Soaker

    EdenFantasys has done many things for all of us. Most of us can agree that Eden has improved our sexual well being. This is my story!

  • Gold Lipstick at the End of the Rainbow

    10:04 a.m. (approximately), Saturday, June 16, 2012. I’d rather be at home doing my usual freelance editing, but as a ridadie chick, I’ve solemnly sworn to accompany hubby to his remodeling job and fire-tape a garage ceiling. It’s early, the temperature is already in the ‘80s, and I feel like a complete slob in hubby’s paint-covered work shorts and a shredded-to-hell old St. Patrick’s Day tank top. As we pass the complex that was once the town brewery, I read the marquis…

  • It's Okay to Shout, But if You Want to Whisper That's Okay Too

    Coming out doesn't have to be huge. It's different for each person.

  • Sex and The World

    Are you fooling you self by thinking you're a different person behind closed doors?

  • Broken Education

    Did you know that the government has spent 1.5 billion per year, estimated, on abstinence only programs in public schools, only to leave us with the highest teen birthrate in the entire industrialized world? Now consider that teen pregnancy costs taxpayers about 9 billion dollars a year. Are we trying to throw money away? Why do we have such a hard time talking about sex and sexuality with our kids?

  • Domestic Discipline vs. Spanking Fetish: One for each Cheek

    "Do you need a spanking, young lady?" he would ask me in a firm warning tone. "No sir." Yes.

  • Pinks and Blues. Colors are Colors.

    Makeup, Videogames, Nail Polish, Cookbook, Cologne. I bet you know which sex each of these items belong with.

  • Four Historical Figures Worthy of a Modern Day Sex Scandal

    What do Benjamin Franklin, Jean-Jacques Rousseau, Elvis Presley and Albert Enstien have in common? They all had their own less than conventional sexual preferences and you won't find it in most history books.

  • Fearlessly Optimistic about Sensual Kink

    The Lights are low, the music is playing in the background. The massage oils are warm, and your partner is waiting.

  • Are Rape Jokes Ever Funny?

    Comedian Daniel Tosh us under fire for joking that a heckler should be gang-raped. Now that rape jokes are in the spot-light, perhaps it’s time to ask if they’re ever something to laugh about.

  • Menstrual Sex: It's Not Just For Vampires

    Many people are terrified of having sex when they or their partner are menstruating, but it's really not that big a deal! There are plenty of ways to have mess-free sex while one partner is bleeding, even if you get squicky around blood. As long as you have the right equipment and attitude, it shouldn't be a problem.

  • Finding Myself

    I joined EdenFantasys at the age of 19, which was 5 years ago. I decided to join the review program on my search for sexual enjoyment and knowledge. Having tried a wide variety of toys, I finally have come to a place where I feel confident in myself and my ability to please myself and my partner.

  • Fear Factors

    I do a great deal of speaking. On stage, as an actor. In front of crowds, as a storyteller. In the classroom, as a BDSM educator. All over the USA, in Europe, Canada, wherever. Much of what I share is intensely personal, and I often receive comments from folks who have been gracious enough to listen to me nattering on or watch me do my thing about how they wish they could be as brave as I am.

  • Beginner BDSM on a Budget

    Have you ever wanted to try out BDSM without spending tons of money on supplies you don't know you want? Whether you're crafty or not I have compiled a simple list of DIY tools that everyone should try at least once!

  • Exploring Vibrator Use

    According to studies, just over half of women and about 1/3 of men have at least some experience using vibrators during sexual play. Up to 35% of women usually don’t reach orgasm during masturbation, and up to 70% of women cannot orgasm from penetrative intercourse alone. However, we know that clitoral stimulation is the key for most women being able to achieve orgasm.

  • EdenCommunity: Home Away From Home

    When first looking into sex toys and sexual health, there's a big, vast world out there. Tons of websites host these products, but none held the sense of security and safety that I found within EdenFantasys. Not only did they welcome me in and make sex toys and sexual health seem harmless and inviting, but they also opened up the door for discussion with other users on the site making me feel more comfortable with my purchases.

  • Top Ten Things We Don’t Need

    A friend of mine sent me a picture of a piano she saw and I was all “Nice piano,” until I looked a little closer and realized it was a VAGINA PIANO.

  • Just What the Marriage Counselor Ordered

    This month, our parent company EdenFantasys is celebrating 10 sexy years of business! To honor the anniversary, we asked the EdenFantasys Community to tell us what being a member of our community has done for them. This is what SexyStuff had to say.

  • “Supportive” Only Begins to Describe It

    This month, our parent company EdenFantasys is celebrating 10 sexy years of business! To honor the anniversary, we asked the EdenFantasys Community to tell us what being a member of our community has done for them. This is what LadyDarknezz had to say.

  • Letter from the Editor: Introducing SexIs Social!

    We've been talking about major changes since March. You've waited so patiently. We're ready now. Are you?

  • What Makes A Girl Feel Sexy? (“?” Being the Operative Punctuation)

    The sofa was pleather. And so were the girls.

  • Summer Pleasure: Is “Fat Acceptance” Just As Dangerous as “Thinspiration”?

    “Thinspiration” – images meant to inspire anorexics in their pursuit of skinniness – are no doubt dangerous. But is the pursuit of “acceptance” for being dangerously overweight any better?

  • If Star Wars was remade, ala 50 Shades of Grey

    Yesterday, I was watching Star Wars for the 8,000th time and I realized that with a little creative trimming and some strong imagination, Star Wars could make some pretty great erotica. Better than 50 Shades of Grey, at least.

  • ISTA Conference of Sexuality & Consciousness: Exploring the Wild & Sacred

    Seminars on sex as healing, as transcendent joy, as an act of magic, as a way of communing intimately with the Earth, in film, therapy and pleasured practice highlighted the recent 11th annual Conference of Sexuality and Consciousness, presented by the International School of Temple Arts and held in the New Age colony of Sedona and in Camp Verde, AZ.

  • #SexFeed - Jerry Sandusky’s Accusers Forced to Reveal Their Names

    On Monday, opening arguments in the trial of former Penn State assistant football coach Jerry Sandusky began – and one of Judge John Cleland’s more controversial rulings in the case was the order that accusers use their real names during testimony.

  • How They Touch Me

    I remember holding my boyfriend’s hand in high school. There were ways our fingers fit, over and under, woven together, that felt right, and other ways that just felt…weird.

  • Are student loans killing the traditional family?

    National student loan debt has surpassed $1 trillion, topping credit card debt for the first time and has prompted new calls for a student debt bailout. At the same time, marriage and birthrates are falling, while the average age people tie the knot is inching ever upward.

  • Porn Typos

    It’s important to use proper grammar and punctuation even in pornography. I’ve created some examples to show you why:

  • Six Steps to Freedom

    Getting over a master is never easy. One must first decide they’re ready to move on, and then set their mind and mood for catharsis and deprogramming. Yes, we said deprogramming. Read on to understand why.

  • Calling All Drag Kings!

    With all of this drag queen love emanating from gay and straight circles, you have to wonder: Why aren’t drag kings being embraced with equal excitement?

  • Sex Positive Stalemate: Is our activism setting the mood for failure?

    When it comes to introducing sex positive ideas and concepts to mainstream America, are we “setting the mood” for a failure of communication?

  • #SexFeed - President Obama Endorses Same-Sex Marriage – but is it too little, too late?

    Some seem to think so.

  • #SexFeed: Japan’s Gay Pride March Attracts Thousands

    Activists are hopeful numbers will reach heights of more well-known parades within five years.

  • The Bloggess takes on Cosmo. Everyone loses.

    Sometimes when I can’t think of a good topic to write about for my sex column I just turn to Cosmo, the holy grail of sex talk. I choose a headline at random and I try to write the article based on my personal knowledge without peeking at the answers.

  • Things That Make People Feel Sexy

    This month the writers of SexIs are focusing on the things that make people feel ready for sex. I decided to just focus on the difference between men and women using a purely stereotypical but strangely realistic algorithm ... made up entirely by me.

  • 3rd Anniversary: Mind and Body

    In honor of our third anniversary, we thought we’d dredge up some of our awesome past. We’ve got so many posts in our archive that meant so much to us – and we hope to you! – and shouldn’t be forgotten. So over the next couple weeks, we’ll be sharing some excerpts with you.

  • Sliding Backwards

    How have we slipped so far so fast, with perhaps more backsliding to come? On the face of it, that doesn't make sense, even with so many cranky and fascist old white guys in leadership positions in the local, state and federal government despite men being only half the population.

  • Presidents’ Day Protest Teaches Lawmakers a Lesson in Fact-Checking

    All eyes are on Virginia as their government decides whether or not to state-sanction rape.

  • Totally (In)Appropriate Valentines for Your Valentine

    In order to prepare for Valentine’s The Bloggess shares with us some of the worst and most awesome cards you can give out. Feel free to print and use on people you’d like to never see again or who have very good senses of humor.

  • The Suspension Accident: It Finally Happened...

    Kinksters talk quite a bit about the inherent risk of bondage and other kinky play. They learn the proper procedure, to mitigate that risk — but rarely do you hear about the stark reality that no matter what precautions you take or how safe you play, people can still get hurt.

  • Why Being Thin is not a Privilege

    Certainly being overweight can make life more difficult for some individuals, but declaring the state of being thin as a privilege is inappropriate and dismisses the efforts of many people who work to achieve a healthy weight.

  • Hawaii and Delaware to Ring in the New Year with Same-Sex Unions

    Way to start it off right!

  • Snooping on Your Partner Can Make You Fat

    However, we suspect that behaving in a snoop-worthy fashion isn't good for you, either.

  • For the love of God. Let my vagina sleep.

  • Will Work for Love: Lawyer Fights for Right to Date Clients

    Conflict of interest? What conflict of interest?

  • Is There Such A Thing As Female Privilege?

    In the sex positive talk space we hear a lot about “male privilege” but rarely — if ever — discuss what privileges women have that men don’t.

  • The Top Five Most Fascinating Things About Jersey Shore – Week Twelve

    We made it! After twelve episodes of fighting, literal head-banging, drinking and cooka-baring, the fourth season of Jersey Shore has come to a close, which means the show’s cast members can finally, FINALLY escape from the cesspool of Florence, Italy, back to the bastion of culture and sophistication that is Seaside Heights, New Jersey.

  • Domestic Violence Law REPEALED in Topeka, Kansas

    Budget cuts, political gamesmanship blamed. Meanwhile, prosecutions stop.

  • A Boob By Any Other Name...

    Occasionally twitter writes my posts for me. Today was one of those days.

  • SexBeat: Has Lady Gaga Made Drag Kings Mainstream?

    The Queen of Pop became the King of Drag on stage (and off) at the recent MTV's VMA 2011, performing as her alter ego, Jo Calderone, and opened up the world of drag kings for a peek from millions of mainstream Americans. Has she done for women in drag what RuPaul did for men in dresses?

  • Butt Crack Pants are a Gold Mine for Albany, Georgia

    Pull 'em up, it's the law. Oops, too late!

  • It’s Like A Christmas Story. But With Vaginas.

    You know when you get a popsicle right out of the freezer and it’s so cold that it sticks to your lip and you panic for a second because it’s so stuck to your mouth that you’re afraid it’s going to rip the skin off?

  • Sex Positivity and Parenting: Should Moms Still be Sexy?

    Parents can be sexual, but there are limits.

  • Former Brit Lawmaker Advocates Porn Regulation

    She claims requiring viewers to pay would help adult industry.

  • Court Strikes Down New Texas Anti-Abortion Law

    Women's rights groups call ruling a huge victory, and it is.

  • BDSM’s Dirty Secret – The Real Risk of Kinky Sex

    As kinky folks, most of us have heard of the risks associated with certain activities we like: rope cuts off circulation, bruises invite suspicion and speculation, infected wounds or bites just plain suck and breath play can flat out be deadly... but there's more.

  • New Jersey Governor Would Veto Same-Sex Marriage Law

    Christie sticks with the one man, one woman thing.

  • Cosmetic Vagina Surgery. What the Fuck, Y’all?

    A friend of mine emailed me a link to an article discussing vagina cosmetic surgery. And by “friend” I mean “someone who wants me to forever be self-conscious of my lady garden.”

  • Skechers Markets Butt-Toning Shoe to Little Girls

    We trust moms to run away from this ad campaign.

  • Devil's Advocate: Birth Certificates and Transgender

    Should Transgender People be Able to Change the Sex on Their Birth Certificates?

    Recently, SexIs featured a story about three transgender people in New York City suing to have the sex on their birth certificates changed — normally forbidden unless they’ve had reconstructive surgery.

  • FCC You! —Language Restrictions on Sitcoms Lighten Up

    Recent court decisions and a relaxation of what's acceptable in American Culture has led to fewer restrictions on what we see on network TV. Polls say Americans want the FCC to more strictly control sex and violence on TV, but ratings show few are changing the channel to avoid racy or violent content.

  • New Jersey ‘Sexting’ Law Advances

    Teens caught sending racy photos would no longer be considered child pornographers.

  • The Wardrobe of Spring

    It is a balmy fifty degrees in New York City today, finally, and after that rain last weekend there’s barely any snow on the ground anymore. Even the dense piles turned nearly to ice are finally sublimating, skipping the state of water and evaporating in what looks like wisps of steam into the air.

  • American Airlines Fires Veteran, 82, for Using Homosexual Slur

    This time, we're thinking maybe it's the airline that's out of line.

  • “Don’t Say Gay” Law Proposed in Tennessee

    Legislation would ban teaching about any sexuality but heterosexuality, K-8.

  • Gay actors risk all by coming out, says Richard Chamberlain

    Star says culture is homophobic and misguided.

  • The Center For Sex And Culture Is Looking For A Home…Again

    Landmark San Francisco organization faces challenges due to its hands-on nature and pansexual audience.

  • SexIs at NY Fashion Week 2010

    Day One: Ellen, Bondage and Animal Magnetism

  • Eat Your Heart Out: The Sexualization of Food and Food Culture

    They say you never forget your first: That initial surge of blood as your heart begins to hammer, those small moans of pleasure, your mouth actually watering as your lips embrace the object of your desire.

  • Eating Out in Tokyo

    Exploring the Intersections of Food, Sex, and Culture in the Land of the Rising Sun

  • I Got Fired for Writing About Sex

  • Honestly, I’m surprised *more* people don’t try to distance themselves from me.

  • Sex & Culture & The Pill

    Today, women take contraception for granted. Many even consider having to take a daily dose a chore. In response, a proliferation of once-monthly, and even once-quarterly forms of birth control have flooded the marketplace … but it wasn’t so long ago that sex minus fertility wasn’t an option—even if you were married. How the introduction of one little pill changed the modern world.

  • Leather: The Ultimate Masculine Fashion Statement

    Leather has a well-established niche in gay history. A look at the macho pioneers—from military men to bikers and artists—who shaped leather culture as we know it today.

  • Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: The Myth of New York

    If New York City was on Facebook, our relationship status would say “It’s Complicated.” I love her, I do; I have idolized her since I was a kid, watching all my favorite cheesy eighties movies like Big Business, The Secret of My Success, and Big, over and over again. Our culture mythologizes her, paints her as the place to be, so full of potential. She might even be The One.

  • The 7 Year Itch: A Look Back at Secretary

    “The sweetest romantic comedy about S&M since, well...ever,” says Blackbook of the then-quirky, now-seminal film Secretary. Was it a massive step toward the mainstreaming of kinky culture or a lopsided portrayal that did more harm than good? Seven years later, people’s opinions remain sharply divided.

  • That Was Then, This is Now

    Every era has had its rules for acceptable standards for clothing, communications, relationships, etc. There were also consequences for stepping outside that behavior. Here’s a look at quid pro quo—then and now—highlighting different eras in history to trace the trajectory of passion, fashion and culture.

  • Seminal Styles of the 20th Century: Designers, Divas and Fashion Firsts That Shook the World--Part One: From the Gilded Age to the Flapper

    Does sex influence fashion, or does fashion influence sex?

  • Paparazzi, Pop Culture, Sex, & A Modest Proposal

    How do we perceive sex through the sometimes-jaundiced lens of the media? How does something like TMZ affect our perception of sex?

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